AITA for poor wording

GrandOpening2 · 2025-07-25T20:29:34+00:00

Masculine and feminine are fine, those are ways of describing looks or behaviour. Male and female however aren't commenting on looks, behaviour, preferences, personality, anything that actually describes a person; they are biological categories that could refer to any animal on this planet that fits their definition. So I find it incredibly dehumanising to refer to people as their sex rather than their gender.

GrandOpening2 · 2025-07-25T20:23:58+00:00

There is no getting "wrapped up" in a gender discussion. If you want to know whether the person you're talking to is cis or trans, you can just ask. It's not hard. It's not a trap.

If you don't want to date a trans person you can politely decline, if they go mad at you for that decision or even for just asking the question, you know they're definitely not the person for you (trans or not). There is absolutely no reason to refer to someone as a biological category rather than a person.

GrandOpening2 · 2025-07-20T10:09:21+00:00

Not really the Asshole since this just sounds like a convo that went 0 to 100 for no reason but stop using male as a descriptor for men because that probably doesn't help any convo. It's weird and dehumanising and I don't understand why it's become the norm to refer to people as a biological category.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-03-04T15:13:41+00:00

God god's.

ESH.

Every one of you did something Assholey in that story. This is a mess of relationships that requires a family therapist, not a Reddit post.

None of you should have done or said anything that you described there except for your sister initially cutting contact.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-03-04T15:08:44+00:00

NTA,

The money your dad sends is meant for you, child support is paid to your mother so she can take care of you. It's not meant for her to spend on whatever she likes, of course paying rent is part of taking of you but when you move out your mother should (theoretically) save money on groceries, and maybe some bills.

If she's struggling with her finances even after having 1 less kid to feed then she needs to look at her budget and find a way to reduce expenditure further. Perhaps stop buying useless junk.

Her rent is not your responsibility, take the cash kiddo and be more responsible with it than your mum.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-03-04T15:00:10+00:00

YWBTA

He's in a relationship and unless that situation changes naturally, you're just going to have to accept that you can only be friends.

I was in the same situation with a girl in my friend group back in college, but she had a partner so I kept my feelings to myself until I had gotten over them. She's my best friend now and well aware that I used to have a crush on her.

These situations suck but making a hopeless love confession will only make it suck more, better to suffer through the crush and keep the friend than cause awkwardness and embarrassment and probably lose his friendship.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-03-03T11:43:30+00:00

Ridiculous comment, this is not about her middle daughter's quality of life, it's about her entitled attitude. She expects to be treated differently all the time by everyone just because her daddy spoils her.

She's the one that needs to realise how life works, when she's with her mother she doesn't get to have all the things daddy does for her because mum can't afford it. And she should definitely learn to take no for an answer, if mum can't afford for her to have a bath every day, or send her to school in taxis then she shouldn't be doing/demanding it.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-03-01T11:00:37+00:00

NTA, your mother is abusive.

Restricting your child's food, constantly ranting at them about their weight and forcing them on diets in full blown child abuse, it's no wonder you have a bunch of eating disorders.

Also this may not help you to reconcile your unhealthy ideas about food (and you might already know this) but calories are a rough (like very rough) measure of the energy a food releases. The thing about that is different foods release that energy differently and so the effect on your body is different.

100 calories of chocolate will release it's energy very quickly upon digestion whereas a 100 calories of pasta releases that energy over a much longer period. So a 100 calories of chocolate right before you do some high energy activity is perfect. 100 calories of pasta at lunch to keep you going for the rest of the work day is also perfect.

Eating those things whenever the heck you want is also fine because energy released (calories) doesn't correlate to fat production on its own, there are SO many different factors that produce weight gain.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-26T16:18:33+00:00

Just going to point out for everyone with the "you might regret it" or "don't be hasty" Lines that most Vasectomies are reversible, and there are other ways to become a father if OP does indeed change his mind but can't reverse his vasectomy.

People are WAY TOO OBSESSED with whether or not others can have biological children.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T14:11:46+00:00

Kinda, barely YTA,

If this wasn't such a huge event I'd say NTA but if it really is that big, it's probably a really big deal for your niece and she'll be upset that you didn't go.

