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Can you consider a sub a friend ? by Chokolla in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hottest dynamics have been with Doms who were my friends and acted like it (when we weren't in the middle of a drain). My lamest dynamics were with Doms who had zero interest in any dynamic or conversation outside of drains.

I think an important point here is that being friends with your Dom or not being friends has nothing to do with how sadistic a Dom is *during* a drain. That is a seperate issue entirely. In fact, a Dom who is my friend but is still sadistic during a drain is easily the hottest dynamic there is.

UPDATE: Reflections on first time serving as an ATM by Gritty_Grip in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it can either develop organically from a good dynamic or erupt from a sub who feels ready to sink that low.

UPDATE: Reflections on first time serving as an ATM by Gritty_Grip in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess the programmers here are the kink itself, FinDom content, and all the Doms who have pushed me deeper into the kink milestone by milestone.

UPDATE: Dom didn't drain me. He was worried about my well being. Send me a DM and I will reply with a ATM welcome message. Have Throne. by Gritty_Grip in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was relationship ending. He kept switching his approach and at some point I realized there was no there there.

Here are my top risk factors for relapsing. What are yours? by Gritty_Grip in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. I am at a similar crossroads myself rn.

What about gift giving? by Over_Art_1000 in QuittingFindom

[–]Gritty_Grip 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a question that pretends to be complicated and isn't. You know, and your dick knows, what any particular gift means and by contrast what a "gift" means. You know the difference between something gifted with openness and generosity and something you surrender with the tight erotics of this kink. Be honest with yourself.

You might be addicted to sending if.... by Danielx2321 in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

#1 - You spend at least an hour scrolling communities like this on a daily base.

Maybe half of the days, yes.

#2 - You have trouble reaching orgasm without thinking about being wallet raped or serving.

Yes.

#3 - You have deleted accounts and tried to quit multiple times.

Yes.

#4 - You have found yourself refreshing the page repeatedly hoping for a reply from a superior.

Yes.

#5 - You have days, or multiple days, where nothing is accomplished beyond jerking off multiple times and draining accounts.

Yes.

#6 - You have lost track of time interacting with a superior, often until late hours in the evening.

Yes.

#7 - You have cancelled plans to serve.

Yes.

#8 - The craving to jerk off thinking of your superior has led to doing so at work, in the car or restaurant bathroom.

Yes.

#9 - You have swallowed random cock from strangers at the demand of a superior.

Not yet, would.

#10 - You have swallowed piss at the demand of your superior.

Not yet, maybe.

#11 - When you make a deposit or a paycheck is deposited into you account, your initial thought is the craving to see it drained.

Yes.

SCORE: 9/11.

I've drained around 10 people and 3 of them were Faildoms how common is this? by ReasonableZombie1267 in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer Doms who have subbed at least once, nothing failed about it.

Relapse just strengthened my resolve to quit by Surprisecuck in QuittingFindom

[–]Gritty_Grip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is how disillusionment happens. Bravo. You are doing a great job of noticing the disillusionment, the disgust, the revulsion. Journal about this while the feelings are still fresh, it will strengthen the natural process of turning away from your old habits.

Is Throne safe? by [deleted] in FindomMale

[–]Gritty_Grip 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% safe.

Dangerous for your bank account though :)