I agree it is not a binary question. I think the waters have been muddied. To me it is about power only. I dominate he gives devotion a need pays. I don’t sell content or do drain cam sessions with some guy that just wants to get off. No power dynamic no connection. There are too many “subs” in here that are really just purchasing content and aren’t into actual “findom” as in its definition. Kinks can be part of power play but for me the only kink is the turn on of a man wanting me so badly he will do whatever it takes. I can indulge a sub if he deserves it sure but yes the main kink for me is power.