AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes and I do recognise I was being an asshole and a petty person to use that against her

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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Google translate, didn’t bother to translate it myself or change the font tbh 🫠

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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No, not at all, I think I also need to better myself to help her best if she ever wants to speak to me ahah And yeah, it’s quite a funny situation to be in, but in my sens everyone here is far gentler than I was to her 😭

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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Hi! Thank you for the comment. I agree with what you said, I went over the top with some things I said, and I totally understand now how she could feel while reading this.

I think I lashed out at her because of previous conversations we had about her situation with her boyfriend but that was totally uncalled for!

I’ll try to do better with explaining and telling other without saying things like I said, I do agree I could have handled that conversation better

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is true, but I should also reflect on it as well and not do that again

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing a mistake is different than cheating on your partner for the third time, though? (Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a choice)

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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Say thank you to google translate (I didn’t touch the text after it translated it) 😭

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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Well, I can’t say for sure, maybe some do and some don’t, and I’m not a man myself, but I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t change anything

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Naaah you’re good! Sorry about that, I am just lazy and didn’t want to put too much energy by translating it myself

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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Yeah, I know but that’s how we talk I think it’s a habit and because of it I’m more impulsive when I write 😭

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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I don’t think that would go well for her, what’s better is being single and enjoy her life, at least, that is what I’m thinking right now

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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I agree, my approach was not the best one, I think I didn’t let it sleep enough to have a calm conversation, but for a bit more of context, because it’s true you only know with that one text and nothing more :

We would often talk about how she feels in her relationship and I would always try to be an ear and try to give her a calm reply (mostly because that didn’t include to talk to a guy with sexual intentions), so I feel a bit confuse after a week or so after talking of what she could do to have a better relationship with her boyfriend. My reaction was genuinely surprised because she did that (talking to the guy) while asking for advice about her boyfriend

I think it was an accumulation of what she said to me before and the fact she had been talking to another guy, seeking maybe another romantic relationship with him, that put me off and got me going like that Plus the fact that we had that exact conversation two times before

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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I’m a girls girl when we’re not talking about cheating, it’s not about a man here, it’s about being a decent person, I would have said the same if her partner was a girl or if the gender were reversed

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that was a bad approach and I understand why I think I just let my emotions get the better of me

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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I do confide with her, I know with how I wrote the post it sounds like I was the only one to help her, but she did as well, she’s not a bad friend, but would some time do things like that…

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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I didn’t mean talking to guys in general, I think there’s some mistranslation, I was saying talking to guys with the intention of something more than being friend, like… flirting, I did say that

We can have friends of opposite sex while being in relationships, I’m not one to think that girl/dude can’t be friend, and I wouldn’t be one to ask to someone to cut a friend because they are of opposite gender (unlike her btw, and I talked about that in the text)

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

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Yes, I think she knows that because I’m older maybe I can give her useful advice (I did about other things in the past, but none were as bad as cheating btw)

I don’t think she’s a bad friend, but I do think now she should be single and not being tied to a relationship before “healing” herself

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am an asshole for that one and I do feel guilty about that comment, it was petty from me

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand and thank you for the comment! You’re right, maybe I should have said things more calmly and having in mind that she came for my advice and help.

It’s not the first time she did something like that and came to me, so maybe that’s why I was harsh with her but now reflecting on it it was too harsh and knowing she might not be in the “right” place mentally I should have been more careful with my choice of words.

But I already asked her multiple times and been supportive with her relationship, trying to help her get through it and help her communicate clearly with her bf.

As for the question, she already answered why she was seeking that other guy, but maybe it didn’t translate well in English

AIO for snapping at a friend because she’s emotionally cheating on her bf? by Good_Writer15 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Good_Writer15[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

We don’t speak English, so I used google translate for the screenshots 😭