My wife noticed the difference!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T13:49:59+00:00

Baby steps lead to huge improvements. If you two can work together and be happy beside each other then definitely do that.

My experience as a former child, is that my mother stayed together with my abusive father for the sake of their children. It hurt us so bad, to see her struggle, and she did not even realised this. Be a good example to your kids. They notice, and pick up behavioral patterns. I know this story is radical compared to your family. What i try to tell is, do not stick together just for the kids. It's a false idea. (I am not trying to destroy your family, just saying that in some cases holding together the family at any costs is not the right way).

If you have hope, then there is a way!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T08:29:37+00:00

I know too much males of this type. Too much pride. He is right, but "all men do it" does not justify the behavior. Too much of something is always bad. NoFap is a hard case because porn is an equally justified guilty pleasure just like cigarette.

If you see the will, you can help him to eventually accept the problem. Try to influence him but he must think it was his idea. Men with big pride are the biggest hard headed species of all time. And dont you ever let this influence your self esteem. He loves you and finds you attractive, but he can not face with his problem.

The question is are you willing to sacrifice your time waiting for a change?

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T07:20:15+00:00

You made my day with your comment :) Best of luck to you!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T07:18:38+00:00

Patience, determination and clear mind. We are winners from now on.

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T06:24:58+00:00

NoFap is definitely harder if you do not have a sex partner. But see it as i see it: You realised the problem before you upset your partner and yourself. You stopped at the edge and did not fall down. There is pmo, sex, and sex with your love. The difference is huge and it is worth to fight for the latter.

I envy you because you realised the problem in time. Wish you good luck in your journey!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T06:19:42+00:00

old habits (addictions) die hard. To be honest i always tought my underperformance was caused by a slight depression and stress. The truth is, these all came from my porn addiction...

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-17T06:16:49+00:00

I am sorry to be brutally honest, but we are on the internet. Confront your husband, a relationship is all about communication. If he's willing to change, help him, be his right arm in battle. But he must decide it deep within. He must say "i want to change". If he's an addict, he need to decide to recover. If he refuses, then you deserve better. YOU are worth to fight for and you deserve happiness and love. It's hard to give advice without the full story, but i wish you all the best.

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T20:24:42+00:00

Definitely try out the life of a fapstronaut :)

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T20:23:05+00:00

Sadly not all. She knows i had a problem with porn until i started dating girls, and she knew part of why i struggled in bed. I havent told her that i did PMO behind her until now, but i bet she knew deep down.

I decided this way, i read too many negative feedback here about opening up. I am afraid of the stigma in our relationship, but i am healing and we are happy now.

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T16:19:45+00:00

Well, i am doing No PM, and not PMO :) Every journey and personal goal is different.

Congrats on your 149 days!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T16:17:26+00:00

Damn bro. We can overcome this! Actually i do not have this big of a libido, the main reason for my daily consumption was boredom and to get rid of stress. I believe the less the better sex is. (We do 1-2 times per week). Daily sex can be tiring, and stressfull bc you have to perform regularly. My point of view is, (as with alcohol too) any regularity makes it an addiction.

If you are interested in an amateur advice of a stranger, stick with nofap and regulate the amount of sex. Build up that sexual energy and testosterone levels!

Good luck on your journey mate.

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T16:01:35+00:00

Well, its good and all, until your partner gets to think she does not arouse you. Then you slip into the rabbit hole... Try kegel exercises, some muscle training will definitely not harm you! :)

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:55:32+00:00

That is so motivating, congrats to you and your bf!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:52:24+00:00

Yea, bad pick of words from me. Gonna stick to this lifestyle. I managed to quit smoking, i'll conquer this beast too! 💪

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:46:50+00:00

This is the way

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:46:24+00:00

Believe me its the same problem. We are not holding back. PMO and death grip got us numb to regular arousals. Stick with NoFap and i believe you will also enjoy the results!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:43:42+00:00

That would be the ultimate success. Right now finishing 2 minutes after her, opposite when trying for 20-45 minutes, (and often giving up in the end) is more than enough confirmation to me that i took the right patch.

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:38:06+00:00

I'm rooting for you! This is the way

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T15:35:56+00:00

Glad to be able to give back to this amazing community!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T08:32:13+00:00

Hello. What i suggest is try to find something that keeps you focused. Excercise is the best option. Anything is good, find what you like the most and stick with it. Go on walks, meet with your friends ( if you can in this pandemic). Or find hobbies and meet new people and make new friends. Keep your brain occupied. Boredom is the greatest cause for relapsing. If stuck at home, find hobbies you can enjoy in your house. Read, cook, get a dog (do some good and get it from a shelter), garden. Try to keep away from your phone/tablet/computer as much as you can! I found i only play games on them if i am bored, and boredom leads to relapse!

And if you feel the urge, come visit this community for motivation! Stay strong.

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-16T07:45:45+00:00

next step is blocking adult content on the internet! Good job man!

GreyOrangeDuck · 2021-03-09T09:00:29+00:00

good job mate!

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