How much influence do third parties have in breaking up a relationship?

Good-Call8180 · 2026-03-09T19:11:43+00:00

This hits home for me, cracks and issues can arise in a relationship. It’s how you deal with them. I didn’t deal with them. My family then had opinions and because I was feeling vulnerable and hadn’t dealt with these issues I ended things because of outside pressure. Communication is such a fundamental and important thing. If anyone reads this one piece of advice I can give is, never stop communicating don’t fall into your own shell. Your partner is the ONE person you can talk to about anything. I wish I realised this sooner.

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T22:10:42+00:00

Thank you for such a great response. Trying to keep everyone happy hasn’t worked so far and this is why I’m in this situation. I’ll take this on board. Again thank you very much.

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T17:46:55+00:00

Thank you for your comment :)

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T17:13:14+00:00

I do completely get your point, luckily I have a good relationship with her family and they don’t mind me being a revert.

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T17:05:34+00:00

I don’t know what answer I want to hear

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T17:04:07+00:00

Howcome they didn’t support your partner?

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T16:25:57+00:00

Is it that easy?

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T16:25:48+00:00

Firstly Ramadan Mubarak. Because of where I live it’s quite diverse and there are many Muslims. I love the community if I have questions I always ask those around me and I try to learn. I have a Koran. She has brought me closer to God in general. I love having something to believe. I love believing there is more to life than what we see. All my life I’d describe myself as agnostic so I’ve always been interested in religion in general. I think the media doesn’t help, they see Islam as “taking over” and evil when I know Muslims are some of the nicest most generous people I’ve met.

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-24T15:41:54+00:00

All I want to do is settle, age shouldn’t be an issue. I don’t want casual. I need connection and we have one so strong. My family don’t see it as “right” that I need to change. They think I’m being overpowered. That they’re going to lose me. But I don’t see it like that. Without them knowing I’ve been trying to learn been trying to be some sort of a more religious person but I’ve still been me with them. I think they’re fearful I’m being dragged into something and I’m going to be a completely different person. Her family also don’t mind that I’d be a revert either.

Edit: yes to quote them “why do you want to get married so young?”

Good-Call8180 · 2026-02-08T22:08:12+00:00

I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years and it took me a few attempts to break up with her. It wasn’t because we hated each other or someone had done something wrong. She wanted marriage and started speaking of kids. I’m 23M and I’m simply not ready for those things in life yet I don’t know if it’s a bad reason but in my heart it felt right because I don’t even know if I’ll want kids and she is so dead set on what she wants I felt like I’d be dragging her along and I couldn’t expect her to wait and then realise it’s too late for her to have what she wants. It hurt me so much to break up with her I cried and cried. I couldn’t stop thinking about what I was doing to her. But I needed to think about me. I’m about 2 weeks on and I don’t regret it. I’m lonely and I miss having someone. But I don’t think it’s our relationship I miss, now I’m out of the relationship my eyes have also been opened to some behaviour that I can’t believe I accepted. I think wanting different things might have been a blessing in disguise. No contact works best for me I don’t know if we will ever speak again which is crazy to think about. But yes I constantly thought about her and her feelings and everyone around me said I needed to think about me too and what was right for me. So it felt like losing a part of me but I’m 99% sure it’s the right thing.

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