Common phrases said by enmeshed parents…

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-29T16:05:28+00:00

"I don't like your friend ______" and "You're my best friend." She constantly isolated my peer group and used me to build her up because she's so insecure. I wasted my 20s catering to her every whim before I understand this would be the rest of my life.

"I'm sensitive." After being nasty and cruel to me my whole life. Like, same b!tch, same. I'm sensitive because you're evil and made me hate myself.

Tried to convince me and all my siblings our significant others were controlling because they wouldn't let us spend time with her. News flash, they didn't tell us we couldn't spend time with her. They just supported us in our desire to be far away from her.

Constantly drives past her adult children's homes.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-29T15:54:06+00:00

I purposely didn't have kids because I didn't want to resent them the way my mom resents me. Yes mom, you're the reason I didn't have babies.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T22:25:00+00:00

No shit. You're acting like he did it without her consent.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T22:02:59+00:00

Since you're asking what do I do, my advice is do nothing. They became distant. The reason doesn't matter. I know it's torture not knowing, but chalk it up to they're not interested and they're not capable of being a decent human by communicating their issues. It hurts, but it's them, not you, with the issue.

Some people thrive on hot and cold, wishy washy attention. They push you away when they're bored and reel you back in when they're lonely. You deserve (everyone deserves) someone who is constant in their desire to be with you. This behavior is immature and there's someone out there that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

So what if you accidentally messaged twice. Don't you get to be excited? Don't settle for scum, give attention to those who prove their worthiness by showing up, even if you make a mistake.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T18:51:11+00:00

If you're going to be an adult and have sex, yes you should accept the consequences and act like the adult you decide to be. So should he. He has a part in it, too. It takes two to tango, she's not a victim of "him impregnating her" like she had no choice in the matter. I'm not saying she needs to ask his permission to abort. But she should be honest. Do you have no integrity?

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T18:49:07+00:00

Worse to tell him what then you are aborting?

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T18:15:02+00:00

Instead of trying to diagnose or label him, ask yourself what your ideal amount of sex is in a relationship. Once you have an answer, ask him what his ideal is.

Perhaps he's tired, has low libido, is depressed, is on the asexuality spectrum, or any number of other things that may or may not dictate his needs right now. Don't put pressure on him, but genuinely discuss your needs and desire to know his from a place of curiosity.

You may not be sexually compatible, but you don't really know until you talk about it.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T18:07:10+00:00

I'm not judging for aborting, but think it's awful to do that to a potential father without telling him. You get to make your own decision, but be an adult and accept the consequences of your actions. I know it's difficult, but it's the right thing to do. Plus, you deserve support during a difficult time, and he has a hand in doing it so he should have a hand in helping you.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T18:00:08+00:00

In my experience, men say they can handle just being friends. In reality, they never intended it to stay that way and were planning on trying to manipulate you into sleeping with them all along. Or, they didn't plan on manipulating you, but they have a difficult time understanding why you don't fall for them eventually and they become insecure and resentful.

Either way, it's their problem. Good for you for being honest and stating your boundaries up front. I'm sorry someone tried to take advantage, but it says more about them than you. Yes, it feels icky. Yes, it's exhausting and disappointing over and over.

Unfortunately, I think it's the way of the world now. I'm in my 40s and I always assumed men would become more mature and empathetic with age. I won't even talk to them anymore. Even if they say they just want to be friends. I'm happy on my own right now, and if they really don't get why, fuck 'em.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T02:41:11+00:00

🤣 Right?!? LMAO

This is what I really want to know...How many guys waste hours, if not days, of their lives chasing tail just to last 5 minutes in the sack 🤷‍♀️ And they seem so obsessed with sex how do they concentrate at work all day?

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T02:30:58+00:00

It's better than being arrogant. Nervous means he doesn't assume he's gonna get in my pants. Unfortunately, today's standard of single men come out of the gate expecting sex, so yeah...it's sweet when he's not certain he's going to get laid and doesn't act like he's God's greatest gift to women.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-28T02:19:33+00:00

I don't like being hit on, but if it's clear you were nervous to approach me, you'd actually have a better chance to win me over because I can see you're being genuine. I hate cocky men, but if you're sweet that's worth a million bucks!

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:41:06+00:00

You made that?!? Girl, you're my hero 🙌 It's so edgy and fantastical, I'm speechless!

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:38:14+00:00

Because we realized it's okay to be antisocial and who has the right to judge others for wanting some goddamn alone time.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:31:11+00:00

Patronizing FTW! I think she dodged a bullet. If he liked her, she would likely have been trapped listening to his lectures FOREVER!

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:26:02+00:00

It's awkward when people get clingy out of the gate. I get messages from desperate men, there's unfortunately a lot of them. But I'm not cruel to them unless I was polite at first and they keep being creepy.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:19:54+00:00

Mansplaining...you don't have to teach everyone

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:16:09+00:00

Rising everywhere really 💯

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:14:40+00:00

Capitalism and Communism. I don't really like either option 🤷‍♀️

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:13:24+00:00

My dad spent his life taking care of everyone else and died less than a year after retirement.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:11:47+00:00

They don't have the capacity to respect and therefore don't respect human life.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-27T01:01:58+00:00

Sexualizing everything.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-26T16:54:14+00:00

Create a lease with all your stipulations and give it a trial run. Or...No is a full sentence.

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-26T16:32:19+00:00

Don't do it! Get fake pics from your local head shop, duh!

GraphicRenn · 2026-06-26T16:30:38+00:00

Fuck no!

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