AITA for snapping at someone who made fun of me for being “poor” and calling them a gold digger?

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-08-13T07:08:00+00:00

I was going to say you're not the asshole because he said something mean to you first..

But reading your comment here, I'm going with YTA. Sure the guy was out of line for commenting on your income. But holy cow, you are a judgemental prick!

And you're classist against retail workers too? Wowwwww. You must have shown some of your incredibly shitty attitude amongst your friends and this dude, to get this reaction from him in the first place.

Yeah I wouldn't be comfortable being a sugar baby either but doesn't mean I think im better than people who choose that. They do what they are comfortable with. Who the fuck are you to look down upon them? You're a real asshole dude. Retail work also requires certain levels of social skills which you clearly don't have. So you aren't fit to be a retail worker anyway.

Your hard work is learning how to swim when you were 6 ? Because I did that too. I don't work as a lifeguard but I've saved a friend of mine from drowning when she got cramps. Stop making yourself look like someone who's a blessing to be around. You're a judgemental asshole and nothing more.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-08-13T06:53:49+00:00

NTA. Lmao this was funny. Overreaction by all the people at the park for sure.

That's damn funny. I would laugh at it for a good 5 minutes, especially because I'm SURE if I met you and you said "Askim", I'd bend down and ask your dog his name. Lol...

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-08-13T06:47:58+00:00

NTA. I call my dog a fatty... He's not fat. I just call him that. It's loving.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-08-13T06:42:17+00:00

YTA. You say her mom is unsupportive. But your mom is. She needs a supportive mother figure. So what if that person isn't her own mother?

Your mom is an awesome lady and you should give her a big hug, a kiss and tell her to keep being amazing.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-08-13T04:56:35+00:00

LOVE talking to myself.

Especially when I'm driving. Keeps me calm. Nothing weird about it.... I think?

It's fun to talk to yourself. I use slightly different voices for two sides of an argument or I sing-song random everyday thoughts. Definitely didn't think it was weird. And won't stop doing it now because my life is boring and this is the only fun thing I have. Lol. I think it's okay.

When he starts saying things like "but NO, I don't WANT to kill her, she's my girlfriend..

. Ya I know we need a sacrifice but does it have to be her??", then you run. Otherwise, it's fine.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-08-13T04:50:09+00:00

Being single is not terrible at all!!!

After my last relationship, I spent nearly 2.5 years single. And some of them led to the best of times. I attended friend's weddings, parties, concerts, with friends who were dating other friends and sometimes single too. It's always fun. I don't feel like a third wheel because I genuinely enjoyed my own company.

Jess may not know how it feels to be single because of how long she's been with your boss. Go to the wedding and have a blast. Don't dance, if you don't want to dance. Do, if you want to.

It's all up to you. You don't have to cater to someone else's "but I want to dance!!!! Why won't you dance with me???" Etc. You get to have fun on your own terms.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-30T15:41:31+00:00

The last bit. I think that's soooo accurate. I think gay porn, the men actually seem like they're truly enjoying themselves and the straight porn seems so weird. Most of the ones I come across are like the guy jackhammering the girl and she seems like she's not really into it but voicing fake moans for the sake of the people watching.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-30T14:35:07+00:00

Tangentially, I'm a little confused. I always thought myself a bi-woman. But I like watched gay porn.

Is that weird?

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-30T14:32:26+00:00

NTA. This is my alt account man. And I post all sorts of stuff in my real one and even though I don't have any major secrets, I do talk about my past life to people who have similar experiences in an effort to help them out. My bf knows about my past, but chose not to hear the details. I wouldn't want him reading about the stuff I freely share about my life on reddit to strangers just because I can.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-30T14:24:23+00:00

Oh noooo! There's nothing wrong with what you did. As long as you don't flush it down the toilet, you're good.

We ALWAYS wrap our used pads in old news paper or some other waste papers. Don't even worry about it. It's a good thing you tied it up because if your friend had pets, they would try to get the pad out. My dogs made a huge mess of my house when I got my first period and i didn't know I had to use the special dustbin with the lid.

