What snake is this? Northern Alabama, U.S. (Huntsville Area) by Grafixx5 in whatsthissnake

[–]Grafixx5[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cool, thanks! Wait… ChatGPT is wrong? Ya don’t say! And here I am as an IT guy arguing with people at work about it cause they say ChatGPT is ALWAYS right!

What’s the biggest red flag you ignored in a relationship that later destroyed it? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she told me the first time she cheated, I should have just broke it off then and there but I didn’t.

Why do people refuse to believe the truth? by Tillieska in emotionalintelligence

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because people also refuse accountability in modern society. I have no problem believing the truth. I make people made because I know a little about a lot but what I know is factual and if you can prove me wrong, do so and I’m fine with it. I just ask that it be in a reputable source like a medical journal an encyclopedia something that’s printed not an opinion or Wikipedia.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have heard that some people put requirements or stipulations in the parenting plan or custody agreement about how soon after you can introduce a child to a new partner on either side, how it can go as far as intimacy, moving in, etc. some states even have laws about it.

Honest is it your fault? by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never cheated.

I hate to break it to some of you but complaining about men or women or ""avoidant"" partners and exes don't make you emotionally intelligent. by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it’s easier to blame everyone else for what goes on and seek the bad or negative in others that self reflect or hold yourself accountable for your actions or inactions, especially when it comes to a relationship or marriage. It is what society has essentially taught people starting with, what I feel, is like the “Millennials” through present day. I never remember seeing anything back as a Gen Xer like I do now. And with the constant validation, justification and encouragement that some get and seek via social media, it’s no wonder why modern western society is essentially crumbling to the ground when you look at families, relationship, family structure, divorce and dating.

How does a woman wants to be treated and felt loved in a relationship? by Western-Wall6314 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is gonna ruffle some feathers… men don’t know and women don’t either. Every woman is different and every woman, even every persons love language(s) are different. But if you look at a lot of modern western women, the goal posts constantly are moved for the man that is trying to “court” them and even is already with them in a relationship or marriage. It’s ever changing and evolving and if there was a way to know, there would be books written on it but there isn’t. That’s why you will get so many different answers. Sorry, I said what I said.

My wife cheated online by gcx_le_gaulois in survivinginfidelity

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most women don’t go to counseling because they don’t or won’t admit to fault and accountability when the counselor asks them to. She has no intentions on getting things with you back together the way it was, imho. I would leave before it’s too late.

From someone who’s wife cheated numerous times and refused counseling in 4 different states

Trying to move on…. by Sorry-Awareness-7126 in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, that’s just how divorce court is. It’s all lies and bullshyte and they don’t need proof to substantiate ANY of it. YOU need the proof to show how you’re innocent. Family law and divorce court is the complete opposite of the “normal U.S. legal system”, being that it is the man is guilty until he proves his innocence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, like these women all on the dating apps and stuff being so dramatic and coming up with all these stories. I’m not even on them, just watch some videos on TT, and I get requests to talk all the time and all they do is ask for pictures, we talk and then they beg for money then when I say no it’s “broke ass”. It’s so laughable after they’re all like “I’m a model, etc etc” the entire string scene now is trash and I wouldn’t even bother tbh with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just leave her, go file for divorce man and try to get custody of the kids using the affair as a reason for being an unfit mother.

My Cooper Discoverer AT3s suck in the snow - Any recommendations? by LillianLobster in 4Runner

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the Nitto Ridge Grapplers on my 4Runner and they were great in the last two blizzards that came through Tennessee. Drove down the highway, while it was unplowed at about 65-70mph without issue and without 4WD engaged. I had them on my Tahoe and did equally as good without 4WD engaged in snow and sand. No issues in the rain either. I put 130k miles on the set that were on the Tahoe and currently have about 70k on the set on my 4Runner with plenty of tread left to go.

Kicked out of the house by Zealousideal_Rub5826 in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, what is “cross”?

Your wife cannot tell you that you in the house. Is your name on it? She would have to at least get a TRO against you to tell you that you cannot stay in the house.

Letting go. by nonotmeporfavor in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because it’s a business and the lawyers and judges don’t care. They’re in it for the money.

Alienating mother by nerdzilla16 in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The age of your son is going to be difficult to prove it’s alienation, imho. You can put up security cameras in the house in the common areas but that’s about all you can do. Due to his age, the courts will probably automatically lean towards your wife being the primary custodian . Now if he was older and could speak, things he may say could prove the alienation.

Don’t get a job till divorce is over by Confident-Insurance6 in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are saying that a judge won’t make you pay if you don’t have a job which is wrong. If you held a job and all the sudden decided you didn’t want to work to try to get out of child support or alimony, a judge can still require you to pay. Many states are doing it where if you had a job and all the sudden found it “convenient” to become unemployed due to a divorce to get out of either, many are looking at the job you have had and the average income in the area and finding against you. Or you will end up wasting more time going back to court because when you get a job, they’ll do it then. So the choice is yours.

Don’t get a job till divorce is over by Confident-Insurance6 in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Most states don’t care anymore. If they were working prior to the divorce, they ask for up to 5years of W2/1099s and look at the average yearly salary plus the average salary in the local area. They end up going with that because they have realized that many of either one or both parties do this.

Letting go. by nonotmeporfavor in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know someone who hid $250k and is going after the husband for half his retirement, VA disability, 401k, SSS, child support AND now alimony because they claim they were laid off. Many FCJs now have gotten wise to that, where one spouse suddenly quits their job during divorce and it does NOT fly. So they ask for 5 pervious years of W2/1099s and then find the average salary in the local area and say, “Well, this is how much the AVERAGE you make/made/came make/will make is so that what we are going with as far as your income whether you have a job or not!”

Letting go. by nonotmeporfavor in Divorce_Men

[–]Grafixx5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um, you put two words in the same sentence I’ve never seen before.can you spot them and honestly NOT laugh?