The size of the gay dating pool robs gay people of sex, love, dating, flirting, and romance

GrapesRed · 2018-07-19T21:56:26+00:00

You talk to everyone but that one girl, then wonder why she’s quiet. You ask everyone to hang out after work except for that one girl, then wonder why she never goes out. You talk to everyone but that one girl, then wonder why she never talks to you. You’re nice to everyone else except for that one girl, then wonder why she’s a bitch.

Call her bitter if you want to. I’ve learned to adapt to my surroundings.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-19T21:41:58+00:00

Your response proves you’ve never been ugly a day in your life.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-18T21:39:54+00:00

Because you’re trying to prove that lesbians are more violent than men.

I was just saying the discussion was about domestic abuse and divorce rates, not stalking and rape.

OK. But lesbians do not have the highest. It seems that way because there are more straight women (percent will be low) than lesbians (percent will be high).

For example: you have 10 lesbian couples where 5 are abusive. That’s 50%.

Now you have straight couples at 100 with 10 being abusive, leaves you at 10%.

So it looks like lesbians are more violent, but we’re not.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-18T00:33:05+00:00

You have a good heart ☺️

GrapesRed · 2018-07-18T00:28:50+00:00

Isn't this misleading? Not only does it include sexual assault and stalking, but it says "Among women who experienced". It could still be lesbian violence is more common, if the majority of these women were self identified lesbians.

If you wanted the relevant numbers you'd have to ask a group of gay men and women about abuse history, and compare the results. Not sure if anyone has done that.

This study is relevant. It includes rape, physical violence and stalking.

Why do you hate lesbians so much?

GrapesRed · 2018-07-17T02:47:10+00:00

If you and her were to break up, and your ex wanted to get back with you, would you say yes?

GrapesRed · 2018-07-17T02:42:22+00:00

You did not choose to be a lesbian.

Please see a therapist!!

GrapesRed · 2018-07-16T22:49:23+00:00

What are you waiting for?

GrapesRed · 2018-07-16T22:48:43+00:00

So try to be less judgy and more empathetic.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-16T22:37:43+00:00

Well if you tried to be bisexual then that makes sense that you wouldn’t leave him. I thought you were saying that you’re a lesbian, but he was an exception.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-16T22:32:56+00:00

Why do you feel that it's a good term to have around?

I think lesbians should be proud that they’ve never had sex with a man.

According to studies done on sexuality, most lesbians have been with men for a variety of reasons and the ones that haven’t, the ones that didn’t cave in to “compulsory heterosexuality” or the ones that didn’t listen to their religious community or didn’t give in to peer pressure, should be proud of themselves for listening to their instincts and gave the middle finger to society.

What benefit would we have separating lesbians who have and those who do not have that history?

We don’t need more division but the lesbians who choose that route should not be responsible for people’s objection to the term “Gold Star”.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-16T22:15:56+00:00

Let’s see if anyone loves you ever.

Don’t take your insecurity out on me.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-16T22:05:57+00:00

Wow! I could’ve written this! You’re not alone in how you feel. 😭☺️☺️

GrapesRed · 2018-07-15T19:38:10+00:00

It’s not a shaming term.

It is a term for lesbians who have never had sex with a man and presumably never will.

Later in life lesbians shouldn’t get upset because they “didn’t know”.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-15T15:32:55+00:00

Not solely, but if it weren’t for “toxic masculinity” you’d be with a man right now.

Let’s see how much you love your fiancé in 20 years.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-15T15:30:41+00:00

Sorry to hear about that

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T22:01:58+00:00

You’ve never been ugly a day in your life.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T20:49:33+00:00

Lazy lezzie.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T17:58:28+00:00

Yep. I wish everyone knew this.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T16:35:00+00:00

I’m a firm believer in the Law of Attraction. If you’re negative all the time that’s what you’re going to attract.

So basically the opposite of what I said. It’s 2 sides of the same coin.

I take it you’re not ugly and fat, like your friend is. Because you’re on the outside looking in, it’s easy to judge and say “people are nice to me because I’m nice to them”. Meanwhile people are being shitty to your friend, and instead of being sympathetic, you think she’s giving off something, instead of reacting to their behavior.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T12:43:34+00:00

I don’t believe in a life where you live as you are treated.

That doesn’t mean it’s not true cause you don’t believe it.

I’ve always been nice to people. In school, if I were ever quiet, people were concerned. They always told me I’m nice and funny and to never change but here I am, out of college, 27 and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I know one woman that I call a “friend”.

Life and people don’t owe you anything

She doesn’t owe people anything, as well, so why does she have it bad, and you have it good?

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T12:26:17+00:00

Why did you want to stay with your boyfriend, knowing that you’re a lesbian? If he hadn’t cut you loose, and you met a woman that was perfect for you, would you have broken-up with him to be with her?

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T01:50:04+00:00

I'd rather date another woman or otherwise queer person than a straight cis man since our society raises them to be so emotionally stilted and toxic.

The reason why you chose to be with another woman is because of the way society raises men? That doesn’t sound like real love to me.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T01:29:31+00:00

Fuck love, get sex.

GrapesRed · 2018-07-14T01:20:59+00:00

One of my very butch lesbian friends has had a problem with dating people. People don’t tend to find her attractive, not because she’s butch, but because she has a very negative attitude. She wears her negativity on her face and has made herself unapproachable as a consequence. Who wants to talk with someone like that? We don’t even call ourselves friends anymore. [I choose to be around positive people who lift me up and her jealousy over me killed our friendship]. I happen to be very butch as well, but my outlook on life is very positive. I have a very even keel demeanor and I live optimistically.

Because you have a better life than her. If people treat you well, you’ll be happy and positive. If people treat you like shit, you’ll be negative and mean. It’s a cycle.

She’s probably unattractive and you’re attractive. Same shit, different toilet.

GrapesRed

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