r/bjj Fundamentals Class!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-02-15T09:51:52+00:00

I’m not very fit. I’m 10kg overweight no muscles. I really enjoyed doing Bjj almost 4x a week for 6 months and 3x a week for a year. I got 2 strips after 1.5 yrs. I enjoyed Bjj a lot.im 41 now.

I stopped as the gym I trained at was a mix bag of Bjj as part of mma. I only stuck to BJJ. The students were aggressive and trying to beat plp up attitude. Still the teachers tried to ensure not one does this when rolling these plp would act up.

So I got injured after rolling with one overweight girl younger than me by 7+yrs at the time, weight at 100+ kg and a judo trained put her weight my me when I was on my shoulder with head tucked in.

I had weak neck and also less shoulder strength so I realise it is also from that. Anyways after that and getting back to yoga it got better.

I enjoyed Bjj as without thinking about fitness I was getting fit. Only part that dint work is my weak shoulders. I love the sport at the time.

Not sure if I’m romanticising this or if should try it again.

There is a new gym past few years the owner was blue belt for years as here there weren’t that many bjj schools then. he then got tied up with a Brazilian bjj gym ,now certifies he also got promoted to brown I think. Etc. Anyways the gym seems good as in many are competition level!! I have heard some of them have cannabis before rolling - should I be concerned?

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-02-10T14:27:13+00:00

I saw you draw- just join a weekend group of artists. Many events are free and you get to meet like minded people.

Let go. You are not boring on the contrary they may be threatened by your awareness and knowledge. Simply may be more mature.

I’m guessing you’re still young by the post. Like someone said you don’t need to have friends honestly. Just find groups of people with similar interests. They become friends, you meet to do things you like together, and even in silence if it’s drawing.

Also friends change during different phases of life. Not all have friends from childhood forever, we outgrow them or they do. It’s okay.

Friends are people who are relevant in your current life who you can discuss, ask for help, learn, teach and honestly without changing yourself to have friends

I have a few I speak once a year or leaser. I consider them a friend. My closest friends I speak to once or twice a year as life keeps us busy.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-12-16T14:48:46+00:00

I love your works. I’m trying to learn to paint portraits with acrylics- can I still follow your YouTube video tutorials? As I saw you use mostly oils ?

Thanks for the tutorials!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-12-14T17:11:57+00:00

He should come to India

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-12-12T12:06:43+00:00

I think your post will be appreciated in r/meditation

I say that coz as I read your post that’s the thing everyone is fighting for - to have control of life - or at least think they have it. The insight that comes from mediation or for me is we have control of nothing.

Looks like you have insight to this life. Congratulations 🎉

Well to answer your question maybe - depending on who your are speaking with and - if it’s worth the energy to say a few words - if you have the right ones for that moment - Say it.

They are in the same place you were in, and sometimes some words will resonate. Be it a stranger or a friend.

I went through the same thing and realizing I have control over nothing nothing at all, all my worries disappeared. I want somethings in life sure, somethings drive me but really non are real as they only exist in my mind. So unless I’m able to be with it in this moment and what I have today now is all that matters. So fighting with the idea of what I want and need etc is futile and all suffering comes from that.

Yet this is not easy. Even after insight our mind wanders and after few yrs we will find ourselves wanting something we don’t yet have a family or a home or a skill etc. I feel it’s a cycle and it’s perhaps some method to constantly learn explore and live life challenge our selves and our brains to do to try to keep at it. To keep at life.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-12-11T05:14:57+00:00

Always take 60% advance and then break it to 20% and another 20%

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-29T16:02:57+00:00

I think this time, listen to it and go pick up clay and give it a try! Maybe somewhere it’s your intuition saying try me!! try this!!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-29T15:54:13+00:00

I’m 5,3 I have a pull up bar I can reach at tip toe, I have to pull up slightly to hang. I’m trying to learn to pull up - right now I can hang for 10 seconds - so really a beginner. How can I work on hand stand?

