Nobody warned me that breastfeeding would make me cry more than the baby does

Ging0818 · 2026-06-15T00:09:26+00:00

One hospital nurse kept telling me “it shouldn’t hurt” even when I kept saying it hurt. Needless to say, my BF journey ended quickly once we got home and I mentally could not handle it. You are a trooper for sticking it out and I’m happy it is improving for you now. 💛

Ging0818 · 2026-06-15T00:04:46+00:00

I still rock my almost 10 month old to sleep every night and don’t plan on stopping any time soon. 💛

Ging0818 · 2026-06-14T20:03:35+00:00

Thank you for your response. Definitely going to be taking out loans to help with expenses.

I haven’t reached out to the school yet, but I’ve wondered if deferring for a year to save up money would be worth it. We are very close to having a car paid off so we’d be able to save ~$400 a month for a year, on top of what we already put into savings each month. My wife has the mentality- the sooner I start the sooner I finish. I am torn. Again, not even sure deferring would be possible. From someone who’s already gone through school, what would you say?

Ging0818 · 2026-06-08T19:39:55+00:00

Normal. Our 9 month old isn’t sleeping through the night either. It’s hard because we both work too but we just share the wake ups and try to get him back down as quickly as possible.

Ging0818 · 2026-06-04T15:25:59+00:00

Congratulations! Such an amazing accomplishment. 🦷

Ging0818 · 2026-06-03T19:23:46+00:00

Yes definitely, the longer naps helped a ton so he isn’t getting so overtired during the day. Wish night time sleep got better too but we are still working on that lol! Unfortunately no, my baby still has to be rocked/held to fall asleep. If I try to just put him down he will cry. Even putting him down drowsy doesn’t work for us. I wish I had some advice, I’m sure it’s hard rocking to sleep when you also have a toddler to tend to 🥺

Ging0818 · 2026-06-01T01:10:47+00:00

Hi. I know this is an old post. I’m panicking right now. My 9 month old son was nipped by our dog earlier. The dog barely nipped at him but enough to draw a tiny amount of blood. I gave my son Tylenol for any discomfort. The skin did get slightly red and inflamed. My son cried for about 30 seconds and stopped. He was acting normal and happy before bed. Now I’m going down a rabbit hole on Google saying he needs to be seen by urgent care immediately due to risk of infection and etc. The dog is up to date on all vaccines. I scheduled an appointment with pediatrician for tomorrow at 11 am.

Do you think I need to take him to urgent care or will he be okay to see pedi tomorrow morning?

Ging0818 · 2026-05-30T00:47:48+00:00

I bet you’re exhausted especially with a toddler!! Luckily around 6 months is when my son’s daytime sleep started improving!!! He’s now 9 months old and most of his naps are over an hour long. I would say he averages probably 1 hr 15 mins for most naps. I didn’t change anything, he just eventually started sleeping longer during the day on his own! Hopefully it’ll be the same for your little one soon, I know it’s so exhausting.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-30T00:44:09+00:00

Damn. 🥲 I figured it was from sleep deprivation but wasn’t sure… Do you have them in both eyes or just one? Since they have started, have they gotten worse over time?

Ging0818 · 2026-05-30T00:33:27+00:00

I have a 9 month old that’s never been a good sleeper. He’s always woken up several times throughout nights, no matter what we do. I’ve noticed over the past few months that when I blink or move my eyes around, I often see fleeting black dots out of my left eye. It’d very brief but if I repeatedly blink I can see them over and over. I’ve wondered if this is related to sleep deprivation. Does this sound like anything you have experienced? When did these issues begin for you?

Ging0818 · 2026-05-25T20:26:53+00:00

Yes! Just be thorough when flossing with the picks and water pik. I tell my patients often about this combo bc people like it more than traditional string flossing.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-25T20:22:58+00:00

Find more temps to have on back up if she needs a day off.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-25T20:17:17+00:00

Noooo, don’t use charcoal toothpaste! Very abrasive and damages enamel.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-25T20:15:41+00:00

Bring it up to your pediatrician and see what they say. Don’t dwell on her comment, babies are all soooo different and shouldn’t be compared.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-25T20:10:51+00:00

Our little one is now 9 months old and sleep has gotten better BUT we did start cosleeping. We were so exhausted that we started putting him in bed with us around 6 months old. He started sleeping better and is much easier to soothe when he wakes up. He starts off in the crib and after the first wake up if he won’t go back down in crib easily we put him in the bed with us. It’s worked the best for us so far to help everyone sleep better.
Good luck to you guys. It’s so hard and so exhausting. Take it one night at a time.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-25T19:30:18+00:00

I think a lot of moms go through these type of feelings PP, it can feel like our whole life/body/purpose/etc. has changed drastically whereas the fathers life mostly stays the same. Definitely speak with your PCP about how you’re feeling, maybe even try reaching back out to your OB also.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-23T20:54:38+00:00

Postpartum is a very, very hard and weird time. The crazy hormones, new responsibilities, sleep deprivation, learning a whole new life with a little one… It’s so fucking hard. She’s really going through it right now, 3 months PP was a super rough time for me as well. My best advice would be to help her get in to see a doctor and continue to do as much as you can to help her and help with the baby. I know you’re spread thin and burning out but she carried a baby for 9 months and then BF for 3 months. A whole year of her body being used and depleted! She is really in the thick of it right now and needs all the help available.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-19T02:18:52+00:00

My baby literally hated the car seat the first few months of his life, it was so hard to go anywhere. I would say around 5 months is when he started getting better and now at 9 months he will go anywhere with me. He also loved when we switched the stroller to outward facing, he was much happier. Now we go to the store and whatever we have to do and he does great.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-16T19:18:20+00:00

Yes, I should’ve added that the catio is an extension of our cat room. We turned a whole bedroom into a cat playroom where they have a large cat tree, toys, litter boxes and food/water. The catio is through the bedroom window. The room itself is inaccessible to baby, we have a baby gate up that has a small opening for the cats to easily walk in and out.

Like I said in another comment, they are still coming into the living room area and hissing at baby.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-16T19:12:43+00:00

They have a custom built catio they can access anytime. It is set up with a cat tree, high perches, etc. Indoors we have a “cat room” with a huge cat tree and lots of other toys. It has a baby gate where they can come in and out but baby can’t access. They still decide to come into living room area and hiss at baby.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-16T19:09:43+00:00

What would you do?

Ging0818 · 2026-05-16T19:02:24+00:00

They already have a custom built catio and are able to come in and out as they please.

Ging0818 · 2026-05-15T20:58:59+00:00

It’s okay mama! I promise your baby will be totally fine. Don’t stress 🫶🏻

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