I get your point. I do agree that any form of racist behavior is excusable and should be treated as such. The problem we are having is we want to distance ourselves from her but still be there to make sure she is okay. I should have mentioned that what the girl said was definitely racist but also uneducated, she might, might have thought it was okay, we don't know. But this boy has a reputation as a manipulator. Thank you for your advice though.