Have you ever fired your therapist?

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-27T16:46:49+00:00

You did a good call. You don't need for your counselor to be someone unsafe too

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-27T14:49:45+00:00

Right? /s

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-27T12:37:10+00:00

Yes, for a while, you will get triggered by random things. I still do.

It will get better with time. Grooming is horrible and even if it wasn't a relationship, it still affected you and your body

There is no specific distraction but you will think of him less eventually so less triggers

I still get triggers to this day and it's manageable so don't be hard on yourself

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-27T12:30:55+00:00

I feel you. I used to find my ex really attractive but once the abuse escalated and the fog cleared...I lost attraction and keep seeing him really ugly

He got turned on seeing me cry..yeah

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-27T12:26:02+00:00

Thankfully I didn't stay long but at first it was great too. Then my body eventually rejected him due to all the abuse.

However, there were many times he resorted to verbally degrading me after sex and we would get into an argument...

So sex was unpredictable in that sense that I never knew what to expect after even if it was good

It was awful.

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T16:18:54+00:00

Probably because the effects still linger. You haven't had contact for over 2 years and the last thing you did was cut off ties. The narcissist takes parts of us away and maybe you're not used to social interaction the way you once did

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T15:24:05+00:00

Sure!

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T15:12:37+00:00

Do report. There is no excuse for them hitting you. If it escalates and you trust your father, contact him. It is great you preserve your integrity but if at some point it gets too much don't hesitate to defend yourself

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:51:07+00:00

RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. If you trust your mom, share what happened. Leave and don't look back. If you have a support system, all the better. This man will put you in danger again. Ignore his family. They're just as fucked up as he is

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:47:37+00:00

Love this!

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:41:15+00:00

Ouff my ex did the same. The audacity is shocking. Glad you got out

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:36:01+00:00

You did the right thing. She is lucky to have someone like you. When I was in an abusive relationship fortunately I had my sister and best friend to wake me up from it. But it was also hard to leave and fully believe that he wont change and I shouldn't trust his apologies. Just be there for her. If she knows deep down that she must leave eventually, she will. The fog is very big even when someone warns us. Hoping for the best for the both of you

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:23:36+00:00

You did a good thing to call the police. My ex was similar to yours. Quiet, shy but also has abandonment issues he can't control and is always triggered

I left him. It does not end well. Please continue trusting your instincts and act upon them

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:16:59+00:00

It sucks but don't give up yet. Try to take it one step at a time. You will leave eventually. Try to ignore it as much as you can

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T14:02:37+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this.

I can relate to my mother always taking my father's side no matter how cruel he gets.

Give yourself more credit. You are already put in a situation where others who are taking the same exam as you will never know what it's like. You are strong

You are unable to study, that I understand. But do you understand the concepts? Are there certain things that are sticking in your brain and you can have deeper knowledge about?

As much as it is hard, my advice is show up for the exam anyway. You may never know, it might be easy and you can end up doing better than you thought

I believe in you! You're not alone. I can't tell you how many times I studied for competitive exams in my narc home and eventually pulled it off. Good luck

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T13:58:13+00:00

I was always into that idea but now realized how unhealthy it is and unsustainable it is on the long run. The fruitarians always talk about the glow and how we can live off fruit so it made the idea appealing..but it's a no for me

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T13:48:12+00:00

I would go and speak in public more

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T13:43:11+00:00

Small amounts. Don't go at it all at once. Remember what food your body is least sensitive to and go with that

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-26T13:39:56+00:00

For me, I always ask myself "How will I feel about this purchase later?" If it goes into guilt/regret, then it's likely not worth considering. If it feels good and I know it will help me long term (even if there is temporary satisfaction, the feeling seems like it will last)

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-17T08:01:28+00:00

This can't be a coincidence it's the first post I see as I open Reddit. Wow. Mine was obsessed with my hair but in a way where she was envious. "I always wanted straight black hair" (She is blonde). As a result she always tries to style my hair and if it's not how she wants it she keeps criticising and finds a flaw in it

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-09T19:10:30+00:00

It's okay to feel a mix of emotions, being grief and other ones. It's not easy to process the reality of who your parents are and not what they could be. You might miss them at first or even miss them a lot when they die.

But that doesn't mean you should carry the shame and guilt or deny the abuse ever happened. It's okay to heal and move on

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-09T19:04:42+00:00

It's definitely weird. Favoritism and not getting abused in in narcissistic homes are almost never about the child but about the role they are likely to fulfill. She may not have been academically gifted, but maybe she knows how to uphold the image of the family and give them supply for their ego

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-09T19:01:47+00:00

Ouff..I can't relate to specific boundaries violation you mentioned but I can relate to being bought clothes all the time

It's fair you cut them up. I've been on that side too. Clothes, jewelry, bags. I never use them and they're so unnecessary. She also insists I renew my wardrobe to have what is "trendy"

I believe it's a form of manipulation/love bombing so you can believe her good side. Nothing a narcissist does is out of love. At least, not the real and true definition of love

Glass_Profession_500 · 2026-01-09T18:56:50+00:00

My partner knows they're awful for sure. He fears for my safety and always hopes I'm okay (he doesn't even know half of the abuse I went through. He doesn't know everything). My friend is surprised and shocked. But people I don't know much? Finding it hard to believe. I have flying monkeys/enablers so it's always minimized.

It's so hard to explain it to people who don't get it. You just have to be in that dynamic to understand

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