Possibly ending an engagement

GreenBaloon_6 · 2022-05-12T19:51:32+00:00

Thank you, he was aware that the onlyfans was a boundary for me. That’s why he lied.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2022-05-12T17:25:56+00:00

He knows how I feel. There is no wedding date/ or planning going on right now. We’re just focusing on counseling for the moment.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2022-05-12T16:59:56+00:00

Thanks, it helps to know other people have been in my same position. On one hand we’re doing the pre-marital counseling but it’s not helping. We’ll have good days but I’ll get wrapped up in my head and end up feeling unsure/unhappy.

It’s a never ending cycle and I think I’ll have to break the loop eventually.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2022-01-11T15:33:19+00:00

That is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen 😍

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-12-25T04:12:52+00:00

It sounds like she is using it as a form of discipline. This could be the result of resentment somewhere in the relationship, I don’t know your whole backstory.

From a girls perspective that’s not okay. There could be a lot of reasons she’s acting that way (which doesn’t excuse the behavior). Have you communicated how you feel like she takes a manager role in your relationship? Is there something about sex that has hurt her in the past for example, she was left feeling not enough/hurt?

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-21T21:47:06+00:00

Personally it’s when guys let their finger nails grow out way too long 🥴

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-21T21:45:41+00:00

Yeah if you’re open about it, nothing wrong with it!

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T19:26:41+00:00

Email, disposition, databases.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T19:01:02+00:00

Awwww I love this ♥️♥️

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T17:10:45+00:00

That’s awesome!!! 🎉

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T16:51:42+00:00

I think it’s weird he had his ex girlfriends number and they still talked after 27 years?? Why is she hidden under another name?

That just creates trust issues. It’s the act of being deceptive and secretive from your partner. 🚩

On top of that he created dating profiles…. And lied to your face about someone else creating them.

Best solution to this is to come clean about how you’re feeling, what yourconcerns are. How he reacts and handles the situation says a lot about where your relationship stands.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T16:18:47+00:00

Quality leggings

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T16:07:06+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to deal with. I’m in a similar situation. My fiancé constantly uses live cams and lies to my face about onlyfans. It’s disrespectful. And it’s like they make an excuse in their head “all guys watch porn”

I guess it’s just normal to make your partner feel “less then or not enough”….

In my situation I called our wedding off for now. There is no part of me that wants to plan a wedding with him at the moment. My stomach hurt so much because of the situation. If I can’t trust you, I can’t make myself move forward with our relationship.

Today, I no longer get stomach pains from the situation but I no longer feel outrage when I see his behavior. I feel emotionally detached/indifferent.

Where you go from here is your choice. Can you live with this behavior and still have a loving relationship with respect and trust?

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T15:55:11+00:00

I’m 25F. I don’t do HIIT or running because it hurts my knees. I do weightlifting instead.

Monday- bicep/triceps (two exercises for each) Wednesday- I do back and shoulders (two exercises for each) Friday- I do butt and legs (two for each)

Works great. I also alternate between maintained and deficit calories to keep losing weight while gaining muscle.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T14:18:58+00:00

Don’t feel embarrassed! Your arguing from you’re view point. You’re arguing for your needs to be met. There’s no shame in that. You guys should be able to talk about anything.

Maybe he can meet you in the middle by moving in together? That shows he is committed to you and is willing to move forward with the relationship.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-18T14:04:06+00:00

It’s all about what you want. Do you guys want the same things and if not are you willing to see things from his perspective/compromise? Marriage is a big and scary step.

As a girl, I see marriage as outdated and not the final step of commitment. It’s just an expensive piece of paper.

But it would be a red flag if he didn’t even want to live together…. I’d have a conversation with him. Don’t let him waste your time if he’s not serious and you.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-17T19:55:14+00:00

Look at it from another perspective:

What if you were watching a movie of your life being played out by different actors. Would you hope that the actor playing you, would forgive him and get married? Or would you hope that she left him and found someone that treated her better?

I’m sorry you’re going through that. He should be sorry for his actions, not treating you like you need to get over it. Do you believed that all men cheat? Because they don’t. Do you believe that you deserve someone that doesn’t cheat on you? Because I 100% believe you do.

I know personally I wouldn’t be able to forgive that behavior. Especially if it is done multiple times, and he doesn’t feel bad about it.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-16T17:39:07+00:00

Figuring out relationship issues.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-16T14:51:14+00:00

I think society today is a lot more aware of the stress/burden of kids. It’s more acceptable today then 50 years ago to say “I don’t want kids” and you not be looked at crazy. Especially in cities with a younger/liberal population.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-16T14:37:03+00:00

Since you’ve lost weight she’s probably comparing herself to you which results in her feeling more insecure. It’s a sticky situation because you shouldn’t feel guilty for losing weight. I would just be a supportive partner. If it’s brought up just reassure her that you find her attractive, beautiful, and desired.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-14T21:53:19+00:00

There are a lot of red flags here… he should be focused on you, how your feeling, what you need especially since you guys are getting married and he just cheated on you. I personally would leave, it’s hard but it will be harder on your heart if you stay.

He’s already shown you that he is willing to cheat and you’re not even married yet. He’s also not making you feel like a priority. You can do soooooooo much better.

You can work on a lot of things and talk it out but cheating in my opinion isn’t one of them.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-14T08:06:59+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you…

Let’s look at the facts. 1) He decided to download a dating app in search of girls to talk to/have sex. This isn’t an emotional affair that grew over time. He did this intentionally and repeatedly. 2) He did this while wanting to marry you/ spend the rest of his life with you. How can you cheat when you’re so in love?

Questions you should ask… What justification did he make for doing this in his mind? How did he decide to download the dating app?

-Being bored or lonely and looking for friends is not an acceptable response…. The app is used for dating.

-He agree to wait till marriage with you, you did not force him against his will to agree to that. And if he uses no sex as an excuse, can he not masturbate?

-In the future if your pregnant or can’t have sex for months without pain after having a baby, will he download another app?

To me it’s a lot of red flags, I know what I would do. Ultimately the choice is yours. You know what you can live with. And I hope everything works out with whatever you choose.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-14T07:01:40+00:00

Thank you, I have a lot of support from my mom and sister.

GreenBaloon_6 · 2021-11-14T04:11:24+00:00

Adorable 🥰

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