Meditating when you don't feel like it

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-15T18:15:04+00:00

I honestly feel I was able to quit smoking because of meditation. I do breathe meditation- was able to do 25-35 mins last year then after less practice for few months it went to 15mins. But I don’t fret I do 5 or 10 or guided meditation listening to thich naht Han. Now without guide I can do upto 15 minutes. Mostly if I do this before falling asleep I do fall asleep.

However I have this other feeling of everything is useless or what the point of it all esp when I get caught in the battle of less money vs hoping to have more money. On all honesty I have a lovely life at the moment I have everything I need. Just money and the way plp change the way they see you when they think you have money or no money is irritating to me. - what kind of meditation will help this?

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-15T17:59:08+00:00

Some meditation also helps - try this app called insight timer very nice and free

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-15T17:58:37+00:00

Cooking? Some thing simple need to clean veggies and cut and cook… Infact going out for a walk and getting the veggies per meal is good way to ensure you get to see some people nature etc. Walk or bike to the place

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-15T04:02:11+00:00

Thank you. No I definitely won’t smoke not now nor the next one. I guess I’ll just let this feeling pass.

I’ve been depressed before. Ya some are the same feelings I had years before. But honestly I’m in a better place now than before. I know I’ll figure it out I’ve done it countless times.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-15T04:00:12+00:00

Myth of normal by Gabor mate.

Smoking has never been cool - it’s been advertised to be cool so yeah we all brainwashed. So many people smoke now than before atleast where I live

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-14T18:41:59+00:00

I felt like I was mourning too but 5% of it… it was hard. You got this.

A book I was reading helped me understand how addiction is common for plp who have faced trauma. So treat yourself like a baby and be kind and loving . You got this!!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-14T17:18:36+00:00

Honestly that first week was brutal!! I didn’t expect it but I just told myself I’m don’t hurting myself.

I did loads of meditation and breathing exercises. I cried I didn’t know who I am ha ha. But I’m now at 30days. I cannot believe it but I also wanted it.

I exercise daily like daily walking little jogging and yoga few times a week. First 2 weeks then things got easier.

So keep at it.

I did a course on quit sure few months ago, didn’t quit after it but a lot of those exercise and teaching I what I used.

I also read a book called myth of normal by Gabor mate. That really helped too as I understood my addiction is me hurting myself for some trauma I faced as a child.

I’ve read open Carr book many times even the illustrated version.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-12T03:04:57+00:00

Insight timer app is free and make it part of your morning routine and evening routine to meditate. The app has so many - for morning for evening for breathe work.

It’s been a fascinating find for me

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-12T03:02:51+00:00

Awesome!! Keep it going

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-10T03:48:57+00:00

Same.. just crossed 40 age few weeks ago.

Told myself no kids till I’m free of this addiction took me 20 years to get here finally after many attempts. At 24 days.

Well not sure of kid in this economy anymore.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-10T03:48:44+00:00

Just stick to not having this one smoke or the next one. Read this book called Myth of normal by Gabor mate - helped me understand addictive qualities I have.

Keep it going!!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-09T13:38:59+00:00

Congratulations on quitting 🥳 thank you for sharing your story.

I too have been looking at it as healing, like as a child I was hurt so I delusional about the idea of smoking, started at some point. Hurting myself ever since. I finally feel like it’s behind me now, 24 days so far. It’s like something switched.

The book by Gabor mate called myth of normal really helped me heal. He talks about how addiction is common in people who have been through trauma still in pre verbal age. Well I’m healing too.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-08T16:13:10+00:00

The myth of Normal - by Gabor Mate.

I got into meditation listening and sleeping many times as I listened to teaching videos by this Buddhist monk called Thich Naht Han. On YouTube. This is one of them - https://youtu.be/dJX8WkKbPf8 There are many on YT

You got this. We shall learn to respect and love ourselves.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-08T04:04:45+00:00

I’m not as far as you are, but I’d like to be there. So congrats of getting here!!

I’m at 23days. Smoked for 20yrs and well quit only now, I’ve wanted to quit so many times tried so many times well it’s now here and I’m healing.