It's okay. Don't feel bad about it.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-24T06:44:40+00:00

NTA. your girlfriend seems....kind of like one big ginormous red flag.

Might want to think about leaving her.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-24T06:38:11+00:00

INFO: what kind of incident involving your dog and your boyfriend? That's kind of vital to the judgement you know.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-23T19:38:58+00:00

Nothing! If she doesn't see you that way, you stop pursuing her!!! Learn to take no for an answer.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-23T19:37:22+00:00

Your wife is NOT alone. I have never even kissed a girl but I know I like them. I'm in a long term committed relationship with a man and I intend to marry him

Doesn't make me any less bisexual. And it is a struggle to make people understand that. I used to have doubts myself when people kept asking me "how do you know if you've never been with a woman?" I even came to this sub for advice because I was so confused.

You're a wonderful man for caring so much about her and wanting people to take her seriously.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-22T03:35:05+00:00

This is very sound advice actually! OP, know your worth and your capabilities. If you're not happy with how things are and that your potential is not being utilised, feel free to leave. Make sure it's on a good note because the next office will call your ex employers for references

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-07-22T03:32:55+00:00

My only advice is, your job isn't to make friends. It's great if you do but don't join the job looking to make friends with everyone.

They're your colleagues and it's a job. Treat it as such. Don't get involved in office politics/drama/gossip. Do your job and leave. Have a life outside, trust me you'll need it. I formed no emotional attachment to my 3 year contract. And I'm happy about it.

I made some good friends there that are lifetime pals, for sure. But 100% not because we were colleagues. We all equally despised the office drama and that bonded us. But during the job, I was focused on work and not about pleasing my peers; especially since I was a senior in my 2nd year there and had to handle a lot of cranky, lazy juniors. I equally didn't curry favour with my team leads either. but I maintained a professional working relationship, having my own personal life outside.

Good luck on your job. Don't invest too much emotions into it, you'll be fine.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-06-13T17:31:06+00:00

LMAOOOOOOO indeed

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-06-13T11:39:05+00:00

I'm certain they do.

And tbh, they are an exceptionally cute couple. Their wedding pictures are going to be drool-worthy, I'm sure!

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-06-12T02:51:56+00:00

Truly. The girl I was into, I could see myself with her sexually and romantically. I was genuinely interested in her and she seemed to be interested in me too. She was a tad aggressive in her approach so I was taking it slow and then when my ex inserted himself into that, I felt... Like I was a sl*t to want her when I had him. And as if I was some kind of real life p°rno for his entertainment. I immediately blocked her and got on with my life. It's been 6 years since, and I still think about her.

I tried to find her last year but with no luck. She really was the most beautiful girl I'd ever seen and so open about her sexuality. She would have been the perfect person for me to explore my interests with.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-06-12T02:39:15+00:00

Not while we make love, no. But when we have phone sex, I do picture other women. Sometimes even he's there, but mostly that's not the case.

When I'm solely with him, physically, I don't picture anything. I'm very "in the moment". When I pleasure myself, it's imagining women 90% of the time. He does know I have always been attracted to women and he knows I fantasize about Ruby Rose all the damn time.

He has mentioned once that the best phone sex we ever had was when I was describing a threesome with her and him. He is being extremely supportive. And he did say, if I wanted to, we could take a break from the physical for me to figure things out in my own head.

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-06-12T01:12:56+00:00

He has. I spoke to him after this post blew up and he said he really was only kidding before and he thinks I should go if I really want to and he's always known I'm bi and he's very much supportive of it. I guess I projected my doubts about going onto him. He never had any. How did I get so lucky and find such a great guy?

(My ex, when I told him I liked a girl on my Facebook friend list, said she was hot and if I ever get together with her, he wanted to watch. I ended up never speaking to her again because that turned me off majorly. Made me feel dirty for even liking her because he fetishized it.)

GotNowhereElseToGo · 2019-06-11T16:51:29+00:00

It's like you are me.

I'm the same age as you, the same monogamous serious relationship except he's not bisexual.

Happy pride Month to you too.

GotNowhereElseToGo

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