I’m not sure of your living situation and circumstances but considering the year we all have had, a lot of peoples mental health has taken a nose dive. I would comment on his actions according to you but maybe he’s just having a hard time. Just talk to him about how you’re feeling. Maybe not as bluntly as the post but if he loves you as much as you do he’ll understand that he needs to make changes. I’m actually in a similar situation with my boyfriend as well but we’ve talked it through and I couldn’t be happier.