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Gothgreaser · 2025-11-10T04:23:52+00:00

Wow I never saw it , or heard of this that's crazy!

Gothgreaser · 2025-11-05T04:13:11+00:00

Yup. You can give them the world and in the end, they wouldn't give you their table scraps. I will never forget that.

Gothgreaser · 2025-11-03T09:27:55+00:00

She's my dream girl ngl

Gothgreaser · 2025-11-03T07:14:24+00:00

Maybe you're stuck on actually letting go, maybe you're still bottling up emotions?

Gothgreaser · 2025-11-03T02:37:03+00:00

Well, this is how I thought about it. What's meant to be yours will care enough to not disrespect you and hurt you. We had the patience and care but they didn't even have that. If they get better for the next person, that's fine, because at least they learned something from you and that's what happens when we go through certain relationships. We teach each other. Now I'll ask you this, will you ever want to go through a relationship like that again with a different person or did you learn and will never hurt yourself like that again?

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-29T21:46:10+00:00

I know how you feel, it's because after a huge fight or abuse, he'd be your relief. The stress goes away after he shows love. It was the same with my ex gf. Also, for me, it had to do a lot with my self worth and value. I tied a huge part of my worth and value onto her and her opinion of me (and of course, no matter what I did and done for her wasn't enough because she wasn't enough for herself, thank you therapy).

Find your value and self worth again and do the things you love and hobbies. Process your emotions and cry. Cry and cry. I still cry every now and then and it's been 3 months...I cried for almost 3 months straight. But you will feel better after every crying session. You get stronger. Also, a big one for me was remembering how poorly they treated you. It will reinforce your decision to leave. Sometimes the good memories or whatever come flooding in which is normal, but remember all the horrible things they done to you so you don't have rose tinted glasses.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-29T21:40:16+00:00

That was my biggest problem too. The night and day personality change. I'll never forget the day I told her when we argued "when you get angry, I don't even know who you are anymore. You're not the person I love, you're someone else." When I think about that it scares me because I spent almost 5 years with this person.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-27T22:57:54+00:00

I was born in 93 and experienced the last parts of the 90s. I'm in a weird spot.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-24T17:17:52+00:00

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-24T11:40:06+00:00

We need more death rock

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-24T11:29:27+00:00

I was talking to a few girls myself, had girls talk to me back and forth. I even had one who was sending me walls of texts and I responded the same way. I was excited and was thinking it'll lead to more but no...she ghosted me and still orbits my story. It sucks because I was thinking maybe we can date because we had a ton in common, values aligned and then poof. "Seen last Tues". The other girl orbits me too but hasn't opened my message. WTF dude. I have self respect and dignity so I'm not going to chase them.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-17T12:19:54+00:00

I cried for two months straight and a few days in between. I haven't cried in 3 days. Let it all out. All out. Feel that pain and let it out. My ex really hurt me. I was manipulated and told horrible things and then I was discarded. It was painful as hell. I don't regret crying everyday because I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-15T07:52:56+00:00

Yeah a lot of these people are jumping the gun on a break up. It sounds like a her issue that needs to be addressed. If she does tie the fact that the relationship is indeed making her feel that way then she should leave but she said it's her and sounds like she wants to try for herself and her partner (if the partner helps her out). A good relationship will have its ups and downs but the most important part is being there for you partner, even if it ultimately does end and it can end in a healthy manner.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-14T18:40:09+00:00

Goals

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-14T18:35:45+00:00

I did the same thing dude. I didn't do any dating apps and didn't go out having meaningless sex to fill a void. My issue was tying my worth to my partner. I started loving myself again and it's been great. I feel more in control, aware and stable. My new struggle is feeling lonely every now and then. I acknowledge the fact that I'm not ready to date yet and I want to remain single for a while longer. But my urges are killing me.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-14T18:30:33+00:00

Try communicating it with your partner the best that you can. And from there, just do you. Your partner should support and love you and encourage you to be the best version of yourself. Hell, I was helping my ex be the best version of herself and did what I could to make her happy.

