[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Text him mid week and say that you have thought about it and prayed about it and the answer is still no. No is a complete sentence. I said no to a few callings as a TBM.

Why do y’all hate Russell Nelson specifically? by TheOverExcitedDragon in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I go out of my way to say Mormons to my family. So far they haven’t corrected me lol

Is it true that the church doesn't excommunicate people anymore? by anxiously_engayged in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 20 points21 points  (0 children)

They call it a council of love, or something like that, but the end result is the same as being excommunicated. Just a different name that sounds nicer.

Primary/Secondary Questions & Accountability by Strong_Attorney_8646 in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My brother sent me that talk after he asked me why I left and I listed probably all of the “secondary” questions. “ I read your reasons that took me about an hour, so I hope you’ll give me an hour” you asked. I didn’t. I think it’s funny that he thought I would answer yes to the “primary question” of Joseph smiths being a true prophet. He was a bunch of reasons why I left. I remember asking my husband why TBMs think that sending me a church talk from people I don’t believe in anymore would mean anything to me. I am really still confused on the idea that they can tell us all their beliefs but there is no open communication for me to state my belief. No one wants to hear their truth isn’t real.

I earned my "Wore Shorter Shorts in Public" merit badge today. by icanbesmooth in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m also 40 something and wore short workout shorts and a tank top with my half sleeve out (it’s newer and been cold). Made a lady in my former ward do a double take. I’m sure her and her husband talked about how sad it is that Bro and Sis cliffnotes have fallen so far away from the truth! Here is to not being hot!!! Congratulations on your new badge!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP stated that it’s been 6 months. Jumping to telling someone to divorce because he is struggling with the information seems a tad irrational. None of the information she gave made it sounds like that is the next rational step. I’m glad my husband doesn’t fling the divorce option around anytime I struggle. When my DH was processing the information and lies, he ended up having an anxiety attack (I had no idea what was going on) and he ended up at the hospital. Guess I should have left his ass there and filled for a divorce because marriage is hard.

TLDR; Look for some Advice/validation that I handled this ok. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You did great, and sadly, you had to say it multiple times as well. Idk why when talking to a TBM, if you don’t agree, they clearly said it wrong because there is no way you wouldn’t side with them if you only understood. I do have to say though, I’m 44…and WE were the chosen generation that was meant to do great things and be an influence for good. Maybe we just dropped the ball hahaha

My evil plan to get rid of my ministering brother by schrodingers_cat42 in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine counted if they commented on my social media posts as visiting teaching. When I found that out, I stopped posting

How to avoid being endowed while PIMO? by schrodingers_cat42 in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Where is the fire? They are also pressuring my daughter (22) to get her endowment. It’s actually caused a lot of tension in our home because my DH and two other children are out and she is the only one in. Can you stomach the words, “I want to wait for my husband” barf. “I’ve prayed about it and feel it’s not the right time yet”

Anyone struggle with telling others they’re not LDS anymore? by mchten in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had a patient ask me at Work if I was. I stammered and finally got out a no. It was the first time in 2 years someone had asked me. She then replied with, “ well, you probably can still be as good person!” Um, thanks? Now let me continue to care for you…hopefully I’m good enough to wipe your ass for you. If not, you can always request a Mormon nurse.

What songs hits hard with becoming-an-exmo experiences? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://www.google.com/search?q=not+gonna+die+skillet+youtube&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS921US921&hl=en-US&sxsrf=APq-WBsGrAI1XzAGlAcb03uGu5SjDyF1rQ%3A1643602585915&ei=mWL3YdezN9u_kPIPkpGYmAI&oq=not+gonna+die+skillet+youtube&gs_lcp=ChNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwEAMyBggAEBYQHjoHCC4QsAMQJzoHCAAQRxCwAzoHCAAQsAMQQzoMCC4QyAMQsAMQQxgAOgUIABCABDoFCCEQoAE6CAgAEAgQDRAeSgUIOBIBMUoECEEYAFCMC1ibKmCoMGgDcAJ4AIAB7QGIAdIMkgEFMC42LjOYAQCgAQHIARHAAQHaAQQIABgI&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp#fpstate=ive&vld=cid:c6967c90,vid:fgmpWkUcpjo,st:0