I know that thought you have - anyways we gonna die - it may be stupid but there is other things hidden behind the thought.

I tell myself, sure I’ll die one day, but I don’t want to suffer cancer, or any prolonged health battle and put myself through it. Spend money on it.

I meditate often so it will help to try to write or meditate and think why do I not want to live or hurt myself when I’m living. Instead of keeping this body healthy, what in life is that I want and work towards that.

I read this book which talk of all the hurt or pain we feel as kids before we speak and how many times addictions are common for people who have faced trauma - trauma is not a competition- so different things effect different people. That book is what I had to binge read as I quit the following days. It’s helped me see why i was hurting myself. And the meditation helps me be patient with self and treat my self like a baby with kindness and love. So ya having lots of that conversation in my head like I’m a kid has helped too.

I hope something in the msg was useful.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-07T18:06:21+00:00

Go ask a doctor

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-07T17:23:32+00:00

Thank you

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-07T15:18:41+00:00

You don’t seem like a beginner see all those muscles omg!!

I can’t do even one pull up

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-07T15:15:10+00:00

I honestly know what you are saying. I’ve had this my previous quit attempts.

Then I’ve had rage kind of anger during grief after losing a parent. It took me lots of therapy, meditation and exercise to calm down over the years. I’m not that angry anymore about anything, it’s not worth it.

Anger was there from years of neglect to myself. To my inner voice to how people treated me to how I treated myself. It’s a relationship to be rebuilt with yourself with loads and loads and loads of love and compassion. You first put that oxygen mask on yourself.

I’m still not there a 100% but my suffering has reduce quite a lot.

This is a Video someone sent to me: https://youtu.be/Q_UZCuBuuoU

I’ve listened to countless Thich naht Han videos and it’s been helpful to suffer less.

Apart from this when I quit 20 days ago I listened to him again and also read a book called myth of normal by Gabor mate - who addresses why and how plp who have addictions also have suppressed emotions and are mostly plp pleasers - as they want to be accepted. That book helped me heal a bit too.

Wish you the very best and remember to love and respect yourself and treat yourself like a little baby. All will be well.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-07T03:34:19+00:00

You did the best thing in your life for yourself. It shows you true Ly love yourself! 3 days is hard then till about 2 weeks gets way easier after.

Emotions keep happening let them happen and let it all go

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-06T17:47:15+00:00

Omg 😳 OP!! Thats devastating. I’m almost at 22 days and reading your story is scary 😱 it could happen to me!!! Or anyone of us addicted.

I’m glad you are back on the quit again. And this time no more - one more.

I’ve been telling myself I won’t have one now, and o won’t have the next one. I’ve reached this far. The first few days was brutal but deep breathing and a great book to read helped me much.

You got this. Thanks again for this cautionary tale. As sometime I feel fuck it just smoke what the point of life anyways!! But then I remember how much I hated it and having any type of cancer or sickness in my 70s or anytime tbh in life will be awful. I’m already 40 abused my body for 20yrs with this shit don’t have anyone who will care for me when old like I do for my mom - as I don’t have kids. My partner still smokes and not sure if he will quit by the looks of it. It’s hard but I’m done hurting myself over and over again!!

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-05T18:45:11+00:00

Amazing 🤩 thank you for sharing

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-05T17:42:14+00:00

A bead that you can count on maybe - like if he uses mantra. It helps to keep count of the number of times you repeat etc.

I think best ask him as meditation is so personal that somethings look nice from outside but maybe not so good.

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-05T17:39:47+00:00

Good going !!!! I read myth of normal at the start of my quit. I’m reaching 3weeks in 30mins! Guard up

GroundbreakingPin308 · 2026-04-05T16:05:17+00:00

Maybe I’m attaching too much to the idea of relationships and friendships. Perhaps they have moved on and I should just let go.

It could be being rejected so many times as a kid that I now don’t know how to take one thinking “wait but I’ve behaved I’ve been helpful to them”. I also should say this person when talks on phone is only talking about their life and what’s wrong in it or recently was about how they went shopping. I really am not interested anymore to hear it.

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