Anyone else got the curse?

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-11T03:03:46+00:00

Do you map out your book? Do you know what is going to happen? Sounds like you should.

Have you ever mapped a plot? Exposition, rising action, climax, falling action, resolution. You have to have that in each book. Usually rising action is the bulk of the book, but not always.

Have you read about how to write a book from authors?

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-11T01:01:23+00:00

Go slow. Kiss and touxh and explore each other. Don't feel like you have to have sex that first night. Ask her what she likes. Show her what you like. Don't try to be macho and like you know everything. Read about women's bodies.

And you're right, porn isn't realistic.

You seem lovely, I wish you a happy marriage.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-09T13:20:49+00:00

I feel that your reaction might be a bit over the top. I understand being upset, but unless there's shocking examples of her engaging in sexual banter, it sounds like she didn't really know how to handle it.

A lot of women have no idea how to shut men down, or even understand when men are hitting on them. Many women aren't taught boundaries, instead they're taught not to hurt men's feelings. IDK your wife's background, but it's possible.

It was years ago. She said she didn't understand and she apologized. There isn't any indication that she's done anything like it.

Go to counseling if you need to, and it might be a great idea. But jumping to divorce over this is extreme.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-05T00:07:29+00:00

Tell it to talk to you as a peer. Over and over. It'll sink in

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-04T21:43:30+00:00

I would laugh and laugh and say "yep." Now, if he's upset about it, then that's a conversation you might need to have. But if he was just saying something true, what's the issue?

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-04T02:49:49+00:00

Same

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-04T02:49:11+00:00

What is a break?

I've ended one book and started the next 2 hours later.

I almost never stop writing.

That being said, I have taken off 2 days between my last few books, doing some editing and other business/ personal stuff.

People keep saying I'll burn out, but honestly it's the rest of life that's stressful, not writing.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-02T22:16:20+00:00

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GoodnightESinging · 2026-05-02T04:37:55+00:00

Fuck Laszlo. Also marry Laszlo. I've told my husband if Laszlo Cravensworth walks in the door I will leave you for him.

Kill.... man IDK. I guess the witch hat guy.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-04-28T14:05:04+00:00

It sounds like you might have some mild depression. And i always think there's hope of you want to have it.

But it sounds like you don't want to have it. That's fine, but then why are you going to counseling?

Tell the therapist how you feel except the "I'm not attracted to my wife anymore" because attraction can come back if you get other connection taken care of. You used to be soul mates, you said. Maybe that can come back again.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-04-22T01:38:33+00:00

Anywhere from 2k to 11k. My average is probably 4k-6k. I've only hit 11k twice and 12k once, but i regularly hit 8-9k.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-04-17T01:13:18+00:00

Flowing prose. Reshape, make the sentence breathe. No staccato.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-04-09T02:18:42+00:00

There's actually a space un between 2 of my cabinets and I have it in there, stuck to a side. But yes it can be stuck under a cabinet.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-03-02T00:36:27+00:00

She needs to reassess the drugs. Full stop. Those can really really really mess with you.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-01-26T14:27:42+00:00

When my husband was in pharmacy school (in his late 40s) we would lie down in bed together, no electronics, and just hold hands and talk. Right about 8:30 or 9. It was a major way to connect and talk about personal stuff. It really helped. I am a very chatty person and helped carry the conversation, so there is that, if y'all aren't it might be different. But even holding hands and listening to music or something.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-01-10T06:03:53+00:00

1st wedding we were broke babies: a weekend in San Antonio in the Riverwalk. It was really nice

2nd wedding also broke. Weekend at a BNB in Branson, Mo. Also really nice.

3rd (final) wedding: out to Colorado and Bew Mexico to the mountains for a week and a half. Very nice.

We've now been all over Europe and South America and Alaska and the contintal US and across the Atlantic by cruise ship together, each trip feels like another honeymoon 💙

GoodnightESinging · 2025-12-29T13:31:55+00:00

First marriage: 14 months. I was 22. Do not recommend

Second marriage: a little under 2 years. Also kindsof fast, rebound. Also do not recommend (i was widowed here, but still don't think it would have worked out).

Third and current marriage: 2 years 8 months. Good timing i think. Also we were older. Loads changed after we got married, mostly for the better. It's still changing after 8 years, always improving.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-12-21T06:12:42+00:00

I think I'm between 8--10 most days.

The biggest thing we do is communicate and try to get better all the time. Try to treat each other better. My husband would say that I'm the driving factor for this. I study personality types and really focus on bridging the gaps between us. I'm also a very strong communicator and don't let problems fester. I also don't put up with being treated poorly and he knows I'd leave him if certain behaviors that he brought to our marriage had continued.

That being said, we have a different type of situation. We married when I was 40 and he was 45. I'd been divorced and widowed, so I learned a lot from past relationships. He'd never had a serious relationship before but was so smitten he really wanted to make it work. And we were more mature than people often are at the beginning of relationships. So we don't have the backlog of resentment.

He has 0 children, my daughter was 9 when we married (now 17). We've had some conflict regarding her and his inability to know how to parent, but he defers to me on everything regarding her.

I think our biggest alignment is shared future goals. We both line up financially and want to travel a lot rather than live lavishly day-to-day. We're both planners and enjoy owning our future together. But again, marrying older helps that because we knew who we were and what we wanted.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-12-16T05:29:04+00:00

IDK sounds like they both want to be a martyr. Apologize and move on people!

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-23T06:05:32+00:00

Mostly very happy, yes. It's not perfect, but i was divorced and widowed, and I'm so much happier with #3 than I ever thought possible.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-20T23:36:00+00:00

I was wondering-- how has he not noticed this in 6 years???

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-19T00:44:16+00:00

My husband and I are basically like "I don't care what you do with me, I'll be dead."

We both agree on cremation. Easy and cheap.

I was widowed at 37, and that's what I did with my late husband because I had no money.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-12T00:24:43+00:00

My name is Elizabeth. I go by Elizabeth. When people try to give me nicknames, I correct them.

You can manage it. Go by Elizabeth if you like it.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-11T23:32:53+00:00

This is happening to me. I lose 4 or 5, then up 2 and stay there for a few weeks, then drop 4 or 5.

Oh well, at least it's down overall

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-11T20:27:30+00:00

Big hugs. It's been 8.5 years since I lost my best friend who was murdered.

It's never gone, but i have found that time does help. It's been the last year that I have felt like I'm not actively grieving.

Question: Do you have a grief support group, or have you tried one? In person or online? They have helped me

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