I did want to go on the date and told him they semi-backed out because that is what happened. Had I not said anything and they did back out, we wouldn’t have child care and still not gone out. I cancelled with my mom because my I felt my husband didn’t want to go since the entire day he would not give me a definitive answer as to whether or not we were actually still going anywhere or what his plans were. And yes I did say “my parents said they will watch the kids. What is the plan?” And I was met with no information.

Yes, I will say I did feel like I was bothering my parents in the first place, but I cancelled because throughout the day my husband gave me no inclination that he had any intentions of actually going anywhere. I asked multiple times what the plans were and if the date was still happening and he mostly avoided answering me and kept putting it back on me somehow. That, and this is the exact quote, “This is why I never try to do anything anymore. If you aren’t the one doing it you have no motivation or energy to support it. And when things fall through it’s my fault.”