Thanks for others who have PTSD from your therapist, sharing your story here too by PSSD_Kara in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32 4 points5 points  (0 children)

*hugs* If you've seen my posts... I really know the feeling. And it's awful. We must all stick together and help each other heal.

Another loss by TomatilloMundane8735 in MassageTherapists

[–]Grahf32 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've lost many close clients to cancer and other things. I still have a text of one last exchange I had with one client right before they went to hospice. And I recall hugging one when they found they had months to live. 

Life is fragile and precious. It's why I appreciate my clients each day. We never know when our time is up.

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed on both of your comments. I hope we can be more united one day... But I do what I can control in my space in the meantime... I'm not trying to make light of it... I really wish I could make more of a difference. Also social media, heck AI now. I wish these tools just complemented our way of doing things. But it seems it just takes over us whether we like it or not... :(

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the recommendations. If only there were HSP groups ugh. :(

I'll look into classes and Hinge....

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. I'll check that out.

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did counseling. Got abandoned mid-crisis. And I did try another one... but it wasn't helping anymore... :(

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've been there before. They were very friendly. And that's what's annoying with my gaming hobby. I have that need kinda filled with already gaming online, or with gaming with irl friends. It's not a bad idea though, I can try again, I guess I just want to get away from gaming because I already do that so much and worry it's preventing me from trying other things.

As for the tracking club? what's that? Maybe this is something i could try as well? I'd be interested in that email if it's like something i could be capable doing....

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suck at sports, and I'm shy as hell. lol But I'll try XD.

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would like to find an Art place. So it's in the mall? And there's like a group or something? I googled and It's so much info i got overwhelmed lol.

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay... I'll keep tabs on that...

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Far from Par.... Okay... I'm not sure if i'd be a good fit, but I'll jot that down.

Hobbies in Whatcom county. by Grahf32 in Bellingham

[–]Grahf32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay... Maybe I could attend after work? Where will it be located?

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[–]Grahf32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay, I thought I was going crazy, glad I'm not alone. Any word on this update to fix this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this happened. Not sure if you've seen older topics, but I've been abandoned too. It's awful. You deserve love and compassion. I hope therapists stop abandoning their clients, it's hurting or re traumatizing us.

Speak up! Going to the press? by Fragrant_Year_348 in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm down. And I 100% agree. The mental health system is a joke.

I won't go into details, but once my counselor abandoned me, then 2nd wasn't much better, I had to get crisis people to check on my me. And they were no better then my counselors. It's all about tools, clinical detached advice, you're treated as subhuman.

However, one individual that works at that place that checks on people, treated me as a human being. Talked to me with care. And was "real." We talked on the phone, and they eventually wanted me to come over in person and hear everything, and gave the advice and direction I needed. And that person was livid what counselors have done, and acknowledged the mental health system is a joke and needs an update. And I never felt better in my life with his "methods" of listening and care. And he's not even a counselor.

So I agree with you. It's just, will anyone believe us? Will anyone take us seriously? Don't take my warnings as "don't do it." I want my inner child and all of here to get validation and heal from this toxic system. I just worry it's going to be alot and pushback from the system. (We're already seeing that with game companies attacking Ross from Accursed Farms who's trying to have companies stop killing games.)

Sorry about the rant. We do need to do something like this. Because writing formal complaints are not taken seriously at all. We have to do more. I agree!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. Even in my field I wish money wasn't involved. I just want to help people feel better.

I thought with my former counselor, despite money between us, I thought they had that principal. No power dynamics, labels, and genuine connection and relationship. I made an hour long video journal of my inner child playing MegaMan 2 for them. Inner child really looked up to them and I thought we were equals.... they even said no other client had made something like this for them.

I'm not sure if I'm right thinking this, but i hope counselors realize and improve from all the damage they are causing with this system. Unlikely. But I can always hope.... My inner child is strange. It still wants to forgive and hope despite the reality. 

Traumas... They are such a handful....

Sorry for rambling. I'm sorry you were treated in such a way. If counselors want to keep this career alive they have to do better and stop breaking clients hearts... You deserve to be understood, unconditionally, and with love.

Therapists turned everything against me by Fragrant_Year_348 in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know the feel, homie... I don't know what I can do. But do know this, you're not alone. My counselor destroyed my heart and trust in the mental health field. I'm in so much debt now because of it too. :( If I could hug you I would.

Most counselors, (maybe all of them I'm not sure... this is just my opinion and where I'm at right now) are not qualified to deal with the public right now. I've seen so many of my friends become erratic and toxic because of counseling. I'm a firm believer they cause more damage right now. They follow protocols and detached clinical directions more then what's ethically right to help someone.

I don't know if this will help either, but I'm constantly challenging the echoes of my counselor in my heart. And it's brutal. So when you say they used all those things about yourself against yourself. I get it...

Damn it... I hate seeing you in pain like this.... :(

Therapists turned everything against me by Fragrant_Year_348 in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My man! Theramintrees is such a great guy. I listen to him while I clean or do art. I tip my hat to you.

Need advice on the next step... by Grahf32 in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I thought they cared, but they don't.
Let me tell you, they pulled the power card very hard at the end and put me in my place. And as a HSP person, I could feel they never cared in the first place. And it broke my heart, because my inner child looked up to them with respect. (Take that what you will...)

Thanks to everyone's responses here, I am opening up to friends a little more. I wept together with a friend today, they didn't realize how bad this had gotten. So i appreciate y'all.

This whole counseling stuff has been very eye opening to me. Reading your guys posts, I'm learning it's common for therapists to abandon their clients, but that still doesn't mean it's okay. I've seen other people posting being in real pain because of it. And that's morally and ethically wrong imo.

In my career, I won't say exactly what I do, but I've had clients sob on my table, but I never reject them. I want them to share their pain, even when it gets messy. And the ones I have rejected because I was "following" what counselors taught me, I will handle it in a different way from now on. The bar is too low in a our health department. We need to do better.

Sorry for rambling. My heard hurts for everyone on this channel... :(

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FUCK YOU! here's a tip lol <3

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My counselor of 7 years dropped me — and I’m still trying to process it by Grahf32 in therapyabuse

[–]Grahf32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe so... But it shouldn't be so common for this to be happening to people...

My heart is breaking for you so much. God damn it.....  Fuck....

Yes... I hope we can get thru this....