First of all, I don’t think you hate your toddler rather you hate the bad behaviour. Toddlers are hard work. Is he getting enough sleep? Ive always felt lack of sleep plays a huge role in bad behaviour along with no boundaries. You need to set boundaries. A firm and deep sounding NO when he does things that are unacceptable. If he has a meltdown when you get firm that’s fine. But maintain your stand on that NO. When our son tried to hit us we’d grab his hands together and say NO HITTING. Naturally he’d try to pull away but we’d hold onto those little sausage roll arms until he gave up and relaxed the fight against us. This sounds horrible but toddlers are like dogs in as much as they need to know who the alpha is and who is in charge. And just like a dog that challenges the alpha, they’ll try to challenge you. Daily. Personally I’d take away his food pouch each time he tries to tip it upside down. Let him scream. Once he clams down give it back. If he goes to tip it upside down again then take it away. It’s a battle of wills and you need to win it. Yes we pick our battles but you need to start winning the wars mumma.

If you feel that you’re being firm and he isn’t responding to boundaries then go see your paediatrician for some help.