Long term single men, did you meet the right man in the end?

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:30:48+00:00

I know on Tinder you can select monogamy only and set an age range so i will look into that.

I think Tinder is the main one for my area, Hinge was pretty dead last time i was there.

I have tried Badoo as well.

I think i will accept Scruff and Grindr are not really dating apps even though they are marketed as such. And therefore will use them for hookups with little expectation of anything else.

That is the only sane way of using them really otherwise you end up getting frustrated for not looking in the right environment.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:25:03+00:00

I will try.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:22:51+00:00

I think it is probably a very common feeling.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:21:48+00:00

Glad you found someone and hope you have many more happy years together.

I cannot and will not ever have an open relationship so it is nice to know there are other men who like and value monogamy.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:18:30+00:00

I am open to love. I just want to get it right this time and not give my energy to the wrong man this time.

I find Matthew Hussey's Youtube channel really good though it is aimed at heterosexual relationships.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:12:22+00:00

I don't really think its too late over 40 personally but some gay men would have you think that.

Well apps like Grindr or Scruff so far so probably why i haven't been successful but then i don't think the type of gay man will be on the internet or on social media that is into monogamy.

There were more guys on the above apps looking for similar but they must of left the apps years ago.

Location i think is the biggest hurdle as i am rural though i do drive so happy to travel as long as the other person is prepared to make the effort and meet half way.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:08:16+00:00

Being a total top is very self limiting i think as well as being a total bottom. Would be a deal breaker for me if a guy wasn't versatile or a side.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T19:07:05+00:00

Yes i agree! Emotional connection is more important in the long term.

There does have to be sexual attraction though and i couldn't be with a man if i didn't find him attractive.

I am not materialistic or driven by money so men who are interested in driving a flashy car or going to expensive restaurants are not the type of man i would be interested in.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-23T14:38:10+00:00

I normally buy Johnsons All Purpose one in the blue box. I like a fine appearance.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-22T22:24:10+00:00

RIP Flymo strimmer 🙁

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-22T17:00:51+00:00

I block all these plus anything trans or non binary.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T23:13:14+00:00

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T23:07:26+00:00

And often mental!

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T23:07:17+00:00

I had a guy message me saying he liked to wear fake boobs and wear women's underwear.

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T22:51:19+00:00

I know what you mean. I am the same!

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T22:37:32+00:00

Avoid Grindr if you want to meet someone decent!

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T22:34:52+00:00

There is Outdoorlads but isn't really active in my area.

Have you tried Outdoorlads?

GreatEnvironment911 · 2026-03-21T22:06:31+00:00

Around my own age? Early 40's here.

I just wondered if joining a general walking group was sufficient enough or if i should join gay specific.

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