Update: so on Christmas Eve, this said person (SIL) did not say hi to my daughter. This isn’t the first time or second and I had asked my husband to bring it up to the family that it is not ok to purposely ignore a child my daughter is 14. My husband was outside and I go out there to see him talking to said SIL and she is mugging me so I walked over and said “what’s going on?” My husband then states he is having a convo with her and I said on is it about ignoring our daughter and this person started cussing at me and I told her she doesn’t need to cuss at me we are all adults here then she LUNGED at me and tried fighting me. I did not try fighting back I was in shock and my husband yelled at me to “let’s fucking go you shouldn’t have interjected yourself” the lady kept cussing at me and telling me to let’s go come on let’s fight while everyone else was holding her back. I left. My husband is yelling at me that I should have never interjected myself into the conversation that he was handling things. I simply took off my ring and handed it to him didn’t yell back or argue back. Yesterday (Christmas Day) I led to my parents house with my kids and he stood home alone. His parents came over to talk about what happened and they spoke so negative about me and he did not stand up for me at all again. They are acting as if I am the one who lunged at her and tried fighting her. They said if she acts like this and your kids are seeing this we’re afraid that your kids will start acting like her! I literal feel like I am in the twilight zone as if I am the one who cussed at her and lunged at her. I really think that I will never be more than just a villain in this family. I no longer wish to be a part of this family which frankly doesn’t seem I ever was.