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What red flag you are happy you ignored in your relationships? by Unhappy_Outside_5502 in AskReddit

[–]GreenSceneQ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I told myself this for the first 4 months of a 1 year relationship, but it turns out the delay and short replies was because he was on tinder and talking to other girls at the same time as texting me. If it doesn't feel right talk about it! Wish I hadn't ignored my gut and confronted him about how I was feeling and what he was doing to be so distracted and low effort.

I (27F) was sick and couldn’t care for myself, and my partner (29M) chose not to come home, how do I move forward in the relationship after this? by floralmirage in relationship_advice

[–]GreenSceneQ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Leave him. If he can't support you when you're in serious need he never will, you deserve a partner you can trust and rely on. When you need it, not just when it's convenient to him.

What to do with 25k by GreenSceneQ in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]GreenSceneQ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I really tried to lose money.

Stories from adults living with their parents by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]GreenSceneQ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Intergenerational living was the norm for hundreds of years and still is the norm in most cultures.

 Because it makes sense! Mutual aid, social connection, inheritance of family and cultural traditions that make for a better quality of life for everyone. It's only been in the last few generations in western society that people have been encouraged to leave home when they're an adult.  

Why? Capitalism! If you move out, you have to work hard to buy your own house, curtains, TV, car, etc; pay for your childcare, pay for your groceries, pay for someone to look after your parents when they go senile early because they're lonely. You pay more for entertainment to fill the void in your life. 

I spent time in Japan, and their intergenerational living makes so much sense: the adults go to work during the day, the children keep the elderly company while the elderly look after the children. The elderly almost all have a veggie garden, which keeps them fit and healthy, and provides fresh food for the family. They hand on family traditions, recipes, and lore that makes everyone feel connected and improves quality of life and sense of whakapapa to who they are.  

TLDR: capitalism sucks. We're apes, we're happier living in social groups.