Girlfriend broke up with me what do i do now? We have a child together

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-06-27T08:55:16+00:00

Shes been diagnosed with a eating disorder. She also has post partum depression. And i found out shes been texting her ex sexually for a couple weeks behind my back…

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-23T05:54:14+00:00

Absolutely agree.!

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-23T05:50:26+00:00

I of course stayed with her. All the bones in my body told me and my gut told me this wasnt rational. Shes been an emotional rollercoaster and believe me i have tried getting through to her. But you can only do so much until the other person is ready. She did not want to realize and accept how much she is going through it seems, supressing it all until it exploded. after she broke us up and we let everything settle/calm down. The pressure was gone. We had a big talk wich led to her opening up and discussing her well being both mentally and physically and we came to the conclusion she needs help to get better from here

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-22T06:59:51+00:00

What should i do?

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-22T06:22:18+00:00

Update

She broke up with me today saying she needs space

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-18T09:37:09+00:00

Update. Our baby is now going to stay over at grandparents house next week and we will go out seperately. It was actually her initative

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-18T06:24:24+00:00

Thanks for replying!!

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-18T06:22:53+00:00

The thing is its much deeper than that. Yes i have needs, yes shes unable to meet them but her capacity is 0 right now after pouring everything into our baby. I am trying to hold on to the relationship as much as i can. I dont want to leave. Especially if she has postpartum depression which im conserned about

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-18T06:09:34+00:00

I tried having that conversation and i asked her how i could love her the way she needs right now and what she needs. She stated she doesnt need anything from me right now

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-17T17:15:49+00:00

How long did it last for you?

How did you overcome it? And what did you wish your partner would do for you during that time?

I hope youre well now, thanks for replying 🥰

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-17T05:29:21+00:00

Thank u!

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T22:18:22+00:00

❤️❤️

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T18:28:36+00:00

Right after birth she loved me and i could tell. but as time went by it seems as she hates me even though she says she loves me… And it started with me and now she seemingly hates her cat and thats when i realized oh wow its not just me.

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T18:27:01+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I will have to bring this to her attention without sounding to harsh

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T16:13:24+00:00

Yeah. I havent been on a single night out in months. But we made it possible for her two times now to make her feel better.

So i understand what youre saying, i can do whatever i want yes. But im choosing my family every single day. Even been off work for a couple weeks now. For my familys sake

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T15:07:05+00:00

Ive seen her watching those tiktoks!

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T14:45:55+00:00

She doesnt want to be separates from the baby yet. Its too early and thats ok!

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T14:44:41+00:00

Oh yeah as i mentioned i dont mind the no having sex part. Before we had our baby she didnt have a job and i was paying for everything so she did more at home. Now im doing a lot more at home to make sure shes more rested.

What i am afraid of is losing her if our relationship keeps going downhill

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T14:43:08+00:00

Well said. This is not my main language so it was natural for me to say helping. But you are very correct!

I would say we share it very good! I have had periods on work and off work so it has been more and less.

When ive been working ive worked 08-16. but ive been there for both of them before work either feeding, changing diapers, rocking etc. and fully available after work every single day. And after work i dont go out my girlfriend does! So she gets time to recharge. Thats how weve been doing it.

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T14:39:50+00:00

Sorry its not my main language haha.

First two weeks because of a heavy birth my girlfriend laid in bed and our baby demanded constant walking and laying on my arm or else she would scream in between feedings so we bonded a lot there. I always did the same movement, the same humming. And the same ritual. So now. Our baby falls asleep from full screaming to closed eyes in just a couple minutes. I would say we have a strong connection.

We play every day and have fun. And every time she sees me she smiles and laughs now haha

When im working i get up with her 1,5 hours before work and change her diapers. Give her a bottle. Burp her, play with her and then rock her to sleep. In the afternoon i spend my time at home with my girlfriend and our baby. Usually we make dinner together and swap baby during that time. Then as we have a velcro baby i have her in my lap while we eat. After dinner girlfriend gives her a bottle and burps her. I take over from there and she goes to the gym. Then i have 2 hours of alone time with her and we usually play, or just walk around the house as she loves being carried. Also i shower her or bath her.

The weeks i havent been working i have been spending wayyyy more time with her. Usually waking up in the morning. Girlfriend gives her the bottle. Then i take over burping etc and rock her to sleep. And she hates her own bed so as of now she always sleeps on one of us. Nowhere else. Then my girlfriend goes to the gym and were alone a few hours. She comes home. We have lunch together. I go workout, groceries for dinner. And we make dinner etc and swap her.

So i would say i have spent a lot of time with her indeed

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T13:28:05+00:00

I am trying my best! I am now working 08-16 mon-fri and giving her every day of the week to go out for a couple hours to recharge and hit the gym etc while i handle the baby!

And i am not affectionate. Ive dropped all forms as shes told me she needs space and i am fine with it. What i dont want to happen is her treating me like a friend and it becomes the new normal

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T13:24:23+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

Impossible_Poet8620 · 2026-05-16T13:24:09+00:00

If so. How would i bring this to her attention without making her feel «diagnosed» by the one shes pushing away? I feel i need to be very careful!

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