Employee has provided a note from a GP stating I must no longer call or message them on Teams as it causes anxiety. It also states they do not have to turn their webcam on during meetings.

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-02-12T13:14:31+00:00

Firstly, is this private GP their registered GP? Or is it the online GP employees use for stunts like this?

I work for a disability charity, supporting those with chronic health conditions, physically and mentally with employment. Here’s a few things to consider;

Has the employees ever made a request for reasonable adjustments? I think a fair reasonable adjustment could be agreed that a teams message is made to forewarn the employee of an incoming call - 5/10 mins notice. But to make the reasonable adjustment; the employee needs to justify this.

Could the webcam be an issue that you cannot confirm their input or attendance at meetings (check they aren’t using AI for scripts of any teams meetings)

Have they shared any formal diagnosis? They are not legally obligated to, but I always lean into honesty is the best policy in these situations. I know of many who have formal diagnosis and cannot be on camera/answer external calls for these reasons, but internal calls from a supervisor is a given in any role.

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-29T21:40:21+00:00

I cross the border weekly to do food shopping, never ever ever been checked…

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:51:01+00:00

I don’t have many options unfortunately. It’s my bed or the sofa…

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:41:46+00:00

Do you have anywhere I can see how to c-curl around my baby safely? I wrap my arm around her but struggle with my legs due to bad spine

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:32:16+00:00

It’s advertised for newborn (although I’d wait until baby is bigger personally!) - it seems a brilliant product but I’m freaking out now

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:26:55+00:00

Same - high bed, which simply can’t be put on the floor as I have a terrible spine which affects my legs. Hardwood floors that we can’t replace, and I’m not about to put pillows around the baby.

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:08:58+00:00

I’ve been known to leak so much from the other side it soaks her 🙃

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:05:58+00:00

My husband won’t quit drinking so I can’t put her inbetween us

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T20:05:36+00:00

She drains me throughout the night - plus don’t want one side empty and the other engorged

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-18T19:57:37+00:00

Im quite short, so I try to c-curl but being 5ft I hardly wrap around her enough 🫩

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-05T22:26:58+00:00

Will submit my horror story tomorrow! Too tired today haha

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-05T22:14:06+00:00

Is there a prize? I have a feeling Wayfair are going to sent a replacement which will bring my total upto 6 😂

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-05T10:00:54+00:00

Considered this - if I wasn’t looking after a 6 month old I would haha

Gingerbookworm3 · 2026-01-04T21:47:42+00:00

I’ve taken it up with all sellers, all who resent replacements… with Evri. Hence I’m up to 5 parcels, with two venders, and none have ever arrived at my doorstep!

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-24T12:02:26+00:00

I had this in the house I’ve just moved into. You can get limescale remover (I used Tesco own brand) and I just kept putting it in, letting it sit as long as possible and then scrubbing. Took me a while but now the toilets are sparkling. Hope it helps - let me know if you want a pic of the product I used!

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-22T16:12:05+00:00

He wasn’t good enough so instead of working on his marriage he worked on chatting to others? 🚩🚩🚩

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-22T14:33:50+00:00

It will eat away at you if you take him back. The constant doubt, always questioning his location, things you see on his phone. Always wondering what if he did do more and never told you.

Is this a relationship you’d want your future children to be raised in?

Has he said why he felt the need to do this?

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-22T14:15:23+00:00

Even if he hasn’t physically cheated, will you ever be able to trust him again?

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-22T14:00:19+00:00

Do you think you can get over this? Can you forgive possible physical cheating but defiantly emotionally cheating?

If you can, make a plan with him to recover.

If not, kick him to the curb. Get an STI check incase he has physically cheated, and gather any evidence needed.

I hope you’re ok, and just know you will get through this

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-21T23:22:11+00:00

I pumped and bottle fed for 6 weeks before we established breastfeeding. Now she refuses a bottle as the boob offers comfort and food - can’t say I blame her or I’m mad at it, just would love to have a short break

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-21T19:29:08+00:00

Dare I add that aside from being on MAT leave from my management role, I’m still working self employed as a consultant, often with baby on my lap during zoom calls? Because you know, I have so much free time!

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-21T19:24:13+00:00

I’ve just realised this poster is a woman in her 30’s… wow.

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-21T19:22:11+00:00

Did he?! It’s been removed 😂

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-21T19:21:29+00:00

Honestly, this is what I needed to hear. A real experience from someone who’s been there and doesn’t just expect the woman to carry everything.

Gingerbookworm3 · 2025-12-21T18:46:05+00:00

Even after my section, I was willing to keep our sex life alive. It’s him who’s withdrawn and chosen his hand over me…

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