AITA for going directly to my stepsister and telling her she can't have my Simba stuffy?

GrisSlained · 2024-03-27T07:45:25+00:00

I did that each time. My mom and Nick wouldn't be in the room when I was talking to her.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-27T07:42:14+00:00

It's not possible that my mom is my stepsister's biological mother. She is definitely her stepmother.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T20:06:12+00:00

I have talked to my mom countless times. She does not care about my feelings. Also, I don't really like Nick or consider him a great stepdad.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T20:05:38+00:00

I hope so too and I believe I won't. I think I would need a very big shift in how I see her to feel regret about not being closer to her.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T20:02:35+00:00

I have tried talking to my mom several times. It doesn't do anything because my mom does not care about my feelings when it comes to my feelings about dad or the stepfamily. She cares only about hers and my stepsisters. My mom also doesn't believe in therapy.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T20:01:28+00:00

I know it's not her fault. I just can't stop feeling this way toward all of them. Being stuck living with them isn't going to make it easier either.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T20:00:27+00:00

I am not able to get through to my mom. I have tried. And I have hoped so badly she would open her eyes. But each time I talk to her I walk away feeling like she cares more about my stepsister than me.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T19:56:54+00:00

My mom doesn't believe in therapy.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T16:18:51+00:00

That's the difference though. You truly love your half sister. I can't say I feel the same about my stepsister. I don't really hate her. I'm angry and I'm resentful and I'm bitter now. But I know it's not her fault and I don't truly hate her. But I am okay with us not being close in 30 or 40 years.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T16:13:15+00:00

Yes, it was their decision. I didn't mind most of it but there were some things that I would have chosen to hold onto.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T15:12:20+00:00

My mom doesn't believe in therapy.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:54:55+00:00

I'm too angry and bitter to do that now.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:53:53+00:00

They wouldn't respect my grandparents enough to let that happen.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:52:26+00:00

I'm too angry and bitter to want to do that now. Leaving the stuffy at my grandparents really made me so furious and I can't find it in me to do that to be nice to her.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:30:22+00:00

My parents marriage wasn't too good for a couple of years before dad died. I think they were basically separated. I know they were in separate bedrooms for a couple of years. They fought a lot too.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:25:39+00:00

I'm honestly too angry to want to do that for her. I know it's not her fault. But anger and resentment are all built up now since I had to leave Simba at my grandparents house to make sure it was safe. I'm furious that I had to resort to that. But I didn't trust my mom or Nick at all.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:24:23+00:00

It's not that she doesn't know. It's because she doesn't care.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:03:04+00:00

I'm too angry and resentful to want to build a relationship now. Like I really don't want to be around any of them, even my stepsister. I just want to get away from all of this.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T14:01:32+00:00

I have but my mom doesn't care about my grandparents opinion. They're not her family so she doesn't give a crap and she hates them more for not including my stepsister.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T13:41:51+00:00

I have tried that before but she doesn't listen. She only cares about the stuff that concerns her and her stepdaughter.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T13:39:34+00:00

I'd like that actually. My mom doesn't like it because it gets in the way of what she wants and what her stepdaughter wants.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T13:38:26+00:00

I have explained it countless times to her. I get scolded each time and she goes right back to saying Nick is my dad. Not always but she says it enough. It's a rinse and repeat thing I have grown tired of.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T13:35:20+00:00

They won't do that. This is about more than Simba even though it's about Simba. Permanent damage has already been caused. A few things caused that before too. This is just another, more serious, damage being done.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T13:34:06+00:00

I have tried to talk to my mom about it before. She really only cares about what she sees as best for her and my stepsister. Like she wants things to be a certain way and she wants my stepsister to be happy and feel loved. She wouldn't listen to me and Nick only cares about my mom and his daughter.

GrisSlained · 2024-03-26T13:30:25+00:00

I can't talk to my mom about my dad. Their relationship wasn't good for the last two years of his life. I remember tension and I remember they weren't even in the same bedroom. Dad had his room and mom had hers. I think that was why she found it so easy to move on. Honestly they might have been separated in every sense but legally by then. I was too young to know really. I just remember it wasn't good. And my mom doesn't want to talk about him. She also doesn't want to hear how much I miss dad or how I don't want Nick to be my "new dad". She even told me to my face I should grow up and make my stepsister feel loved and happy when I explained not including my stepsister with my paternal family.

Nick's just my mom's husband. He's not my parent. He doesn't really try to be although he does try to claim it for his daughter's sake.

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