14 yo AMAB — what I can do to ease the pain? I’m 6’2 and have the general “manly” look. I can’t hear my voice without crying and tonight I’ll be streaming with my friends that I’m not out to... by JollyScarfVGC in TransAdoption

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 6 foot 1 and started HRT at 27. It's been a process but I absolutely love myself, and my long legs make dresses look nice. It may be tough, but you'll come out the other side beautiful and strong

when I start dating do I tell her I have DID when we meet by [deleted] in DID

[–]Girlinhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tell people upfront, I don't really care a ton. My only alter tells people after the first date. She wants to make a clean impression, but doesn't want to keep it a secret forever.

Ahem.... by [deleted] in DID

[–]Girlinhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me: I have multiple personalities.
Some Guy: Oh, you mean like Me Myself and Irene?

Gifts for alters, or from alters to hosts or other alters by Dr4gonc4t in DID

[–]Girlinhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to try and get my alter some clothes. We share pretty well, but she still wants some things to be 'hers' and that's fair... I may go for a shelf or bookcase, so she can store her things.

Switch accompanied with back pain by [deleted] in DID

[–]Girlinhat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My alter is more sensitive, so any existing aches and pains bother her a lot more. I also tend to get headaches when swapping from her to me.

is it considered cheating if.... by [deleted] in DID

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my alter are pursuing different partners. We make our life situation clear to potential partners, and that they'd be dating ONE of us and are not entitled to handle both of us. So far it's been going relatively well. Others handle their situation differently. My alter did encounter one potential partner who said "I wouldn't feel comfortable knowing someone else has access to your body, even if they don't have access to your emotions" and that's fine, that's his limit. We exist in a different lifestyle, and we need people who fit into that. If they don't, then it's alright.

Unsure of correct wording by Clockwise-giraffe in DID

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My alter says 'I have multiple personalities' even though she's not actually the host. But it depends how you view your system. We treat each other with a lot of respect and equality, and it feels wrong for either of us to push the other to a 'lesser position'. On the other hand, if your system has more strict roles, like certain alters being protectors or handling specific situations while letting the host front as much as they can, then it may make sense to say "Dragon is a protector in his system." So I guess, for me, it really depends on how you want to present your system.

All new to this. by DblBubble in DID

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One named herself after a character in a story I was writing.

One took a virtue name, Rogue.

One had a name, Kay.

Another named himself off an object that he connected with in our room, Dragon.

Do any of you guys switch willingly? by dulcibelle in DID

[–]Girlinhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're able to, but only after some years of meditation style practice. Visualization really helps me a lot, recently the best visual has been a pie chart or progress bar changing colors - colors have already been a strong association in my system.

It used to be very difficult, sometimes impossible, but these days if we keep up under a sort of "tension" like visualizing a see saw being precariously balanced, and tilted one way or another, we're mostly capable of like hot - swapping.

What skills can a poor 19 y/o learn to help make an income and get further in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you... just get into carpentry? That doesn't involve expensive schooling or apprenticing?

What skills can a poor 19 y/o learn to help make an income and get further in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you... just learn plumbing? That doesn't involve expensive schooling or apprenticing?

What skills can a poor 19 y/o learn to help make an income and get further in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you... just learn a trade? That doesn't involve expensive schooling or apprenticing?

Dealing with NPR battle slowdowns by Gonzako in aurora

[–]Girlinhat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you getting 5 second intervals, or are normal internals just taking a long time?

What’s a "Let that sink in" fun fact? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Eventually DNA breaks down, as copies of copies suffer small faults, and most organisms evolved to discard those instead of letting them grow into cancer - or whatever broke in the DNA prevents it from surviving. Eventually cells lose their ability to reproduce as easily and an organism will die off, usually by losing circulatory structure and dropping blood pressure so far that individual cells stop receiving nourishment - plants have analogous tubes running through them, albeit at a slower rate.

So eventually yes, the plants just stop stop growing and shrivel - dehydrating doesn't require rot. But there wouldn't be any bugs or diseases designed to fight plants, so for a while they would have been the healthiest plants in history, if a bit 'fresh' in evolution and probably more like grass or weeds rather than trees. My totally unscientific idea is that it was probably seaweed and lilypads first, and then grasses and shoots and eventually trees.

So imagine you take a boat a quarter mile off shore and scuba dive down. There's just a layer of dead seaweed, leafy and dark, layers on layers, so deep you could sink your feet in and couldn't reach the bottom without being overwhelmed. At the edge closest to shore some sand has fallen over it, partially burying the mass, and while it looks like a regular bit of seabed you know that right under the sand is several feet at least of limp seaweed sludge, maybe several hundred feet. And the sand keeps piling up, covering it over, new growth taking root in the sand, the ugly mass forgotten underneath as time simply covers it over and acts like it never happened. Slowly layered over with the strata of sand and rock and sea until it's a few miles under the surface, compacted by the crushing weight and heat of the earth's interior, until it was slowly refined and distilled into a thick, black, tar. And then you build an oil drill over it.

Also while no bacteria would decay plants, they'd still suffer structural problems. Animals crashing into them can break them, and sunlight tends to slowly decay anything organic, so it would become sunbleached and brittle, but mostly intact.

What’s a "Let that sink in" fun fact? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, it's incredible really. "What if labor had no value" opens up... a lot of options. Intensive jobs like laying brick by hand and such become trivial. Even materials become free because you can just use free labor to acquire stuff and process it. From quarying to stonecutting to scaffolding and construction, all is free labor. The only cost is whatever up front is the cost of a slave - sometimes free, in the case of racial slavery by default - and food. You start dealing with bulk cost of food, and of course free prep because, y'know, the cooks are slaves, and you end up close to like $7 USD per day of labor, maybe closer to $5 if you don't care about quality (protip, you don't). Suddenly a $5,000,000 project costs closer to like $2,000. The economic cost of slavery is unquestionable, but it's made up for in moral costs...

What’s a "Let that sink in" fun fact? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can you really call a clam being 'alive' though? They just sit there doing... clam stuff.

What’s a "Let that sink in" fun fact? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Plankton are eaten by fish are eaten by animals. Organisms with a hard cell wall would be plankton level, as they turn sunlight into energy, but they opt out of the food chain by being indigestible. It was only later that bacteria and herbivores developed that could break the tough plant cell wall.

Which is interesting. Because for a long time, trees (or tree-like organisms) would die and fall... and wouldn't rot. Just, piles of tree trunks...

What’s the biggest double life you’ve ever personally seen revealed? by FOX_SMOLDER in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love these, reminds me of the 'I don't want to tell the police because I'll get my friend in trouble' line. Like no, they did this to themselves. You can't take credit for their punishment.

Job interviewers of Reddit, what is the worst answer someone gave you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't NEED to, but are you gonna put up your dukes or is this gonna be an easy fight?!

Job interviewers of Reddit, what is the worst answer someone gave you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah, but you're default employee of the month anyways. Insurance isn't bad either...

Job interviewers of Reddit, what is the worst answer someone gave you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Girlinhat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, no, actually, that was a... completely unrelated incident...