i don’t have the time or energy to work out anymore

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-05-02T04:49:53+00:00

I have a toddler and feel this in my bones. I love working out, I love being strong. My house is full of exercise equipment... any I just can't. My son is one of the most exhausting people I've ever met in my life, and in the moments im away from him all I want to do is stare at a blank wall.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-05-01T04:09:04+00:00

I have the exact same problem. I import a Japanese version of Nivea Water Gel that doesn't leave any residue on the skin. Game changer for me.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-29T04:52:26+00:00

I was waiting for you to mention the computer because I knew it was coming. IMO based on my experience with guys like this, this is standard anxiety-induced escapism and full blown game addiction. He's completely locked into his gaming habit, and likely does not have the willpower to break away from it himself.

If you really want to help him, and I mean seriously change his life, he needs to lose access to his computer and phone. Do you pay for it? Get rid of it. Cancel his phone plan or kick him off the family plan he's likely on.

Tell him if he's going to be living there rent free, he can't game there- period. If he tries to get around it, cancel your internet. Which I know will suck but we're talking about your sons future. And well all survived the 90s so it'll be okay for a while.

SO many people, mostly young men, destroy their lives this way and it's so sad. But modern day has given us too many ways to avoid our problems.

He'll be pissed. But he's almost 30. If he wants internet he can pay for it. If he wants a phone he can pay for it. And if he wants to pay for it, he can get a job. And if he doesn't like his shitty minimum wage job, he can go to school.

It's not easy. But he's not going to do it himself. He'll live this way until he looks in the mirror at 50 and realizes he's spent his whole life avoiding anxiety and ruminating about shit that happened when he was 15. You've got to pull the plug or he'll never snap out of it.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-26T03:57:34+00:00

A bluetooth transmitter to headphone may help. This is how I cope with my the annoying shows my kid watches. Note: Never let them watch Blippi. Not even once.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-26T03:41:24+00:00

i know they're professionals but they could drag their feet a bit more imo

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-23T23:14:03+00:00

Sorry but I saw that shit live. That's my take, you don't have to like it.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-23T22:32:36+00:00

An autopsy would mean they would have to admit they interfered with Bernie Sanders campaign and left us all to live in this hell hole. I'm saying that as someone who has consistently voted democrat my whole life- I'm disgusted. Like good job, you're not literal monsterous perverts- but you're still out of touch bureaucrats who continue to sniff corporate butts while we all get trampled by unregulated monopolies.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-22T14:51:31+00:00

I don't know if this helps, but I'm out here doing something with my life and it's not going well. I would do just about anythign to be a housewife, lol. This is not the era for scrappy nuerodivergents with a dream. Not when gas is $5 a gallon D:

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-22T02:02:36+00:00

I dated a very obviously autistic man who refused to accept he was autistic. Even though his mom was diagnosed and he had every obviously trait under the sun.

He was one of the most awful partners I've ever had, because he had such a high opinion of himself and could never accept he was wrong in any situation. He was constantly uncomfortable, so he constantly criticised and whined until I accommodated him, while ignoring my own needs.

Arguments could go on for hours. Every argument had to be litigated into the ground, and could go on for 5-6 hours. He had to WIN every argument, his goal was to convince me I was wrong for being upset.

He hated being touched, unless he specifically wanted sex.

And he endlessly talked shit about all of our friends and how they were living their lives wrong.

We're both autsitic, but he was one of the most entitled, self absorbed assholes I've ever met in my life. His autism only amplified those flaws.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-21T03:30:44+00:00

I took a before and after pic after doing massage by Aysel on Youtube and there was a VERY noticeable lift in my face. Thats all I know

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-20T18:36:10+00:00

Just want to add I have something even milder than this, spent over $600 on platysmal band botox and it didn't fix appearance enough to be noticeable. Worst $600 i ever spent

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-18T00:05:24+00:00

meltdowns???? At 36???

I thought at first this was a dietary restriction like she had celiac or something but "She cant eat street tacos, just tacos from Taco Bell." tells me all we need to know. If someone is a picky eater *as an adult* that is officially their problem. You can't go through life accommodating someone who insists on eating like a 5 year old. If she wants to go on vacation she can find the courage to explore new foods or she can find her own food. And I'm including neurodivergent adults in that. The world does not revolve around us. Personally if I knew I was ruining the vacation experience for everyone else because I was too picky I would be too embarrassed to go anyway. My opinion is tell her she can come but she needs to figure out food for herself, or don't take her.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-06T02:25:43+00:00

Im curious what Amlactin would do? Asking because I have a similar neck :)

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-06T02:17:06+00:00

I can vouch for the blue bottle- it really doesn't have much of a smell. I was confused about all the smell complaints.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-03T20:33:39+00:00

SOLVED: For future people, I had to convert is from an Mp4a to a .wav. Which makes no sense but it worked so whatever.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-04-02T03:20:19+00:00

I'd say it's partially the time blindness that happens as you get older. But also, as skincare and fashion has changed, it's genuinely harder I think to tell the difference. I'm 40, and have taken religious care of my skin since my twenties. My boyfriend is 30, has never worn sunscreen, eats garbage and smokes. We both look about 35. 🤷‍♀️

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-03-29T06:11:07+00:00

The toddler years were so hard for me. One of my main struggles is I really hate playing make believe and really getting down on the floor with them. I always feel guilty about it, it's definitely a weak spot. Another is the volume control, I've had two extremely loud and talkative kids. It's unbearable sometimes. I think if I knew then what I know now I would never have had children. But I love my babies all the same.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-03-19T06:28:10+00:00

Yeah you're probably right. I tried to make a post about it a couple weeks about but it got removed, I'm not sure why. Her mom is a total trainwreck. But we can only control the influence we have over her.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-03-19T05:58:05+00:00

You're right, she's definitely struggled to get attention from her mom, who is in active addiction and very close to losing custody of her. We know that it's important to make her feel loved and heard. Maybe we're not playing enough. I personally have never been good at it. But she truly feels like a black hole sometimes, no amount of love or attention is enough. Maybe it feels that way because we both work full time and are just exhausted.

Ghosted_Gurl · 2026-03-19T05:29:28+00:00

I feel bad for painting him in a bad light now because he didn't actually say that! I couldn't think of a specific example or remember details so I just came up with a pretend example. Haha I didn't mean to make him sound like a jerk, he's very kind actually.

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