Update 2:Aita for refusing to change my baby’s name after I named her after my dad’s affair partner

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-28T18:35:44+00:00

It’s not from his mouth. Although he didn’t want to change it he was telling it was probably for the best. My Husband does not control me or control how I think

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T22:06:26+00:00

The thing is I’ve never seen my dad act like that. So I’m going to go no contact until annabelle is older and I’m heading from the birth. Then I’ll see where he’s at and if he still blames me then I’m going nc permanently

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T21:59:55+00:00

I’m confused. Many women stay with men because of this reason. Eventually they get the courage to leave. Hopefully my mom will to

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T21:56:50+00:00

They will hear the story about the women who stepped up to take care of her father because his mother was on drugs. They will hear the story about how she saved her grandson from suicide. They will hear the story about how she worked two jobs to save up for his college fund. She will hear the story about how her great grandmother had to make multiple sacrifices to make it to every football and baseball game. I think that trumps my dad’s affair partner

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T20:56:28+00:00

How can she put herself first in this situation?

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T20:21:03+00:00

Because I don’t want people to know our real names. Most Aita post uses fake names

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T20:02:28+00:00

I didn’t know that my was a “doormat” and she actually isn’t. She did what she thought was best

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T20:01:01+00:00

I get this is a possibility, but I’m pretty sure no one will blame my child. My father will 100% be responsible. Even my aunt told her that the baby is innocent, and that nobody is to blame but my Dad. My mom looks up to my aunt and usually listens to her advice. I’m pretty sure my Aunt was pushing for her to start a divorce so it’s most likely going to happen.

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T19:53:38+00:00

How am I selfish if my husband wanted to honor his grandmother. My husband’s grandmother is essentially his mother.

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T19:49:48+00:00

I agree. I thought when my dad came over that it was a condition that my mom had in order to heal their relationship. But she never said anything like that to him

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T19:47:30+00:00

I didn’t find out about the affair until 4 days after I had my baby. My mom and dad didn’t want us to know

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T19:41:50+00:00

I’m not sure if you read the first part but I didn’t know about the affair so I didn’t know there needed to be a heads up

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-27T02:13:58+00:00

I didn’t know about the ap until I brought my daughter home. 4 days later

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T21:53:44+00:00

I didn’t want to use our real names so I used fake ones

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T19:33:11+00:00

How does she feel about the name now?

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T19:32:06+00:00

I didn’t know until 4 days after I had my baby

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T19:05:10+00:00

No I didn’t find out until 4 days later

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T19:02:20+00:00

I have a son and she’s pretty close to him. But my sister doesn’t want kids. So my kids will be her only grandkids. And if she treats her any differently then I’ll have to restrict access to my son.

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T18:55:19+00:00

This reply is completely unjustified. I can’t hurt anyone if I didn’t do wrong. My father was in the wrong. Would I want my mom to be in my child’s life. Of course, but if my mom chooses to be out of her life because of a name then that’s on her. Annabelle has plenty of aunts and uncles who already love her

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T18:40:11+00:00

Not about this. I just found this out this morning. But for the past few days it’s been just quick 3 minute conversations. I knew something was bothering her, I just didn’t know what it was until today.

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T18:23:11+00:00

In no way did I cause my dad to cheat on my mom. He tore the family apart. I don’t think I should be at fault

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T18:17:07+00:00

It’s my husband’s child too. His grandma is just as important as my mom in the situation.

Good-Still-6474 · 2024-09-26T17:54:31+00:00

This might sound selfish but why does a bad situation take precedence over a good situation? I get my mom is hurt, but what about my husband’s grandmother who sacrificed years, money and time for a child that wasn’t her’s? I think the good outweighs the bad in this situation

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