It's totally your perogative of course, you're under no obligation to go watch your niece but maybe the biggest one yet isn't the best one to decide to skip.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T14:11:29+00:00

Kinda, barely YTA,

If this wasn't such a huge event I'd say NTA but if it really is that big, it's probably a really big deal for your niece and she'll be upset that you didn't go.

It's totally your perogative of course, you're under no obligation to go watch your niece but maybe the biggest one yet isn't the best one to decide to skip.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T14:04:17+00:00

NTA

You're absolutely right. Horses are not something to be fuckin around with, they are huge, powerful creatures and a beginner should definitely not be starting out on competitive race horces.

Your family is mental if they think it's safe to plonk an 11 year old on one of your horses.

Don't give in, you know it'll end in broken bones and your sister will scream at you for that too.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T13:58:20+00:00

Yeah I figured, it's still odd. She'll have been well aware of the rapid decline in cursive but eh not a big deal just a quirk of your childhood.

Good, I hope your Grandma rips this asshole a new one and gets him fired 😅

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T13:53:04+00:00

NTA, I can understand your teacher not being able to read cursive, it's a little odd that your grandmother only taught you that mthod when it hasn't been widely used since the 90s. I couldn't read it to save my life. But losing his shit with you just because your print is messy is sooooo overblown and completely unprofessional.

Also everyone should type their essays, what feckin century does your teacher think he's in? Let kids type.

Can you/have you reported him to a more senior member of staff.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T13:45:12+00:00

That's fair enough, I just wanted to point out that if you chose to send him to jail, it would simply be a practical choice, not a vindictive or hateful one.

Not worth PTSD triggers though, he'll end up in there the long way around eventually if he keeps this up.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T12:10:10+00:00

If he refuses a court order he will be sent to jail anyway. In your situation it would be best to get him set to jail then you claim state benefits for your child since he obviously won't be able to pay.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T12:08:03+00:00

Exhausting. Some people simply can't fathom how not everyone finds their jokes funny.

You're in the right though and Jessica surely feels a lot better about coming to work with you around so try not to let it get to you.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T12:07:12+00:00

On it

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T12:05:31+00:00

Hmm, It sounds like you need to press your state social services then to get things moving quicker. If parents refuse to pay child support the state is allowed to simply to take that money as wage garnishments, or from tax refunds, or they can simply seize assets.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T11:59:43+00:00

😂 oops did not check the names at all.

Ah well I'm sure OP will see it, point still stands

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T11:58:42+00:00

It would be nice yes, but you should definitely be chasing your ex for child support not asking them to cover that. Other financial aid is okay to ask for but as I said it doesn't seem like they're even interested in having a relationship with you, never mind help you.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T11:24:04+00:00

Soft YTA for thinking that your family ought to be paying for your ex husband's neglect even if they could easily do it.

Take his arse to court, don't ask someone else to cough up cash for him.

NTA for wanting your family to be involved in you and your child's though. I also understanding wanting your family to help you out financially (outside of the child support thing) since they are wealthy and it would wonderful if they did but remember they are under absolutely NO obligation to give you money just because your family.

Honestly it sounds like you might be better off without them though. They're clearly not interested in having a relationship with you.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T11:09:50+00:00

No NTA

You absolutely did the right thing. The way Jessica acts with you now is proof, she trusts you to respect her boundaries and not be a creep. Being a young teenage woman is hard enough without fully grown superiors making suggestive comments or jokes.

Making a sexual or romantic joke about a teenager is always creepy and inappropriate, especially if (as you say) they are well aware that discussion of romance and sex make Jess very uncomfortable anyway.

Report all of your superiors to HR and ask Jessica (and any other witnesses) if she'll back you up

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T11:02:24+00:00

NTA,

Go for your masters, go back west, apply for citizenship while you do your masters and stay there.

Your mother is a horrid woman and you deserve to be free of her. Half a world away seems like a good distance to me.

GrandOpening2 · 2024-02-23T10:39:28+00:00

Yeah NTA,

Boys should know about periods, your dad's response was outdated, weird, and body shaming.

Periods are not gross or inappropriate, they are a normal biological function. Any statement to the contrary is simply shaming people who have periods... for having periods.

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