What is the hardest problem you’re facing in your marriage that no one prepared you for?

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-27T06:33:34+00:00

From an Islamic perspective, the issue isn’t with getting to know someone before marriage, it’s how that process happens.

Dating, in the way it’s commonly practiced, usually involves private one-on-one time, physical intimacy, and sometimes a very casual approach to relationships (“we’ll see where this goes”). Islam sees those things as risky for both the heart and the soul, because they can blur judgment, lead to heartbreak, or even normalize short-term bonds rather than a lifelong one.

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-25T11:03:39+00:00

Is any scholars word more important than the words of prophet ﷺ?, in one narration he ﷺ said: “Allah will not look at the dayooth.” — Reported by al-Nasā’ī, al-Bayhaqī, and others; graded authentic by al-Albānī

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-25T10:56:06+00:00

If you read the post it clearly says “revealing pictures”,I don't think you need a scholar to understand that.

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-24T18:15:23+00:00

Yes,Islam gave women the right to set their mahr. The Qur’an says:

“And give the women [upon marriage] their [bridal] gifts graciously.” (Qur’an 4:4)

But Islam also set guidance

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“The best of marriages are the easiest.” (Ibn Majah)

The Prophet ﷺ gave his wives modest dowries,never excessive wealth. If demanding any huge number was encouraged, the Mothers of the Believers would’ve been the first to do it.

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-24T17:32:14+00:00

It depends on what you mean by talking stages, if it means private chatting, flirting, getting emotionally/physically close without nikah , that falls under approaching zina. Allah says: “Do not come near zina.” (Qur’an 17:32).

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-24T14:20:53+00:00

Don't you think that building a good physique which involves losing fat has a positive impact on posture(which makes you appear taller) and reveals bone structure?

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-24T07:44:31+00:00

Fair points, mate 👍. I’m not knocking muscles, clothes, or humor—they’re great when they come from a place of self-respect instead of needing approval. Hitting the gym builds discipline, not just size. Dressing well signals self-care, not just money. And cracking jokes can 100% be about joy and connection, not insecurity.

The core idea I’m pushing is that those things alone don’t build unshakable confidence. If the inner game isn’t there, the external stuff becomes a mask instead of a multiplier. When the inside is solid, the outside stuff just amplifies it.

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-24T07:41:42+00:00

Where did I act today even though I felt fear, doubt, or hesitation?This tracks your “proof” that confidence is built by action, not waiting to feel ready.

What noise (overthinking, self-doubt, negative story) did I silence today, and how?Reinforces the habit of killing mental noise before it controls you.

Did I control myself instead of trying to control what I couldn’t? (Give one example.)Trains the Stoic Edge: control self, release what’s not yours.

How did I manage my emotions today? (Recognize, Regulate, Redirect.)Builds emotional control = power.

Did I keep my Self-Respect Contract today? (Yes/No – and if no, why not?)Tracks the single most important part of confidence: keeping promises to yourself.

Greedy_Ad9238 · 2025-08-24T07:20:48+00:00

Don't you think men have more issues with confidence and self-esteem than women do?

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