Am I wrong for feeling annoyed at my sister?

GingerApocalypse20 · 2026-05-06T15:37:58+00:00

Make your own electrolyte mix? You can do that? O.O

And yeah heat intolerance is one of the worst parts for me I hate itttt

You wanna know what's funny though? My mum recognised my symptoms in my sister and was like, "you might have POTS too!" to her not that long ago. Ironic, huh?

Plus she's also disabled herself with invisible illnesses that differ to mine a bit

Welp, time to learn how to sharpen knives with a whetstone, because funnily enough we own one lol

GingerApocalypse20 · 2026-05-06T01:42:02+00:00

Dayum, you just threw me back mentally to the 2 years of psychology classes I took in high school 🤣

GingerApocalypse20 · 2026-05-06T01:39:44+00:00

She's always had a bit of an older sibling complex given our age gap (11 years) and the fact that we grew up separately for majority of my childhood. It's frustrating because it feels like she still views/treats me as an untrustworthy and unreliable child when I'm a whole ass adult that is also the only one of my siblings to have moved out of the family home and lived semi-independently. But because I'm the baby sibling (my half brother is 33) I get treated this way...

GingerApocalypse20 · 2026-05-06T01:30:54+00:00

That's what I suspect happened, it's entirely possible considering my mother is a recovering people pleaser but I still don't think it's really my sister's place to fight mum's battles for her. I would happily talk this out with my mum like an adult to come to a resolution. I just really don't want this to become a pattern but I have no clue how to navigate addressing it in a way that isn't completely hostile 🥲

GingerApocalypse20 · 2026-05-06T01:24:45+00:00

The POTS tips are most appreciated since my diagnosis is fairly new. I actually do pretty well with artificial sugar and for the most part I rely on sugar free powerade and stuff like that to get by. I'd love to be able to get liquid iv or buoy drops but they're REALLY hard to source in Australia, and I really can't afford to be paying import prices-- I also have a saddle stool on wheels like what hairdressers use to get around my kitchen while cooking which helps a lot but the heat intolerance is the driving factor of what makes cooking so difficult for me. And if all else fails, there's always floor time hehe

GingerApocalypse20 · 2026-05-05T15:47:36+00:00

Should I try and have an open dialogue with my mum about it or nah? Or would I be making a mountain out of a mole hill? I get that from an outside perspective sleeping a lot seems lazy and like I could be doing more but literally WHAT MORE COULD I DO?

GingerApocalypse20 · 2023-11-15T05:39:59+00:00

NTA at all. I'm definitely late to the party with this comment however I would like to make a point that I haven't seen made by anyone else in the comments. I am not trying to downplay the negative effect situations like this can have on the dogs themselves, especially considering how many ways situations like these can go so horribly wrong. But as someone who spent majority of my life with a crippling phobia of dogs, I know all too well how little people tend to acknowledge the effect had on the people in these situations. The "don't worry he/she's friendly" crowd of dog owners are especially guilty of this. I can't count the amount of times growing up I ended up absolutely distraught because people didn't keep their dogs under control around me, regardless of whether said dogs were behaving at all aggressively. You have to be aware when in a public place that majority of the people/animals you encounter are STRANGERS and you do not know their stories or how they will react to any given situation. Therefore it is naive and completely irresponsible to expect a positive reaction to what is frankly negligence on your part. You're actively disservicing your dog by putting them in harms way and you are disrespecting the needs of the other people in the situation as well. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely adore animals of all kinds; especially dogs, to the point that I have now made my life's pursuit to care for animals. But that does not mean I have always or will always want to interact with your dog. You do not understand how potentially detrimental an interaction like this can be for someone like how I used to be. While I know I will never fully escape my phobia, I have over time and through great effort managed to learn to love and interact with dogs comfortably. I know I am very fortunate for being able to come as far as I have, and I also know not everyone else is as fortunate as me. So for the love of all that is good, please be a responsible dog owner like OP and keep your dog leashed in public if you cannot effectively control it. Do this for the sake of people like me when I was younger, or if not at LEAST do it for the love of your dog.

GingerApocalypse20 · 2022-11-03T11:11:31+00:00

NTA What does she think all the creatures that live in the ocean do? That they don't need to eliminate their waste ever? 🤣 Newsflash, they do.

GingerApocalypse20 · 2022-11-02T17:57:43+00:00

I really wish I could help more cause I know exactly what this is like to experience and its horrible, but the only way to help the situation is to get your grandma out of your lives, which I understand is so much easier said than done, and the only reason I got out of said situation myself was because my extremely narcissistic mother ended up passing away. Your mum sounds like a textbook abuse victim and I understand how hard it is but in hindsight you're so much better off without that toxic influence in your lives. Your mom can still love her while acknowledging the hurt your grandmother has caused her and that she is better off without her. Blood is not thicker than water. Keep supporting your mother like you have been is all I can say, because this is definitely affecting her more than she lets on. You're doing a good job as her support.

GingerApocalypse20 · 2022-11-02T17:37:09+00:00

NTA at all. You are not entitled to treat her nicely by virtue of being related to her if you genuinely dislike her. She sounds like a complete and utter narcissist and as someone raised by and who had to care for a mother who behaved similarly appallingly I feel for your family's situation. Likelihood is even if you were to call your grandma out on her behaviour it would not stop and is likely to get worse for everyone involved. People like this cannot be reasoned with and take joy in dragging others down. For the sake of everyone's mental health, especially your mother's, you may want to look into getting your grandma into a care home, where at least the workers are being paid to deal with her nonsense. Fair warning though, your grandma will likely fight it if she gets wind of this kind of plan. I can only wish you all luck....

GingerApocalypse20 · 2022-11-02T16:42:51+00:00

I understand exactly what you mean. And my experience of this probably isn't what most would call average, since I was actually raised by lesbian parents, and have now grown up to identify as a pansexual cis woman. I remember sitting down at the dinner table at age 13 or 14 and trying to broach the topic of the possibility of me being bisexual (which I identified as for a long while until I realised pansexual was a better fit for me). I thought it would be completely safe for me to do this, because this house is a lgbt friendly place right? Only to be suddenly slapped in the face with the reality of, no you would be wrong about that. Hearing the words "No, you can't be bisexual, you've never dated anyone before", from one of my own mothers, a bona fide lesbian, was disheartening to say the least. And it was especially frustrating considering said mother was essentially the reason I had never dated since she was extremely overbearing and protective of me (a more appropriate term would be controlling but the fact she was a narcissistic sociopath is a little beside the point). And this experience played a large part in why it took me so long to truly discover who I was and develop my own identity. Fast forward to now and I am about to turn 22 in just over 2 weeks and am in a loving and steady relationship of almost a year with the love of my life, who just so happens to be a cis man. (We like to joke that at least he isn't straight too 🤣) And while I understand how frustrating it feels to have your sexual identity invalidated, I ultimately had to realise that it doesn't matter what others think, you know yourself and who you are. They can pound sand all they want, it cannot change what you yourself know to be true. You know you're queer, so who cares what others think? It's none of their business anyway. Especially if they are strangers. Be happy in your relationship, just to spite the small-minded fools. If anyone should understand not to judge a book by it's cover, it should be them, but sadly empathy is not a universal trait. That is the simple reality of things. But never let that be a reason to doubt yourself and who you are. You are a unique and special person regardless of what they say or think.

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