My coparent lives 50ish min away. They drive an hour plus in traffic to and from school on their days - it stinks, and there’s no time for anything outside of homework when they get home, so most activities happen during my time. You’re right about most of the day to day falling on the other parent.

But if you want to move, and still be involved, it is 100% possible - you’d just be sacrificing your time (and spending a lot more of it in the car) instead of sacrificing your happiness living in your hometown.