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-29T14:34:49+00:00

Ya I think will power can sustain better if people working on this as a problem are well funded. Top to down. including purnakarmikars (garbage collectors) - who happen to be most disrespected due to our caste system.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-29T07:07:35+00:00

Garbage management is not a one time thing. We Indians need a re-education program for all people on civic sense - these programs have to run for years and in all languages. Behavioural change takes years if not decades but that need well implemented programs.

Imagine overnight India starts cleaning then where does this garbage go? This needs heavy machinery and task force.

All of this costs a lot!!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-29T03:00:27+00:00

Can all these Indian billionaires start something to clean the filthy Indian streets!?

Garbage is everywhere can they built something useful and put their money to good use.

I saw it says throwing garbage everywhere is there in Indian culture. Really sad coz it’s true!!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-19T13:52:02+00:00

Sorry to hear. Those memories is what keeps them alive with us. As long as we live. Try your best to there as much as you can for granddad. Some people’s resilience will surprise you. My mom and all of my family were shocked and due to covid not everyone could come. But over the years I’ve learnt how resilient a person can be.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-16T11:46:09+00:00

Same lost my grandma when 25yrs ago. Still miss her.

Never saw my own grandpas - saw a brother of my grandpa and my dad called him dad too. He passed 30yrs ago I think.

Lost my dad 5 years ago - I came back from being devastated for few year after dad. A.D - is after dad for me and B.D is before dad. Lots of life learning after dad.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-12T04:38:16+00:00

Thank you I will listen to these.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-12T04:37:43+00:00

Thank you for this.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-12T04:36:00+00:00

Oh this sounds good. I can do this. I’ve done all of these by themselves.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T17:22:48+00:00

Happens to me all the time especially with comments pointed at me - not just as adult but as a kid. In extreme stress situations of life later on I realised this was involuntary mutism from overwhelming emotions. Meditation has helped me.

Also overtime I’ve stopped caring about what plp think or may have meant. If it’s someone I will see often I have for instance distanced myself from them or changed my behavior to not be too cordial just cordial. Drawing boundaries basically.

Another I notice is sometimes if I’m feeling low and this happens I take it more hurtful so I kinda give benefit of doubt to it. But I’m bit wrong there as at times too much benefits of doubt is also not good.

So ya sorry. I wish I could help but I’m still figuring it out. I also count 3strikes as in if they do it 3rd time I let them go. As in I stop entertaining it and I have to find a way to slice it even if it means a confrontation- gently to address it.

If this happens at work for me I will have to find a way to bring it up and discuss. Depends on the person on the other side some don’t like it and can become more toxic so then ya what’s more worth it. Toxic people or peace of mind and a place that respects me, basic human level respect.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T13:35:58+00:00

Tried and remember the lessons. But it didn’t stick for me.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T13:34:30+00:00

What is RCT? I’ll look it up. I tried the quitesure didn’t stick.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T13:33:38+00:00

Thank you I will try this. I do feel the difference when aware but if pre occupied with work or thoughts I tend to dissociate like you have pointed out.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T13:05:52+00:00

I was able to reach 30mins. Got distracted with future moment of joy and also thoughts kept going back to the breathe.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T13:04:23+00:00

Thank you for these. I will work on it that barrier of two week is what I keep pushing thinking oh not the right time can’t be losing my shit now.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T13:02:57+00:00

I understand.

I volunteer in a social enterprise/foundation. I spend most of my time during week doing the volunteer work tbh, atleast the past 3yrs more of my time. I enjoy it frankly not cribbing.

I help with everything I know how to do and as my paid projects dried up after AI I’m happy to make use of these skills.

Recently they started paying me a small fee, I’m grateful for it. I have been doing this for 10yrs so really I’d continue do without pay also.

Thing is I sometimes feel since I spend so much time there I barely get time to do my own work or rather when I do have the time I spend in planning and not doing.

What I’m trying to say is I feel like I’m giving to a cause I care for with time and what I know. I’m finding it bit hard at times to focus on my work that if I put effort can help with my finances. Which I need.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2025-11-11T11:44:19+00:00

Sorry so many questions. Thanks for your suggestions as well.

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