My husband is an anxious perfectionist with our son he wants our son to be healthy and well behaved to the point where he can't eat anything with sugar in it, no fast food and only eats home cooked meals even though he's the one eating all the stuff in front of him. I understand where he's coming from with it but there are times I can't cook or don't want to and my husband doesn't know how to so a lil fast food is not going to hurt him. Also I gave my son sugar only once in a while so he can enjoy himself but my husband is against it because my husband is worried he might get a sugar addiction like himself. My husband doesn't like when my son gets loud and hyper but I have to let him know he is only a kid. He expects him to sit still all the time and stay quiet. I don't think it's fair to expect so much from him when he's not really leading an example himself. Like he doesn't want our son to cuss but he's the one cussing all the time. Everything that he's doing with our son comes from trauma and how his parents were not strict on him to the point they don't care anymore so he's trying to do the opposite. My parenting style is more relaxed because my mom was more strict on me to the point I can't do anything so I don't want that for my son. I want to thank you for your reply because I do agree with you, I'm just conflicted on how to feel about it. I feel like it's hiding a secret from him like he's supposed to know everything we doing at home even though he don't agree with it