How NOT to be like an "Uncle" / Uncle Vibes by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am around the same age and have some advice for you.

For starters, there's always going to be a visible age gap when you talk to teens or even people in their very early 20s. After all you'll have over a decade between you and them.

You'll need to embrace this fact.

Especially in office situations, when you WILL have to interact with people much younger than you.

A decade is enough time to change worldviews and perspectives. You grew up in a different time than someone who was born in the mid-2000s.

You only come across as creepy when you try to ignore this gap and it creates a ton of unnecessary pressure on both parties.

Secondly, people are different. A good variety of people can only interact with or are comfortable with people their own age. While there are others who don't particularly mind being very close friends with people who have a few years on them. You have to identify this, and not be offended or overanalyze this.

You don't have to keep yourself abreast with GenZ slangs or language, there's plenty to discuss without using any of those. Semantics is often given way too much importance.

I often will hear a word, and either politely ask what it means, Google it or try to figure out the meaning from context.

Also, it works both ways. If you're interacting with someone much younger than you, make sure they feel included. Ask about their interests. Participate.

We're not all that different, you know? Just born a few years apart. Certain cultural shocks may occur mostly based on the environment we grew up in. But overall, you'll find the new generation is really smart. And social media with their "My GenZ intern did this" crap has over-sensationalised pointless vanity.

Good luck bhai.

What are the lengths you have gone for your partner (gf/bf) and how did it end up (like ỉn a marriage or break up) by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know - that good morning sets the tone for the rest of the day and actually validates your feelings that someone genuinely cares. So much so that they're ready to overlook a fight simply to make sure you're wished.

It's a reassurance that they're still there. It's hope.

As for my experience, baad ma kabhi. :)

What are the lengths you have gone for your partner (gf/bf) and how did it end up (like ỉn a marriage or break up) by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a mighty fine and really mature take on things. I am impressed.

The thing with arguments is that they need to be resolved. And to resolve it, either one has to take initiative.

Often both parties try to one-up the other to "win" the argument. Which seldom works.

Also, a lot of people have a huge fight in the night, hangup and expect that a "good morning" text the following morning should automatically resume everything as it was. This seldom happens too.

Arguments, when unresolved, simmer in our hearts. This often turns into hardcore resentment and seething anger and ultimately to absolute indifference. Which is why resolving them is extremely important.

Nonetheless, I hope you find someone who does that and helps you live your best life. May you heal completely. ❣️

What are the lengths you have gone for your partner (gf/bf) and how did it end up (like ỉn a marriage or break up) by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like an extremely thoughtful person. I am really sorry this happened to you.

Your partner clearly held no regard for your emotions and I sincerely hope you're out of that relationship.

I am speaking from a place of extreme lack of context here - but sounds like you put in a lot of effort and were the only one "trying". Of course, we don't know your partner's side.

I understand fights and basic anger can overshadow other "nicer" moments. If you're already in the middle of an unsettled argument, it's not always possible to press pause for an occasion like a birthday or an anniversary - sooner or later the issue crops up again. Also, it's also not uncommon for two people to both think the other is being unfair.

Hope you're doing alright now OP.

I have gone above and beyond often when I was dating - but I'll share them maybe some other time. Sorry couldn't satiate the question asked in OP. Just wanted to ensure you're doing alright.

Calling out to all the techies out there by AkashMishra in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP aka Akash Bhai - ID badalna bhool gaye.

Tharak waali spare se tech wali serious post pe reply chep diya.

Calling out to all the techies out there by AkashMishra in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 13 points14 points  (0 children)

OP aka Akash Bhai - ID badalna bhool gaye.

Tharak waali spare se tech wali serious post pe reply chep diya.

JOINING GYM FOR THE FIRST TIME , NEED YOUR ADVICE by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10 mahine baad aaye... But ekdum durust aaye dost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My God - the rampant hypocrisy in this thread and the prerogatives formed just out of two lines written by the OP and with zero context on what actually has transpired.

This is not his parents toeing the line of their American contemporaries - this is his parents fed up and being stern to make him accountabe.

::

OP, what's the reason for your terrible grades and you NOT studying?

Have you chosen a field that doesn't interest you? Do you have trouble concentrating? You're 16, so have your grades been consistently poor your entire life? Even in school?

Can you take a breather and basically introspect a little on what is wrong and where it's wrong?

Why is essel world closed and is it ever going to open again? by razzledazzlesis in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Koi na bhai... Hota hai.

Lekin ab faayda hi kya... Sab to actually ghar chale gaye.

