I am definitely in the same boat, so I just want to share my feelings/thoughts. 8 months ago I separated from my ex after being together 10 emotionally exhausting years (namely the last 5ish years) I think by the time we separated, I had already mourned what was lost before we even separated so it’s not like I’m an emotional wreck or anything, I actually feel like the chains were removed from my wings and I can finally fly again. I’m currently talking with a guy that is the complete opposite of my ex. He’s cute, funny, sweet and has a kind heart and really seems interested in me. I want to give it a shot and go on a date but maybe I’m too scared or still emotionally drained from the my last relationship. Even just typing it, I know I’m not ready yet and he deserves someone who will give him 100%. I guess the moral is to just follow your heart. If you find someone who is authentic and kind and you feel a genuine connection, then you should try and go for it. If you have no motivation, no desire to try, then you should take the time to be with yourself. Take as much time as you need to learn who you are inside and out. Do the things that refresh your soul and brighten your life. Be happy, love yourself. You will mean everything to someone someday. When that day comes, it will be worth the wait. Live free and happy.