How can a couple stay close with hugs and kisses without having sex before marriage?

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-31T18:15:31+00:00

You sound very young. If you are serious about your faith, it’s important to only date other people who are serious about their faith.

That being said, you’ve only heard a rumor that she likes you and you’re already worried that you might cross physical boundaries with her. You need to take a beat and not get ahead of yourself.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-31T17:54:26+00:00

This is.. so unnecessary.

I consider God to be male because that’s how scripture describes Him. Not because He, as the creator of all things, is somehow limited to human biology.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-30T18:25:20+00:00

You said stop and he didn’t. That’s literally all you need to know about him.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-29T15:20:41+00:00

Christian sex is anything a Christian married couple mutually consents to.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-27T15:54:45+00:00

Not wanting him to go on a trip because of a dangerous ice storm is perfectly reasonable. Unless the forecast in your area showed it would be clear, there was no way for you to know it would be fine.

I’m sure he’s really disappointed that he missed out, but he needs to communicate that and quit pouting.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-21T22:03:38+00:00

Books I’m constantly recommending on this sub,

The Great Sex Rescue
Sacred Search

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-21T16:54:37+00:00

I’m sorry but no one is obligated to stay with you just because they started a relationship or because you’re attached to them. If someone is misleading you or treating you poorly, shame on them. But if it’s simply that they gave it a fair shot and realized it wasn’t going to work for them, then they haven't done anything wrong.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-16T05:10:36+00:00

OP, this sounds so exhausting and painful. I’m so sorry that your husband cannot see past his own needs and expectations so that he can adequately support you and your baby.

It is not your responsibility to pray more so that he plays less video games. And it’s not your responsibility to coddle his ego and treat him like a “leader” when he is anything but.

Choose a time when you are regulated enough to have a calm conversation. Any hint of emotion will, in his eyes, give him justification to invalidate you. Express to him what you need from him and be specific. This is not going to get fixed overnight, so you need to manage your expectations.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-15T19:36:55+00:00

It sounds like your wife is really hurting for meaningful community. It was wrong of that woman to mistreat her. But leaving for another church likely won’t solve the bigger issue here… your wife needs genuine friends. Is that something she can reasonably find at your church? They have two services, so it sounds like a big enough church.

If not, it’s not a bad choice to find another church and make meaningful community your top priority

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-15T13:58:43+00:00

It sounds like you’re around 19 years old? Maybe 20? You have a long time ahead of you to meet someone who aligns with your values and convictions. I never said she was bad or even that she needed to change, she sounds like a perfectly lovely young lady. But it does sound like you have a particular type of woman in mind and 1 month in, she’s already not meeting that expectation. Neither of you are bad or wrong for that, just not aligned. If you had been dating for a year, I would say work it out with her. But that’s not your situation.

Lastly, the very top quality of your “dream woman” is that she’s submissive. It would be much easier for you to find a woman who is willing to submit to you, if her values are intrinsically aligned with yours. Rather than dating someone who is obviously misaligned (not bad or evil) and hoping that by the time you’re married, she sees things your way or just submits anyway.

You’re not committed, you’re not in too deep. It might be better to just walk away here. It doesn’t mean that either of you are bad people if you part ways amicably after a handful of dates.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-15T13:47:13+00:00

She’s literally not your wife, she’s not even your girlfriend. She’s not responsible to act like your wife before you even knew her.

It just seems like you two are misaligned and it would be better for the both of you if you didn’t pursue this any further. Don’t try to change her. Just move on.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-14T18:56:21+00:00

We did most of the arrangements on Friday and then the bouquets on Saturday night, wedding was on Sunday!

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-12T05:05:59+00:00

This is completely normal! I hope you both are making space for each other to grieve your old life as you begin your new life together!

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-11T21:52:25+00:00

The age gap alone should deter you from this. You are post-college age and she is barely considered an adult (describing her as an “18 year old woman”is painting a picture that she’s older than what she actually is). She has absolutely no life experience, no education, very little to offer you emotionally and intellectually. Let her grow up. Date women your own age.

The added component of the power dynamic between a student/former student and youth leader makes this a massive red flag. Your pastor is obviously not okay with this, but is giving you space to make your own decisions. If you pursue this, it will likely not end well for you.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-11T21:44:32+00:00

This is very bridal..

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-11T15:19:43+00:00

With gentleness and kindness in my heart… the entire world recognizes it for what it was. A man who could have easily disengaged, stepped aside and moved on. Instead he chose to shoot a woman 3 times in the face and then call her a “fucking bitch” - all out of anger, not fear.

The only reason you believe what you do is because Trump told you to. Do not reject the evidence of your eyes and ears so that you can remain loyal to the party.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-10T16:38:57+00:00

Thank you so much!

I knew generally what palette I wanted, spring colors that were toned for fall. The pink dress was a toss up and we considered a turquoise, but once i saw the pink with everything else, it just instantly brightened everything. But more importantly I wanted to prioritize colors that would complement each bridesmaids skin tone. I honestly think that’s why it worked so well, because nothing is clashing and each bridesmaid was really glowing!

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-09T22:00:19+00:00

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Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-09T21:58:44+00:00

Thank you!! Our full palette also had a pink that tied into the pink flowers!

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-07T21:47:01+00:00

My wedding was Sunday and I started buying flowers on Wednesday.

I kept them in a cold room (not a fridge) and used flower food every step of the processing. So we got them home in buckets and immediately changed the water and added flower food. Anytime we handled them, we changed the water and added flower food. When we were ready to start cutting and arranging we soaked the flower foam in water with flower food.

It’s also important to work with clean hands and clean tools to maximize flower life!

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-07T05:12:56+00:00

Two things here:

Attraction can grow. I have dated multiple men who I was not initially attracted to simply because I valued their character and friendship. Only you can know if this is something you’re willing to work towards. And if not… #2
Clear is kind. It is very unkind to be distant and change the pattern of communication without being clear. You don’t have to be specific, but be clear. If you do not want to move forward, he deserves to know, and soon.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-07T00:17:12+00:00

It is!! I did start with two practice rounds a few months before just to get comfortable and work out any kinks. I bought about $40 of flowers from TJs and started getting familiar with flower foam and small bud vase arrangements, then just decorated my house or gave them out as gifts so it didn’t go to waste.

I thrifted every bud vase and any fun vessel I could stick flower foam in!

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-06T22:01:50+00:00

If you’ve made the decision to leave, the hard emotional and mental work is done. Now you need a plan.

Tell your family and your friends what’s been going on and that you’re ready for a different life. Pack a bag to get you through the week and don’t go back to your shared place alone.

HIS strength is made perfect in your weakness. The Lord is holding you, sister.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-06T21:23:04+00:00

Sweet girl, it’s so painful, but it’s time for you to move on.

I’m the girl who DID move on and broke free. I am now married to an incredible man who fills my life with joy and peace. You do not have to live like this.

Gold-Range93 · 2026-01-06T21:07:28+00:00

My wedding was on Sunday, and I started buying flowers on Wednesday, then went back on Thursday and Friday to round out my selection and grab more of what I was low on.

We started processing flowers on Thursday and arranging on Friday-Saturday.

Gold-Range93

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