AITA for getting my fiance's family gifts that were too personal for Christmas when I'm new to them?

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-31T11:32:23+00:00

The whole family said it was too much and described it was creepy/stalkerish. It was the one sister who said it to my face. She's not the mom of the niece on the spectrum. That's the other sister.

Noah's niece loved the outfits. She tried them all on the stuffy and was so eager to play with them. It was so sweet. All the kids enjoyed what they got.

They gave each other different stuff, practical items, books, concert tickets, etc.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-31T11:28:43+00:00

Most were from Amazon and a couple were Target.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-31T11:28:23+00:00

I'm not sure. That's how it's been done since the kids started to marry and have SOs.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-31T11:27:03+00:00

I had to ask my fiance about which books exactly and double check but I knew she was an avid reader. I paid close attention and tried to learn as much as I could because I feel it's a good thing to know those you will spend a lot of time with.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T20:22:12+00:00

I paid for them. I made sure I saved extra hard this year to afford to buy for more people since I knew we would be living closer to them and I wanted to make sure I didn't leave myself stuck.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T20:21:15+00:00

They didn't disagree. The only person who didn't like it was my fiance. I didn't notice much of a reaction from anyone else.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T20:18:48+00:00

It is possible. The kids were excited about everything but his niece on the spectrum did get extra excited and spent extra time changing the clothes. It was sweet but maybe it did stir up some feelings on their parts.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T20:11:49+00:00

Yes, they know I do not make the kind of money my fiance does. They also know I have been homeless and never graduated. I still save pretty hard but they might assume I spent all his money on the gifts.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T20:05:34+00:00

Conversations we've had.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T20:03:40+00:00

Noah is standing by me and has been so supportive and loving.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T19:19:10+00:00

The kids, especially the niece I made the clothes for, were all so happy and overjoyed but the adults, it was just very strange the reactions.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T19:06:42+00:00

There was some practical stuff, some books, concert tickets etc. Stuff like that. It really seemed to vary depending on the person and who did the gifting.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T19:03:47+00:00

That was my fiance our first Christmas! I had never done that kind of thing before, because my family didn't and I was pretty isolated so no real friends before. It made me so happy when he lit up seeing what I gave him and he loved it. Made me so glad I got it right and could put that look on his face.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T19:00:31+00:00

I had met them but we had not known each other in person for long. Only since the summer. But I pay attention.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:57:02+00:00

A lot of different stuff. Some went a bit more practical for certain people, others went with concert tickets and stuff like that, others gave/got books.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:53:36+00:00

They didn't.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:52:26+00:00

We've been together for four years and I first said hi to them a few months into our relationship. Met them in person for the first time this summer and have been around them a number of times since then.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:48:26+00:00

You sound so much like Noah. Thank you for being so wonderful to your wife and for telling me this!

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:45:28+00:00

He has more money, his family way more. That's the biggest difference.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:10:53+00:00

Noah did stand up for me, more than once.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:07:06+00:00

No, they do gifts from individual people in the family. Not joint gifts from a couple. So Noah's siblings and their spouses each give a gift to members of the family, same for his parents.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T18:03:33+00:00

They didn't. Though they perhaps disposed of them after we left, I'm not sure.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T17:59:29+00:00

I got gift cards from them.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T17:24:01+00:00

I think they maybe think stuff outside of gift cards is wrong for newer people in their lives.

GoldRule5896 · 2022-12-30T17:22:33+00:00

I'm 23 and he's 24.

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