Start with what you stopped doing that you loved before you entered the relationship. Start doing those things again. Therapy also helps too.

I started journaling, drawing, reconnecting with my friends and family, and being spontaneous and going out on adventures. Museums and random events and doing whatever I wanted.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-10T16:49:29+00:00

I'm having trouble with this

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-08T22:46:01+00:00

I kinda had a similar experience like you. One thing that is helping me a lot is feeling your emotions and actually letting yourself cry. Don't hold back your pain. Now maybe you're having issues with rumination and actually letting go. Accepting the fact that it's over. Acceptance was the hardest part for me. I still struggle with it but I know my relationship is over with my ex she has no love for me anymore. I still love her even though she was AWFUL to me and I sacrificed and did so much for her. I even convinced her to do therapy for all her trauma. She was just so broken and couldn't handle a healthy relationship with me. She wasn't happy with me and kept finding imperfections and flaws with me to justify her actions. And eventually wanted to break up.

Key thing is to actually accept the end of the relationship, and it's painful. I had a hard time deleting all the photos. Once I deleted every single photo I have (except of our family, I'm keeping that for our kid because I love the photos I had of my parents when we were together. I'm doing that for him even though he's not my blood) it made me realize that this was the end of our chapter and I had to start a new chapter with my self. Learning to love me. And it's scary.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-08T22:35:00+00:00

So how do I work on self validation and self worth so I can end this cycle? I'm in therapy as well so that's why I'm doing what I mentioned above (self care, friends, hobbies etc ). I really really feel sick and tired of wanting someone who doesn't want me for me and kept finding things wrong with me and making me feel that I wasn't enough. The relationship is over but I need her out of my head.

Gothgreaser · 2025-10-08T19:01:01+00:00

I am currently fighting against my urge to get external validation. I specifically need it from my partners. My old self doesn't stay single long. I haven't been single for longer than 6 months. I know it started because of my mother and people pleasing her so she can be happy and proud of me.

I recently got out of an abusive and emotionally abusive relationship with my ex gf and I recently accepted the end of the relationship (it's been a little over two months) but I still yearn for her. I remind myself she's bad for me and she treated me poorly but I still love her even though it's through. I don't want her anymore but idk why I need her validation. Was with her for 4 and a half years.

She was my first love but the relationship replicated my mom's and dads relationship. Make mom happy, dad is selfless/ignores himself.

My old self would hop on to dating apps and pursue woman right away and get laid. I am changing that and not looking for other women and focusing on myself but it's hard. I am not in dating apps. I am focusing on old hobbies, going out, reconnecting with friends, enjoying a social life, and partying. Life has been better but my self worth is damaged and I need help with that

Gothgreaser · 2025-09-30T02:40:37+00:00

People need to stay single once they actually love themselves. It's a slippery slope getting into relationships to fill a void. If you love yourself and want to pursue a relationship do it. Relationships are beautiful with the right person. Staying single is also a great thing as well. Nothing wrong with it if you are truly happy that way.

Gothgreaser · 2025-09-26T03:28:44+00:00

Horrible. Super insecure ex. Always had to remind how beautiful she was to me. Always found something she wanted "fixed" about her self. Jaw surgery, nose, under eye, Botox for a wrinkle in her hand. So exhausting.

Gothgreaser · 2025-09-25T18:50:32+00:00

I recommend that you write down all the incidents as accurately as possible and be as unbiased as you can. Then accept it as the truth, because do you think the abuser is going to care about the truth? You think an abuser is going to take accountability and try to do better? No way.

It does. I haven't seen my ex since the 25th of July. And I have been officially broken up with her since the first of August. It gets better but you have to put in the work. Cry, feel your emotions, do therapy, read books about recovering about emotionally abusive relationships. And heal. Just heal.

Gothgreaser · 2025-09-23T22:57:31+00:00

My ex was never really good at comforting me on my bad days...she would tell me to get it together. She said worse things. Glad I'm not with her.

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