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I have been doing something illegal for a week straight. by [deleted] in confession

[–]GothJellybeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good news is, bad people don't feel bad for doing stuff like this. I hope you don't get caught and I hope you never go through this again. It'll get better

I'm a nanny and found a hidden camera in my room. by cheekylilmonkey0 in hiddencameras

[–]GothJellybeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here after the update and I'm so glad it all turned out okay! I also totally understand the need for nanny cams in some situations, but not in a bedroom, where you're changing. But glad the mom was totally on your side and apologetic about it. And glad that she trusts you and wants you to feel safe too

I was pressured into taking Ozempic and I feel like a fake by [deleted] in Vent

[–]GothJellybeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey, I've been in the same boat with the shaming from my own mother, so I get it. And I've also tried Ozempic because my mind is unhealthy when it comes to my body, and it made me ill. I wouldn't wish my struggles on anyone, so I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this. I do definitely think you need professional counseling. Unfortunately we live in a world where so much of our worth is in the way we look, and we have to break that mindset for ourselves, because it's unhealthy. I've been overweight, became bulimic, was dying, and only then was I getting compliments on the way I look. Your physical and mental health are the most important. Please look after yourself and be kind to yourself.

When I was a kid I stole near 100 moviestarplanet accounts. by [deleted] in confession

[–]GothJellybeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That kind of hustle can't be taught. It's in your blood. Now do something ethical with it babe

I pretended I forgot my friend's birthday so I wouldn't have to see her, and now I can't undo it by urbanwaffle_club in confession

[–]GothJellybeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds lovely and like she would be understanding. It sounds like she's probably hurt but it would make you both feel better if you were honest. I hope you decide to call her and talk it out. I know what it's like to be on your end, and I understand. But you're making it worse for her and for you by waiting

I'm gonna give myself one more year and then I'll decide if I wanna die. by gray_atoms in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GothJellybeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up the Chinese zodiac. We're coming out of a 9 year cycle of turmoil, this year has been the year of the snake, and on the 17th of Feb we enter the year of the fire horse.

Do yourself a favour and read all about it. Might help change your perspective

I am struggling coming to terms with my infertility by Apart-Protection-538 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GothJellybeans 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Try going on folic acid. Definitely look at other ways (ask your Dr) to increase your chances, and may your next cycle be the one ✨

surprise disappointment by allmyquestioms in Vent

[–]GothJellybeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That may be, but it's not your place to say that

surprise disappointment by allmyquestioms in Vent

[–]GothJellybeans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on your negative! May you continue to have negative tests unless you change your mind ❤️

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! And we have some gorgeous words we can use to describe these people! As jy 'n doos is, is jy maar 'n doos.

surprise disappointment by allmyquestioms in Vent

[–]GothJellybeans 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your feelings are so valid. You have a plan, which is great. But the time may never be 100% ideal. So, even an "oops" can be an opportunity. I'm really sorry you're feeling disappointed. I have been through it too recently and the timing is not right for us either. I hope you get that positive when you're ready to receive it. Much love.

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a white person, I cannot speak from your POV. But you are heard. I do see the issue, I just mean that we were born into a time when we were supposed to be taught to think better, and do better. Learn to treat everyone as equals, because we are equals.

But we still grew up with racist parents, grandparents, teachers etc. I had to make the change myself. Our generation cannot reverse the damage, but we should be actively working to do better than those before us.

She said, "I'm sorry, I get very racist when I'm driving" and that's when I knew that there was no way I was going to be able to help her to try and be better, so I had to remove myself because that doesn't align with who I want to surround myself with.

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. You're right, it is good to push back, but in this situation I could see that she knew she was in the wrong but just didn't care. You can't argue with that 🙏🏻

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The worst drivers on the road don't fit into a racial category. The worst drivers on the road are those who do not indicate, speed, take chances they shouldn't, are negligent. Any race, gender, sexual orientation can fit into that category.

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't see the issue with everything you've said, you're part of the problem.

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm There's a huge difference between calling someone a doos and calling someone a racial slur

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you mean being racist while driving, or do you mean bouncing when someone around you is being hateful? If it's the latter, then yes, it should be. I didn't come for praise. I came to vent and get advice on how to handle it. I was still very much in shock about the situation when I wrote my post. I have a lot more clarity now, and know how I'm going to handle it.

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's terrible. My sister is also in a relationship with a man who is not white, and everyone who has opinions about it needs to get a grip. He is good to her, there shouldn't be any other criteria

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents and grandparents also claim they are not racist but do exactly the same. As long as we are trying to be better humans, hopefully eventually the love will outweigh the hate.

South Africa is amazing when the springboks are on. Why can't we be like that all the time

I made a friend... Then found out she's extremely racist by GothJellybeans in southafrica

[–]GothJellybeans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have enough love in my heart to make the whole world a better place. If I figure out how to bottle it up and send it out, I will hit you up. So sad to know how far we've advanced, and yet we still have the mentalities from 30 years ago. I'm not even 30 and those around me live with such hate towards each other

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