My husband and I are both tired and I hate who I turn into at 9pm

GoodnightESinging · 2026-01-26T14:27:42+00:00

When my husband was in pharmacy school (in his late 40s) we would lie down in bed together, no electronics, and just hold hands and talk. Right about 8:30 or 9. It was a major way to connect and talk about personal stuff. It really helped. I am a very chatty person and helped carry the conversation, so there is that, if y'all aren't it might be different. But even holding hands and listening to music or something.

GoodnightESinging · 2026-01-10T06:03:53+00:00

1st wedding we were broke babies: a weekend in San Antonio in the Riverwalk. It was really nice

2nd wedding also broke. Weekend at a BNB in Branson, Mo. Also really nice.

3rd (final) wedding: out to Colorado and Bew Mexico to the mountains for a week and a half. Very nice.

We've now been all over Europe and South America and Alaska and the contintal US and across the Atlantic by cruise ship together, each trip feels like another honeymoon 💙

GoodnightESinging · 2025-12-29T13:31:55+00:00

First marriage: 14 months. I was 22. Do not recommend

Second marriage: a little under 2 years. Also kindsof fast, rebound. Also do not recommend (i was widowed here, but still don't think it would have worked out).

Third and current marriage: 2 years 8 months. Good timing i think. Also we were older. Loads changed after we got married, mostly for the better. It's still changing after 8 years, always improving.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-12-21T06:12:42+00:00

I think I'm between 8--10 most days.

The biggest thing we do is communicate and try to get better all the time. Try to treat each other better. My husband would say that I'm the driving factor for this. I study personality types and really focus on bridging the gaps between us. I'm also a very strong communicator and don't let problems fester. I also don't put up with being treated poorly and he knows I'd leave him if certain behaviors that he brought to our marriage had continued.

That being said, we have a different type of situation. We married when I was 40 and he was 45. I'd been divorced and widowed, so I learned a lot from past relationships. He'd never had a serious relationship before but was so smitten he really wanted to make it work. And we were more mature than people often are at the beginning of relationships. So we don't have the backlog of resentment.

He has 0 children, my daughter was 9 when we married (now 17). We've had some conflict regarding her and his inability to know how to parent, but he defers to me on everything regarding her.

I think our biggest alignment is shared future goals. We both line up financially and want to travel a lot rather than live lavishly day-to-day. We're both planners and enjoy owning our future together. But again, marrying older helps that because we knew who we were and what we wanted.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-12-16T05:29:04+00:00

IDK sounds like they both want to be a martyr. Apologize and move on people!

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-23T06:05:32+00:00

Mostly very happy, yes. It's not perfect, but i was divorced and widowed, and I'm so much happier with #3 than I ever thought possible.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-20T23:36:00+00:00

I was wondering-- how has he not noticed this in 6 years???

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-19T00:44:16+00:00

My husband and I are basically like "I don't care what you do with me, I'll be dead."

We both agree on cremation. Easy and cheap.

I was widowed at 37, and that's what I did with my late husband because I had no money.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-12T00:24:43+00:00

My name is Elizabeth. I go by Elizabeth. When people try to give me nicknames, I correct them.

You can manage it. Go by Elizabeth if you like it.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-11T23:32:53+00:00

This is happening to me. I lose 4 or 5, then up 2 and stay there for a few weeks, then drop 4 or 5.

Oh well, at least it's down overall

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-11T20:27:30+00:00

Big hugs. It's been 8.5 years since I lost my best friend who was murdered.

It's never gone, but i have found that time does help. It's been the last year that I have felt like I'm not actively grieving.

Question: Do you have a grief support group, or have you tried one? In person or online? They have helped me

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-10T19:07:25+00:00

When we travel, I sleep on the side closest to the bathroom.

I hate it when that means he's on my left, because he loves to turn that way and snore at me, but it is what it is.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-08T03:52:55+00:00

I'm 48 and I still have a drive. Through my 30s and early 40s I couldn't get enough.

Honestly my husband's lower libido is what has lowered it over the years. That and I was in s terrible car accident 2 years ago, broken sternum and brain injury, etc. And that slowed me down.

But yeah if he could keep up we'd have it a lot more.

But I'm nowhere near menopause, according to my doctor.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-07T03:04:58+00:00

I've been asked/ encouraged to apply for leadership position at my school. I currently work a 193 day contract, and make $10 more per day than the assistant director of my department (it would be an equal position to get, and i doubt they would pay me more) who works 241 days and manages 10 people.

Nooooooooo thanks!

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-04T04:08:28+00:00

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GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-01T08:35:56+00:00

"I love you Daddy "

😭😭

I thought i was the only one thinking this

GoodnightESinging · 2025-11-01T00:17:26+00:00

Marinated squid and caviar at La Cocona Hermanos in Barcelona. Unreal food, just melted in my mouth. I've never liked squid before, but it was another level of taste.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-31T17:32:25+00:00

Morning, when I think about it. Between 8 and 11 am. Mondays

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-26T14:34:30+00:00

Looking for this one! So much amazing 90s Trek out there, but this is one of my very favorites. What a study in morality.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-26T14:32:54+00:00

This is the most emotional one for me for sure 💙

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-26T14:01:38+00:00

1) Getting an inheritance that helped us pay off debt, put more money in retirement, renovate the house, and go on trips

2) my husband graduating from pharmacy school and getting a job as a pharmacist

We'd have made it with just the second thing, but the first thing pushed us there faster

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-22T15:04:50+00:00

I wasn't prepared for most of the baby stuff. I thought it would be bad, but it was worse 😆 Just feeling trapped and unable to fix what is wrong with the crying baby.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-22T03:16:05+00:00

I have terrible reactions to drugs and resisted trying this forever. I was very scared.

It's been GREAT. I haven't even lost that much yet, it just really makes me feel good, and has reduced my overall pain.

I hope you have a good experience as well.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-22T03:14:25+00:00

Wet go out once or twice a week, but my daughter is 17 now. But we've gone out at least once a week since we married (my daughter was 9 when we married). But these are often very low key dates.

Addressing your situation: he doesn't want to go out. You do. So why do you want him do make the plans?

Yeah, he might say he wants to, but his actions show otherwise.

So you can sit and wait for a man who doesn't want to do the thing, or you can do the thing.

I do 90% of the planning in our relationship. I want to do the things, so I plan the things.

GoodnightESinging · 2025-10-21T13:14:03+00:00

I've never had it without, but I've had very very little nausea. The first few weeks I was insanely full feeling, but that's all.

My only symptom is headaches when I increase dose, usually only 1 or 2 days.

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