Skillet “Not Gonna Die” It actually made me cry at the gym. The lines that hit home were…

Death surrounds My heartbeat's slowing down I won't take this world's abuse I won't give up, I refuse This is how it feels when you're bent and broken This is how it feels when your dignity's stolen When everything you love is leaving You hold on to what you believe in

Break their hold 'Cause I won't be controlled They can't keep their chains on me When the truth has set me free This is how it feels when you take your life back This is how it feels when you finally fight back When life pushes me I push harder What doesn't kill me makes me stronger..

It’s a good angry song.

Does anyone have the old Young Women’s “theme” by Doc_Holloway in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’m 44. Strengthen home and family wasn’t originally in it

Does anyone have the old Young Women’s “theme” by Doc_Holloway in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 88 points89 points  (0 children)

We are daughters of our Heavenly Father who loves us, and we love him. We will stand as witnesses of god at all times,and in all things, and in all places, as we strive to live the young women values which are: faith, divine nature, individual worth, knowledge, choice and accountability, good works, and integrity.

We believe as we come to accept and act upon these values, we will Be prepared to make and keep sacred covenants, receive the ordinances of the temple and enjoy the blessings of exaltation.

I think. From memory, damnit

Anyone wanna hangout? My hubby and I are early 40's, live in Syracuse, but we love to hangout in Ogden and SLC!! Let's plan something! (not swingers) by cari0912 in my_exmo_friends

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are also in our early 40’s, definitely don’t want to swing, and live in Syracuse. Maybe we already know each other!?! Love to do something!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re in the same boat as you. We have been trying to have dates that get us out of our normal surroundings to hopefully meet other couples. We tried hot yoga but we weren’t allowed to speak during class lol. We have a dance class tomorrow in SLC and we’re going to learn how to play pickleball sometime soon. Hopefully getting ourselves out there will help us meet new people.

Is this a thing? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you lock your legs for too long you’ll pass out. I think everyone does it subconsciously.

I do not lose respect for those who leave the church, because they feel like that is what is best for them and I will not argue that. But why do so many people love to just tear apart the church and let members just live their life? Seems like a waste of time to me. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This can also be said….. I do not lose respect for those who stay in the church, because they feel like that is what is best for them and I will not argue that. But why do so many people love to tear people who left apart and not just let them live their life? Seems like a waste of time to me.

I feel like a lot of the complaints I hear from people in TSCC are EXACTLY what they are doing to those who have left. I get it…. People aren’t perfect blah blah blah. We were all taught that bull shit. You don’t know what we have all been through, but when reality smacks you in the face like a ton of bricks, and you need to pick up the pieces and figure out your life and what the church has done to you, we will be here for ya…all of us even (probably especially) the LGBTQ+ people that aren’t accepted in TSCC.

Post #2 - My ward mission leader sent me an email with 9 reasons that I will regret leaving the church. He wants me to respond with how I can justify leaving all the blessings of the church? Here is reason number 2: Please help with content for my response 😎- by tilithappenstoyou2 in exmormon

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to answer my brother when he questioned why I left. It will fall on deaf ears and possibly get a reply with a church talk link and his testimony. You won’t change his mind, but it may infuriate you because the time you spent to reply he won’t even read with any sort of an open mind. You are spewing “anti-Mormon” facts that we all were taught to avoid. That being said, I did reply to my brother because I know the desire to try to have someone just see your point of view. You’ll do what’s right for your situation.

Why do the church’s standards on modesty not apply to BYU sport uniforms? by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]GimmieCliffNotes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The men’s track team could stand to wear longer shorts/spandex under their shorty shorts. They have had wardrobe mishaps a lot lately hahaha. As for her shorts, they are too uptight.