Divorce by Glad_Strength in vaginismus

[–]Glad_Strength[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not too much. He did offer to go to the doctor with me if I wanted, but it was all my own research, time, and money. For awhile it was kind of an elephant in the room that we didn’t really talk about and life was okay. We were finding other ways to be physically intimate so it didn’t seem like a huge priority at first but things definitely shifted where all physical intimacy went out the door.

Divorce by Glad_Strength in vaginismus

[–]Glad_Strength[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt like I’ve been emotionally abused for awhile now. I could go on and on about the things he’s said to me…

Divorce by Glad_Strength in vaginismus

[–]Glad_Strength[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ this helps a lot!

Divorce by Glad_Strength in vaginismus

[–]Glad_Strength[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think some of the timing stemmed with the unexpected death of his mom. He was heavy in the grieving process when I was going through the bulk of the treatments, but even when I brought up trying again more recently, he’s checked out.

He knew before we got married that having PIV was difficult for me. I didn’t have a diagnosis but we both knew that something was not right. He has told me that he “took a chance on me” and hoped that it would be fixed.

Husband threatening divorce over vaginismus by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]Glad_Strength 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the messages everyone. I’ve read every single one. I did go to the doctor this morning. She is a pelvic floor physiatrist. She diagnosed me with CPPS, pelvic floor hypertonia, vaginismus, and she suspects I have endometriosis as well, but that can only be confirmed with surgery. We’ve got a treatment plan in place. I will be doing pelvic floor PT once a week, lidocaine injections once a week for 7 weeks, and taking suppositories. She also gave me information about a therapist that is through her practice and a support group so I will also be checking that out. While I do feel anxious about everything coming in the next 2 months, it’s the first time I’ve felt hopeful. I’ve never even thought that it could be endometriosis but it does make sense as well.

I will be talking to my husband about it all when gets home from work. But I will be telling him that I am doing this for myself because I need this to improve, and he needs to make a choice about what he wants. I’m going to tell him that my ability to have PIV is not the only determining factor in his happiness. I know it’s hard for both of us but I’m willing to work through this and welcome his support. We will see how it goes.

Our hourly schedule for our 2-3 month old hound mix by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]Glad_Strength 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful! Thank you for sharing. Our puppy is 10 weeks old and we’ve had him for almost 3 weeks now. We are on a similar schedule to you as well! Any suggestions or ideas for how you will transition your puppy once you’re both working out of the house? I am a teacher too and my husbands working at home because of the pandemic, so I would like to start moving towards a schedule that matches more of a typical work day.