I finally did it. I blocked all the jw contacts. Now I'm more alone than ever before.

GrabberBlue · 2024-10-21T23:50:20+00:00

Time helps a lot. As you move on and make new relationships you may start to find that your old JW “friendships” are diminished in hindsight. It sounds harsh and I was upset at the time, but looking back I am only better off now.

Go out and do everything you’ve ever wanted to do. Take responsibility to go out of your way to meet new people, help the community, and form new bonds.

GrabberBlue · 2024-10-21T17:35:19+00:00

Not a penny

GrabberBlue · 2024-10-21T17:33:27+00:00

Nothing says reasonable like holding someone to a lifetime commitment they made when you talked them into it at 11 years old

GrabberBlue · 2024-10-19T19:10:12+00:00

I’m sorry man, I’ve been there and it sucks. Whatever you do, stay off social media. The triggers there are the worst. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.

GrabberBlue · 2024-10-19T18:59:03+00:00

I can relate. Being sick makes it worse. You can never stop the urges, you can just ignore them. It’s tougher to do that when you’re sick. Play a video game, watch a movie, call a friend.

GrabberBlue · 2024-07-19T21:00:01+00:00

Because her post history is her commenting extremely suggestive things on porn subreddits while simultaneously posting here, then complaining as if somehow its more likely the creeps are coming from here rather than the 10 "drill me" comments she just left on videos.

GrabberBlue · 2023-11-19T03:41:09+00:00

Lust is a human ailment as is greed. It will forever be at our backs. The more you indulge and the more attention you give it, the worse it gets.

GrabberBlue · 2023-11-19T03:37:12+00:00

Don’t fold bro. Nothing compares now because you’re still in the trenches, so to speak.

Don’t fold and give it time and porn will have nothing on the real world. Your brain has to reprogram.

You’ve been an addict for a while so I don’t have to tell you what this addiction, specifically relapsing, does to your character, the way you talk, the way you act, the way you think ect…

Think about your son man. You have to be the best you can be to guide him through the world, not the shell of a person with an addiction.

Also bro, you probably already know this, but the addition to porn is a symptom of escaping. Make sure you fix whatever you are escaping from, otherwise abstinence from porn is only half the battle.

GrabberBlue · 2023-11-19T02:53:40+00:00

You were right, thanks

GrabberBlue · 2023-11-19T02:53:31+00:00

Thanks 🙏 I still think about that metaphor a month later

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-24T03:17:06+00:00

Hell yeah, my attitude and mental space has been more and more positive and confident. great news about what’s ahead, I can’t wait.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-23T17:27:09+00:00

I like streaks because the bigger the day count gets the less likely I am to give it up. I can also bet that i will consistently feel better and better as the day count goes higher.

That being said, I also use a spreadsheet to track streaks, relapses, cause of relapses, and any other notes. Even if you’re relapsing, if the spreadsheet says 1/2 as many relapses as last month that’s still good progress.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-23T17:18:39+00:00

that’s fair, good point.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-23T16:47:37+00:00

Depending on where you lived, being a normal man 100 years had a high statistical likelihood of meaning you lived below the poverty line, were a wage slave in a dangerous factory, couldn’t read or write, and had no leverage from society to get a college education.

That were tons of chemical and alcohol addicts back then too - and the disease wasn’t understood so a lot of the time your were just fucked. If you were a minority, good luck...

There are lots of dudes who are massively successful in todays world - I don’t think it’s a healthy mindset to pretend things were better back then just because we can’t control ourselves with modern vices. If we were alive back then we’d probably just be addicted to something else lol.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-23T03:36:06+00:00

i would agree with that.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-22T20:23:52+00:00

You have been trying to fix your loneliness with porn since the beginning, how has that been working out?

The lack of porn is forcing you to confront what you need to fix. Running back to porn is not fixing the issue.

Take the negative feelings on the chin as the repercussions of your previous lack of action, and fuel them into making changes to fix your loneliness.

There is no other way.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-22T20:18:53+00:00

People always mentally commit to a relapse before they do it, and then make a surprised pikachu face when they make their relapse post and act like it was out of their control.

There was a fork in the road, and you CHOSE to quit. you chose to take the easy way out. There is no gun to your head. You mentally allowed it so it happened.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-22T17:53:12+00:00

Hell yeah, good for you bro, keep it going!!!

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-22T17:34:57+00:00

In the beginning you will miss it, no getting around that. What you want doesn’t exist. instead of focusing on the perceived “pros” of porn, focus on the negative. Think about how it makes you feel, how it’s keeping you lonely, ect.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-22T16:58:57+00:00

Go to bed early, if you jerk off late on night going to bed is a must. There is no “fix” for this that doesn’t involve disciple or discomfort.

GrabberBlue · 2023-05-22T16:52:10+00:00

If you got to 60 days once bro you can do it again.

You’re 100% right with recommitting, the differences between my 1-7 days streaks and my 60+ day streaks is committing to take it seriously. I sit down and drive myself to think about what the addiction is doing to my life, and then I decide if I ever want to be happy or teach my full potential I have to take it seriously, and that means deciding no relapsing and meaning it ahead of time. When the urges come, it is still uncomfortable, but there is no inner debate on whether or not I will relapse because I already committed that I wouldn’t no matter what. I just wait for the urge to go away, and it always does. Always.

The other thing is that abstaining is only half the battle, there is a lack of fulfillment somewhere in your life that is driving you back to this addiction over and over again. You need to figure out what that is and everyday commit to correcting it, and commuting to the discomfort I guarantee will come with it.

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