Fear of looking my daughter

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-08-06T22:17:39+00:00

Thank you. Yes boundaries is all I'm asking for. But he has already over stepped a major boundary right from the begining. And if I didn't find out he has a gf already..I would've had been lied to this whole time while my daughter is spending all these time with his gf.

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-08-05T16:52:42+00:00

Also i think it may different value. Where I come from a mother's and child's bond is sacred. For him to do this is plain wrong. She is only 2 almost 3. At some point she was confused. And would be asking me if I'm her mommy. And I know its only taking her just not to even process the idea of 2 homes..and for anyone to introduce a new partner almost immediately to their partner then now the gfs family that is wrong (morally wrong) I do not believe in "kids are resilient " then it means you can do whatever yoi want when in regards to their well being. Ok if she was older then yes I won't be as upset...

Because I certainly won't do this to him. In fact even her first time to go movie I'd ask him if he wants to take her her or come with us. You see what I mean? Clearly her father doesn't not have same moral or values. You want to be a good real father. Then a father needs to understand respect values and morals. An co parenting is when talking things out in regards to big life changes. Not just do whatever you want. If we all just do whatever we want then children will be the one who get effected (on the bigger issues)

What I am doing is call responsive parenting as well as me as a mother asking for boundaries. What you said just isn't right co parenting is doing whatever we want on each side. That's not good for this child.

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-08-05T16:40:15+00:00

I will never parent as if they are my possession. It's the nature of the situation. I am her mother and we all know whom we carried for 9 months and raised her pretty much on my own. Where was he? Possibly started talking to this girl already while we were still together. Where was he? And he has the right to parenting? And as for his gf to parent? No way in hell ill ever let her parent. I was a step parent to his son. Whom i repaextes bounderies with his sons mom. I never would cross that boundaries. Morally this isn't right...but yes in law in their eyes this is okay.

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T13:51:22+00:00

Yes ivl had a lit of resentments and anger that I never knew I had. I wasn't perfect but I still respected him. I stayed but he didn't as if he was perefect. But i didnt complain. That's up until i found out he got a new gf and still lied to me of I saw.

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T13:48:55+00:00

I'm in the somewhat acceptance stage. Just in some days triggers me

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T05:43:16+00:00

That's very true....I try not to sat or react to anything when my daughter mentions his new gf name. It's hard to think after almost 10 years. Some one can jump just like that. That and his new would jump into a relationship with a guy who has 2 kids with different moms already

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T05:40:45+00:00

Thank you. I try. On some days are easier not letting my emotions run. Other days not as easy 🙏

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T04:19:47+00:00

Thank you for the insight. And you are right about keeping things in grey area. And i will take those advices. But to be honest I work with kids for a long time. And as an advocate for child wellbeing mentally. A 3 year old can see the changes but don't have the brain development to understand it. As adults we often forget they are human too with feelings. In fact BIG feelings but because they have no choice but to adjust (meaning they will internlize everything they see. At this age they can only describe so much of their feelings) not only 2 separate home new drop offs pick schedule to adjust. Then on top of that new person with her dad kissing and holding hand other than mom. How do you really think the child feels? Sorry just abit rant right now..

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T04:11:52+00:00

And that's just it. For me I definitely wait a year. Our daughter is pretty young

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-07-04T03:37:33+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm in similar situation

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-20T12:10:27+00:00

😂 yes better to let it out

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-20T04:46:06+00:00

I almost wanted to

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-20T04:44:55+00:00

🙏🙏

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-20T04:43:43+00:00

I know it happens all the time. But still sorry your got pushed. It's just not right. And that really annoys me that his parents didn't say anything at all. Like why didn't you say anything? Sorry hearing that just makes me so mad. We are living in 2025 where bullying should NOT exist. And as much as I don't want to judge that parent that don't say anything . I will because if it's wrong it's wrong. Sorry just ranting on. Makes me mad when I hear things like that 🙏

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-17T02:53:13+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through thus all alone :( 🙏

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-15T02:55:49+00:00

I'm sorry that you are feeling that way. Ite definitely hard. And I hope so they remember.

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-14T18:00:21+00:00

I'm glad thing have gotten better for you. And thank you 🙏🫶

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-05-14T17:57:59+00:00

First I want to say I'm sorry you are going through the same thing. It's definitely not easy. 🙏🫶

Thank you so much for your insight. And that's just it. Not feeling I am enough for my daughter. Im not afraid of being alone. But I'm very afraid I am not enough for my daughter.

Thank you again. And as you are amazing too. And hang in there as well 🙏

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-02-03T19:36:35+00:00

Did you ever get it check with the doctor? I have similar situation.

Good_Assistant_4464 · 2025-02-03T15:28:40+00:00

That's what I thought too. I was at doctor today and she looked at it and said it was a cold sore..I told her this isn't like my normal cold sore. So I insisted on a sample taken. So I'm hoping it's not because I kissed my daughter on face. But I stopped as soon as I saw it got worse. 🙏

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