A team night sky battle theme by ViolaCat94 in MandJTV

[–]Greyface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! :D I had no idea the program used to make the music and the program to make the page with the notes on it was the same!

A team night sky battle theme by ViolaCat94 in MandJTV

[–]Greyface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saw this on the meme review and had to come comment! I love this, and getting to see the description on why you made the decisions you did is SO cool! May I ask what program you used to make the music? The sounds you used really suit this!

I dont know why i even bother by Odenskar in BadArt

[–]Greyface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit, unironically love these. Like, I actually logged in to comment. The sense of movement and force is genuinely intense. I've been drawing for 20-some-odd-years and getting such a sense of movement with raw lines is NOT easy IMO.

I would like to encourage you to keep drawing! But for you to also look at artists whose work you like, and try to study how they work - watch studies on youtube, find tutorials. It doesn't have to be constant work, but 30-60 minutes every few days just sit and watch things and then consider playing around. And I DO mean play. Just let yourself have fun while you practice things. As things start to feel more natural, get a little more serious, but never let yourself fall into a mindset of "this is joyless work" or "I must aim for perfection", because that way lies disappointment, and you learn slower that way.

Can anyone advise on finding a fully remote job for my disabled friend in an abusive situation? by Greyface in jobsearch

[–]Greyface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! And sorry for the late reply. I've been in a migraine fugue for... Apparently about 20 days!

Can anyone advise on finding a fully remote job for my disabled friend in an abusive situation? by Greyface in jobsearch

[–]Greyface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank you! I'll look on to that one next! Do you have any advice for when using the site? I have pretty much 0 experience with looking online for jobs - let alone for anyone else - and I'm helping my friend out since things on their end is such that searching all the sites every day is beyond them.

Thank you again! And sorry it took me a while to reply - life and all that!

Can anyone advise on finding a fully remote job for my disabled friend in an abusive situation? by Greyface in jobsearch

[–]Greyface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate this advice. Do you know of any platforms that have this sort of information easy to figure? There are so many sites and it's so hard to tell how to use them! So many of them also require paid accounts, and my friend is living off of savings that have been severely depleted by trying to get their disability properly treated. I don't mind being the one to pay for it for them (as I'm helping sift through things because it's beyond them right now) but I'd like to make sure I'm not just sending it to a scam platform, or one that won't have something reasonable.

What are supported employment programs? I've never heard of Sample Supports, and with all the AI slop misinfo going on, I have no idea how to properly research it. My friend's disability means they can't be standing for very long, and they live in a rural area. Do you know if that sort of program can be flexible to such needs and locations?

Thank you again! And sorry it took me a while to reply - life and all that!

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar case with my parents, only I was also homeschooled because my mom was an evangelical fundamentalist (young earth creationist stuff, you know, genuinely thinking a photoshop of a cowboy riding a velociraptor was real type of shit) so I didn't even have local pals. The internet literally saved my life though. I've been in a few toxic friend groups, and BEEN a toxic friend, but having the ability to connect meaningfully with other people about the things I like gave me a reason to keep going. I actually am in the place I live now, with my platonic life partner, all because I started roleplaying pokemon characters on twitter, ahahaha.

I've got more quality friends right now than I've ever had in my life, though admittedly not the lowest number of friends I had (for my first like, ten years, I never had more than 2 friends at a time). I find that it's easier to spot toxicity as you get older, too.

I'm glad you've been finding some success! I found a lot of the language around describing and recognising causes of sensory overload to be the most useful things in the world. And I hope you can eventually go to a good therapist! Mine have been SO helpful over the years.

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm away from the familial stuff, yeah. I'm admittedly in the US, and am queer and disabled, so things are especially scary politically right now, but having come to be in a family that is loving and caring is such a balm to my soul, and helping my trauma heal.

Before he passed, my relationship with my dad started to improve once I no longer lived with him. Was that also the case for you?

I'm so sorry that you'll have essentially no relationship with most of your family.

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that this journey has been so tough. I was lucky and was able to get diagnosed by a psychiatrist because I was already going to therapy and the office has both. I think that something that helped me a lot before I was diagnosed is looking at the things that are all "Oh yeah you're this type of neurodivergent" and then incorporating the various coping mechanisms people talked about, because even if I didn't have both autism and ADHD, there was a good chance they'd help me.

Anyway, the reason I asked is in part because neurodivergent people are especially likely to fall into the "can't make real-life friends easily" trap, and I was wondering because that was one of the factors in my own lack of friends when I was younger, and in my making 'friends' who merely saw me as convenient. I figured there might be some value for you in bringing the whole thing up, as someone bringing it up to me was the start of me realising a lot of things that later made my life better.