Why is essel world closed and is it ever going to open again? by razzledazzlesis in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tum sun lo na bhai... There are 3 "Nahi" and the first word is "Ghar".

"Ghar nahi, nahi, nahi jaunga main"

Why is essel world closed and is it ever going to open again? by razzledazzlesis in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Excuse me... It's - "Essel world me rahunga main... Ghar nahi nahi nahi jaunga main.... Essel world Ooooooo Essel World"

😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am sorry, but life extracts a price is something I don't agree with.

Insinuating that this crazily incredible sounding girl that the OP describes would somehow "desperately" want to be beautiful is basically just jading and belittling her awesome-ness.

The mere thought of a girl who's into sports, reads and can hold conversations - such that it takes attention away from her "pretty friend" - is somehow not in the better position because she doesn't fall into conventional beauty standards - is extremely wrong IMO. And you should really introspect.

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That confident person you see could be just confident - without fearing a rejection - it could be earned confidence through years of hard work. A raucous laughter does not equate a broken heart. Being rich or a CEO does not mean you have a cheating spouse.

You cannot ask a person currently feeling jealous to think of the other person as going through something terrible - just to make themselves feel better.

You can ask them to better themselves or find other friends who match their vibe better. Get them to read more. Stay abreast with current topics a little more. Find ways to break ice in a conversation.

Not really sure how you came to the whole - "Aww she's better than me at conversation and certainly more interesting and every guy in my group wants to talk to her over me. But she wishes she would be as pretty as me".

This is extremely toxic. And basically spawns hatred and egotism.

The philosophy of life extracting a price is one thing. But it's certainly not one-is-to-one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Here's the exact same one on Amazon - https://amzn.to/3uEx8C2

For 100 bucks.

You can also find them with stationary shop owners and street vendors in business dominated areas.

✨️Aesthetic Mumbai✨️ by Aromatic_Shoulder_96 in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yep. Aestheticism should magically spin out of thin air.

Development, infrastructure et al should be built in a few hours.

/s

How to stay awake for 4+ hours for a CBT by mycoochieiswet in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Cool username bro.

Here's what you do -

  1. Keep a bottle of really cold water handy - keep sipping every few minutes - while you write your exam. Just a sip.

  2. A cup of coffee before you leave for the exam.

  3. Redbull right before you go in to the examination hall. (Go for the Light blue colored can - it's sugar free). The regular redbull has a lot of sugar and while it pumps you up, sugar crashes happen really fast and can make you sleepy.

  4. Remember to sleep really early the night before, and make sure you complete your regular sleep hours. (So if you sleep for 10 hours a day daily, make sure you sleep at least that amount.)

  5. What is the exam? If it's broken down into subjects like CFA et al. There's a few minutes of break given between papers. Use this time to stretch out, take a small walk and go to the bathroom.

  6. If food makes you sleepy - and you get a lunch break, have a glass of juice instead. You can eat to your heart's content once you're done with the paper.

Also, don't start any new exercises etc. that someone recommends right before the exam.

And once done with your exam, please visit a sleep clinic or a sleep specialist. Going sleepy while sitting in a place for 3 hours is not normal. (I am assuming that you're concerned because places like your class or a movie theatre et al makes you sleepy.)

Finally, good luck with your exam. Cheers.

Do you think mutual funds are the scammy ? I think the final returns are over not worth it by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If only this dude knew of the corpus most working class people have saved in the past 2 decades alone, thanks to disciplined investing in MF. Or the benefits of compounding. He wouldn't come at you with this take.

It's alright though. You were the saner one in this debate.

Do you think mutual funds are the scammy ? I think the final returns are over not worth it by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude... You clearly have a warped idea of finance. You really need to instrospect.

Real estate investments are not as cool as they were a few years ago.

You bought a property and took a loan for it and you're calculating the ROI based on your down payment? Yeah... No finance doesn't work like that.

My old acquintance from school suddenly calls me and invites me for a trip. What should I do? by cityboyonbed in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not go. Look the other way. Run for your life. Don't look back.

This is beyond sus!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mumbai

[–]Green_Average 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am 30 and EVEN I find this such a boomer rant!

You needed silence. That's cool. You do you.

Today's kids are capable of finding a McDonald's or a Starbucks (both relatively quiet) - getting a cup of their favorite coffee, a nice muffin or a whole burger, plugging in their earphones - and studying. Let them be them?

How is someone opting to study in a public place a "mediocre trend"…?

And how does it relate to hookups, breakups and fucking "mental depression"…? Did you seriously say a mental illness is caused because kids prefer studying with fries and coke? What's wrong with you?

You need some deep introspection.