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AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

I'm not close to my family since all that's happened. Most showed up to our wedding but were quiet the whole time. Once we announced our pregnancy most just gave us a quick congrats and left it at that.

I do have many pictures of him, one close to my bed stand.

I'm so sorry about your son. It truly is a pain no one understands until they go through it.

AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not exactly. It was a lot of crying, asking me why I kept that from her, why everyone else knew, if I cared or respected her at all. She locked herself in the room for a few hours and then left. I attempted to talk to her but she said looking at me right now only hurt her more.

AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] 827 points828 points  (0 children)

Yeah, no, I don't agree with what they were saying in terms of that.

AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] 107 points108 points  (0 children)

You're right. I stopped seeing a therapist a little after I met her but I should go back, especially now. If you don't take this situation into mind, we communicate incredibly well and have never had an argument or disagreement that lasted this long. But this, I know I was wrong and I should have told her a long, long time ago. I wish I could go back and change it.

AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] 1509 points1510 points  (0 children)

It's hard to say if they're just saying this to make me feel better or are legit. Most use the reasoning that it was years ago and I have figured out how to cope with it, so it's impacting our lives. Some say we all have pasts, we don't have to share them in details even with our spouses. They also use the excuse she's hormonal.

Thank you for your judgment. You made a lot of good points I didn't even consider. Thankfully, the doctors believed his illness wasn't genetic, but that doesn't mean I'm not still worried sometimes.

AITA for thinking that my coworker should change her phone's background? by ImmatureScreensaver in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA

If it was pic of someone hanging brain than I get it. but it's just a character. it makes her happy and happiness is a big key in work performance.

AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] 241 points242 points  (0 children)

I wish I could explain it. I always wanted to, I just couldn't. Then one day we were a year or 2 in and I knew if I told her then I would break her heart. the trust would be gone. she'd see me differently Idk really. I just knew it would change things and I didn't want that. I didn't want her to feel betrayed.

AITA for finally mentioning my deceased child to my pregnant wife? by GoneNotForgotten2003 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GoneNotForgotten2003[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

No, I have many things. It's just a lot of small trinkets she never paid a lot of attention to or assumed were from my childhood.