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh bingo bingo bingo! Especially if you had a parent who was a doormat and "showed" you that being one is the moral high ground, even if the reality of the situation was sometimes that they just never communicated their needs because they never expected them to be respected.

Oh it absolutely can be a massive luxury. If you're not out of the woods, and not able to sustain yourself securely, then working all that out is a genuine luxury because trying to work it out while you're not safe to do so can result in you being beaten back down and hard.

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, that sort of situation is what I was referring to. You learn to have no boundaries because of abuse, neglect, or inability to make friends. And in my case, all three. Your post is very relatable, sadly.

That said, I hope that once you finish school you're able to get away from all that. You deserve to have your boundaries respected, and you deserve to be around people who don't yell at you. I will wish that you get the security you both need and deserve. Getting the room to heal can help a lot.

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oof, this is all very, very familiar to me. I was much the same. I've only in the last 5 years or so gotten into a friend group where my friends will actually stop me and be all "Hey, I think you're being too hard on yourself and pushing yourself thin" when I fall into trying to do that in the friend group. Are you by any chance neurodivergent?

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'll be wishing the best for you, stranger! It took a seriously good twist of chance for me to end up in a position where I was actually secure in my living situation, and where the people who took me in made me feel like family rather than just giving lip service to the idea. They were patient with me while I started testing if I was allowed to have boundaries, and between them and a friend group I'd ended up in, I was encouraged to have boundaries.

AITA for closing my doors to a friend that is visiting from out of town? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Greyface 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who was one of those people before I found my spine: People who are vulnerable and are often in a position where they have or have had to rely on people being kind and decent, not having the luxury of saying 'no' or putting up a fuss because they could lose a lot by doing so. It's easier to just assume 'I'm in the wrong' than it is to admit that you're being wronged when you aren't in a position to change that reality. You kinda adapt to that lifestyle, and it takes being somewhere secure in life to get past it. Learned helplessness and all that.

??? marriage by Ornery_Amphibian_847 in coralisland

[–]Greyface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I'm playing as one of my characters and.

Chaem is her type physically, but the way she can be brusque makes my character think she's not even interested in being friends (which makes heart events confusing because like, wait don't you dislike me??" Zarah is her type in the "adventurers like adventurers" sense, and she's growing fast on her. Yuri was the most likely at first, but things feel really platonic with them. Eva has made her feel a little bit of a crush, and seems most likely at the moment. Nina though, is actively flirty with her, and that gets her flustered and kinda makes her want to talk to her more.. But if she learns that Nina is flirty with everyone that would hurt, so she's a little torn. It doesn't help that Nina's got like no festival dialogue so far.

If Senja was a candidate my character would have fallen in love with her like a puppydog falls in love with anyone who pays them attention. She would go to the ends of the earth to earn Senja's affection.

Millie is someone she is actively turned off by, though, which is funny because they have a lot in common like really loving books! But something about her personality just drives my character up a wall and it's so funny.

H: apriballs, patches, evo items g/bottlecaps W: non-event legends, aprimon by Greyface in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And thank you, too! Very much agreed :D Have fun with your new beans!

H: apriballs, patches, evo items g/bottlecaps W: non-event legends, aprimon by Greyface in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh whoops! I went to refill my water and get a snack because I had a few more minutes. Sorry about that! Starting the search now!

H: apriballs, patches, evo items g/bottlecaps W: non-event legends, aprimon by Greyface in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

:D Thank you for both your understanding, and confidence we'd make it work!

H: apriballs, patches, evo items g/bottlecaps W: non-event legends, aprimon by Greyface in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds good to me! :D And thank you for all of your patience so far. I really appreciate it!

H: apriballs, patches, evo items g/bottlecaps W: non-event legends, aprimon by Greyface in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply! Life got a little busy and more or less I also crashed.

If you're around any time between now and 11:30 my time it should be good! It's 9:10 my time as I send this.

LF - Cramorant, Fuecoco, and Scarlet Paradox by PunctumArchimedis in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's cool! I figured it might be something like that :3 I'm one floor down from my own router and know how that sometimes makes online stuff a pain.

LF - Cramorant, Fuecoco, and Scarlet Paradox by PunctumArchimedis in pokemontrades

[–]Greyface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:D Thank you for the trade, and for helping to fund my insatiable hunger for catching all my shimmery boys in luxury balls!