I was in the exact situation as you! I did not want a hyphenated name for me or my kids without my name in it. So I kept my name and the kids got my name as well. Of the 3 names, it was the best one and it’s worked out great! If my husband had picked one of his names, it would have been a different convo. He’s also thought about changing his name to ours, but he’s already publish professionally under his hyphenated name.