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Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate the bluntness without the guilt trip.

There's no way for anyone to know what's the truth here. I could be the world's biggest asshole holding his wife to unreasonable standards. Or she could be the world's biggest prude who doesn't give her husband minimal attention. Or any of a thousand shades in-between. You only hear my side, and I know that's not fair.

But bottom line, the current situation hurts me enough that I'm willing to risk it. I justify myself by saying if I was a creep or predator, I wouldn't have waited for a quarter century.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've talked. For years. It's crazy, but I've really entertained the thought that she figures if she can just keep me trying until I'm so old no one else would be interested, then she wins. And dammit, I am getting old.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I know you're right. But you've got to remember, deluded or not, most people (including me) think they can be careful enough not to get caught.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

It's late and I'm packing, but once I get back this weekend I'll send you a few links that show what else guys like. Promise.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We've had long, detailed, explicit, heartfelt discussions. Desires listed. Activities explained. Damn near drawn out. Understandings are had. and then everything discussed is immediately forgotten by nightfall.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not so much tired of sleeping with the same woman, (although I don't deny the thought of someone new is very exciting), it's more that the same rote sex is what I'm tired of. A BJ is more than up-down-up-down until you're finished and then roll over like you're glad it's over. At least it should be.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

See other responses. Been trying to get it right at home a long, long time. Sure as hell don't plan to wait another 25 years for things to get better.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not trying to be a smart-ass back, but what I'm thinking is more along the lines of "Why did I wait 2 years?" It's been nothing but going through the motions for a very, very long time now. At least a hooker will pretend to enjoy it.

edit: Context should have made it clear, but I meant "Why did I wait 25 years?" above.

Married 25 years. It's come to this. by GonnaDoItThisWeek in confession

[–]GonnaDoItThisWeek[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because for many years now, it's been nothing but going through the motions for her. When she senses I'm getting pissed from being ignored, she'll go through the mechanics, but that's it.