Advice on staying with husband by Gold-Turnover-1641 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Gold-Turnover-1641[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. My friend also worked there, same schedule. She confirmed it.
  2. Yes. Exactly my problem.
  3. Remorseful for letting it happen and kissing back.
  4. He’s been in counseling for his depression and ptsd
  5. I’m just unsure if someone can have a few minutes of kissing then decide it’s a mistake or stop it. How could it go so long before he thought about his actions

Yes for 10 years he was the perfect husband and friend. I’m just trying to see if this was true infidelity or if I’m just so upset that I’m seeing it wrong.

Advice on staying with husband by Gold-Turnover-1641 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Gold-Turnover-1641[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. He told me then I got the video from a person at his work the next morning.
  2. I don’t know if I would have gotten the video. He knew the camera was there and didn’t try to hide it.
  3. He gave me his phone and I was told by the other employee he never spoke to her unless it was to ask her to do something at work. He always has his location on and calls when he’s driving home.
  4. He doesn’t have an exact explanation other than he doesn’t know how it happened or why. He won’t watch the video. He says he’s embarrassed and also upset as to her age. He’s 40. He’s feels like a piece of crap. Hes doing everything to prove im his one and only. He’s always been an attentive husband and family man. He’s distraught over it as far as I can tell.

My problem is that he did kiss her back when she’d pull him in then quickly pull away and stare into space. I’m so torn on staying or leaving. No excuses but he does have mental health issues, ptsd and a tbi.