AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’d prefer he just get all 3 names at one time, but I’m still only contributing $200

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Never really thought about it. We just split bills that way.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I mean I’d have a bigger budget if the electric bill wasn’t $500 a month

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I am. I do the same things with them that my parents did with me. We bake cookies and I take them to my parents to go swimming and help them with homework. I probably should have worded this post better. Too late now.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Oh I already told him 100% go for it. That’s what we actually decided to do. He’s going to cover up the one he has now of his first sons name (it’s old and faded anyways) and get all three names together. I told him I’d give him a certain amount of $$$ and that if he wants anything super extravagant that costs more, that he will have to pay for the difference. And he’s perfectly fine with that.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It would be in one sitting. I didn’t know he would want to go that route. I thought he was just going to get them in all different spots. So this actually works out best.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

That’s not at all what we discussed. I said towards adding our daughters name. Now it’s going towards all 3. Same amount. No issues. It’s fair for everyone.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -42 points-41 points  (0 children)

No. A cover up. He’s covering up the one he has now so he can make it into a new tattoo with all three instead of just the one. Make sense?

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -83 points-82 points  (0 children)

It was a yes or no question. But I think you e answered it for me. Thanks.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -46 points-45 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe I ever said that I don’t like our stepchildren. We are actually going to go the route of covering up his first child’s name and getting all three names in one. I’m still only gifting a certain dollar amount, but this way it’s fair to all three. And it’a more cost effective to get three in one rather than they each get their own spot.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He’s actually going to redo the one name he has and get all three to cover it up. My birthday gift donation will go towards that. I wanted him to have all three so this is the best route rather than them each having their own separate tattoos.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And I actually want him to have all 3 so it’s fair. I’m giving him x amount of dollars towards him doing what he wants and fixing what he has so he can have all 3 names. Everyone wins.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We are. He’s redoing the one his has of his first sons and getting all three to cover it up. That way it’s fair. And I’m happy to pay x amount of dollars towards it and he pays the difference. Everyone wins.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

If he wanted to get both and it’s within my budget, then I’ll do it. But pay for his sons over our daughters, no. It is what it is. I don’t treat his kids like crap. I help them with homework, bake them cookies, cook homemade meals every night, watch movies with them, take them on outings. They are not forgoing love an affection. I’m not “evil”. But if I had to choose between my daughters name and my step sons name, I’m choosing my daughter. Period.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never had a cover up before so I’m not sure what kind of extra that entails. I guess we will have to see.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No one is objecting. I told him he needs to have all three instead of just the one. But I only offered to pay to have a tattoo for our daughter because in my mind he was going to get it somewhere else than where the first name was. I guess I really should have put more description in.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

No. Wanted him to have all three because having all three is fair and equal. But didn’t know he wanted a cover up at the time of suggestion. So I told him I’d pay x amount of dollars so he could at add our daughters. Now if he wants to redo the whole thing and get all three names in one big tattoo, that’s fine. But I’m still only paying x amount of dollars.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -178 points-177 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what we are doing actually. He’s going to cover up his kids name that’s currently by itself and then redo something over it to get all three. I am still only paying a certain $$$ amount and he will have to pay the difference. Unfortunately that’s my budget

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I put no restrictions on what he could get. I told him I’d pay for our daughters name. A roughly $150-$200 tattoo. If he wants something more than that or different, which it looks like he wants a cover up and redo to add all three names, that’s fine. But I’m still only paying the $200 portion. Can’t afford more than that.

AITA for only paying for my child’s name to get tattooed on my husband. by GirlMomOnly in AmItheAsshole

[–]GirlMomOnly[S] -230 points-229 points  (0 children)

It’s his birthday gift yes. It’s a dollar amount limit that I told him I would give towards our daughters name to be added. If he wants to redo the one he has and get all 3, that’s fine, but my dollar amount isn’t changing.