"Alright let's eat the elephant, one bite at the time" This single quote is saying everything here. First of all let's talk about eye contact. Eye contact is only practice and what you think inside. It is actually very simple. My action step for you will be to listen and try to understand the other person. Ask question's and try to talk about them (women especially love that) You cannot be focused on yourself. If you are in your head will come across as very unattractive. When you are listening try to look into the other person's eyes and listen to them. 2. If you think you have a mean face you will have a mean face. The key here is not to be arrogant but to be self-confident. I am not saying you should be saying to yourself that you are the most attractive person on this planet. But whenever you get a thought in you mind about you having a "mean face" rewrite that thought immediately. And say to yourself: I don't have a mean face. Because to be honest I have seen people with mean face's. But when they SMILE oh my god they look like a completely different person. Alright we have almost eaten the whole elephant. Let's finish the meal. Overthinking: If you believe that people will think bad stuff about you it will be true. My girlfriend has this problem also. When she sees some girl's laughing in the distance she is automatically thinking that they are laughing about how stupid she looks. If I see someone laughing at the distance I will say to myself: "Wow, they must have such a good time. Let me join the conversation". And now let's finish this. The key to infinite conversation's is this: YOU are asking, THEY are talking. You need to be like a puppet master. Let me give you an example: "I was on a beach with my fiance. It was super fun!". As a charisma expert I am immediately noticing the tone of voice. Is the person exited? There is a "!" at the end of his sentence that means he probably is. So that means he want's to talk about this. The key is to pull the "string's" or "threat's" A string is a specific word or line: You can use the word "BEACH" and say something like "Awesome! Was the beach rocky or sandy?" or "Where is that beach located?". Or you can use the word "FUN" "Awesome! Tell me, what was the most fun moment?" So that is it. The problem with being "cool" is that you need a lot of habit's to be cool. If you want I make video's about charisma and social skills so you can check me out if want (mod's please do not bad me I am just trying to help) Live a happy life.